r/polyamoryR4R

Hello users of Reddit!!!

I find myself in need of some new people in my life, and figured I'd give it a shot here! Friends at the very base level, but ideally I'd love to find someone to build something amazing with. Hey, a guy can dream can't he?

Who am I? Well, on the surface, I seem like a normal, New England transplant in Michigan trying to make his way in the world. I won my own car and house, work full time, come home, take care of the kitty. I absolutely LOVE to cook, often times you'll find me tinkering with a new recipe. I love music and moves, bit of a gamer, and definitely a huge nerd. Want a surefire way to my heart? Pick a song out for me, and I'll gladly do the same. I'm also very witchy, have been pagan for a few years now, and would love to connect with someone on that page.

I am divorced from my ex wife of three years, and we have a daughter we share custody of. Currently, I am in a long distance relationship with my soon to be nesting partner.

Deep down however, I crave something more..deep..dark. Tagged NSFW for this reason. I'd love to meet someone in the kink lifestyle. I've been..into this scene for quite sometime, and would love to build upon that with someone. Petplay is a huge thing for me. I love that clingy, obsessive, needy aspect. I also tend to fall into a dd/LG, and caretaker side. I have a kink list a mile wide that I'm happy to discuss in messages, and am very open minded. There is nothing I won't try twice, and even then it's very hard to get me to say no. Again, we can discuss all this in our messages!

I am also open to joining another couple if it's romantic l, and not just sexual. I don't do casual hookups. I am also a switch, but it's very picky who I switch for. A lot of bad experiences.

Hopefully, someone out there feels like me. Don't be shy, reach out, say hi, and tell me your all time favorite movie. The one that no.matter what, you'll always sit and watch. I will not answer without it! Lets me know you read my post Read again!! Low effort messages, and messages without reading all the way through won't be answered!

P.S..tagged online, but I'm very open, and honestly hoping I find someone close. If this progresses into something, I'd like to be able to see the person.

P.PS. I hate that I have to include this, but if you're not feeling it, or something comes up, please communicate, don't just ghost. This also goes for when we swap pictures. Looks are the last thing I look for, but I understand that to some people, looks take first priority.

I have been informed that the best way to meet people is to leave my house.

I’m trying this first.

I’m a plus-size woman who has been told she is very much like Robin from Stranger things (love the show) with a weakness for bookstores, thrift shops, witchy stores, craft aisles, and anything that feeds a new hyper-fixation. My house is slowly being overtaken by items for my junk journal, tarot decks, books, and tiny treasures that absolutely did not need to come home with me… but here we are.

I’m equal parts homebody and “let’s go wander somewhere for no reason.” I love concerts (my last one was electric callboy and it was life changing, my next one is wind walkers in October) movies, Renaissance Faires (yes I dress up duh), and finding weird little places that make great stories later.

Personality-wise, I’m sarcastic, affectionate once I’m comfortable, and the kind of person who will remember your favorite snack and send you memes that made me think of you.

The biggest green flag? Someone who can make me laugh until I snort. Bonus points if you can flirt without making it weird.

If this somehow turns into us relentlessly teasing each other, sending each other random pictures throughout the day, and arguing over which Fallout companion is objectively the best… I certainly wouldn’t complain.

TL;DR - AuDHD, witchy, nerdy afab enby seeks deep conversations and genuine connections with similar folks 😄

Hey, thanks for clicking on this post. I hope your weekend wasn't too stressful.

I'm here searching for a connection (or connections?) with folks who have a similar vibe, I guess. What's the vibe you ask? Well, I'm a bit of a homebody but I'm working on fixing that. My friends would describe me as funny, kind to a fault, and a bit of a stoner I guess. I'm gainfully employed but outside of work I enjoy things like gaming, reading, hiking, crafts, and chatting. I'm unapologetically pretty queer (afab enby) and liberal in my ideals and values.

I'm also spiritual in a witchy way, I love nature and pretty rocks and full moons. Not in a way that I don't believe in science, but in a way that I think both can exist at the same time 😄 Let me read your cards and then rant to you about how capitalism is destroying our ecosystem.

Who are you, potentially? Someone who has passion for *something* you know? I love an autistic rant about your niche interest, and I would love to yap back at you about my own stuff. Maybe you have a deep appreciation of nature, literature, insects, Star Wars, etc. I want to learn about it and watch my FYP slowly start to feed me content that you enjoy, too.

What I really value the most in connections with new people is consistency and good meaningful conversations. I don't mean we have to text all day every day, but some kind of reliability is nice. I also really really enjoy long-form messages (and short ones are good too!) but I like the thought and intention put into something longer.

Let's send each other little things that remind us of the other person throughout the day. Let's discuss politics and philosophy and the general state of the world. Maybe we agree, maybe we don't, but let's talk about it anyway.

This is getting long, and it's definitely rambly, so I'll just stop here. If any of this sounds appealing to you, reach out. But please say something more meaningful than just hey. We can potentially move conversations off of Reddit and to Discord once we've decided that makes sense for us.

Hi lovelies,
Hi! I’m T. I’ve heard the people over here actually know how to hold a conversation, so I’m giving this sub a shot. 😊

About Me:
- 31F , 5’11, Curvy. Photos are on my profile if you’re curious 😊
- Partnered X1 and Dating Separately
- Living in Western Maryland, 1.5 hours from DC & Baltimore
- Mom to three awesome little boys (all 5 and under) and a few pets.
- Have been polyam for 5.5 years
- Virgo, INTJ
- Curious, intellectually driven, emotionally aware and a little sassy.
- Project Manager in Environmental Social Justice. I genuinely love what I do. ✊🏽
- Medical marijuana card holder
- Enjoys photography, playing video games, podcasts, watching anime, reality tv and horror movies, going to museums, art galleries and comedy shows, big time foodie 🤤
- Kink-friendly. Recently exploring my more submissive side. Enjoy rope, sensory play and visiting local playhouses.

Looking for:
Long-term romantic connection
Playful banter and genuine curiosity
Someone emotionally available
Takes initiative and communicates consistently
Taller than me (the struggle is real 😂)
Kink-positive is a plus

*While I prefer local (within 1.5 hours, I’m open to longer distance if there is a strong connection and availability*

If any of this has you curious about more, send me a DM and introduce yourself… I’m a sucker for thoughtful questions and conversations 😘

Hi, I'm Betty. Writing this myself, in my own words, because I know how posts like this can read — so let me be direct about my situation first and let you decide if you want to keep reading.

- I'm 31, and I'm in a committed, happy relationship with my partner Mac. We're exploring polyamory together, and I'm specifically hoping to connect with a woman. This isn't him shopping with my account — the connection would be mine first, and anything beyond that only grows if it grows naturally for everyone.

- What I'm looking for: a genuine relationship, not a hookup and not a "third" to slot into someone else's life. Friendship first. Chemistry can't be forced and I'm not trying to force it.

- About me: I live in Lakeland with Mac and our three dogs, who are absolutely part of the package. I run businesses alongside him, so my days are full but my evenings are mine.

- Faith matters in our home. You don't have to share it, but you should be comfortable around it.

- Honesty over polish: I'd rather tell you something true and slightly awkward than something smooth and empty. If you're the same way, we'll probably get along.

- Logistics: Central Florida strongly preferred — I want something that can exist in person, not just in a chat window.

If any of this lands, message me. Tell me something real about yourself — doesn't need to be impressive, just needs to be yours.

-age 43

-I’m keeping my options open as far as polyamory versus a single relationship. So I’m posting in both.

-Natural chemistry is very important to me. That is going to play a big part in whether I want a relationship with a person. Items on a list only do so much for me, but maybe that is true for everyone.

-I’m a Taurus zodiac Sun sign (I like & place some degree of importance into birth charts- not the daily horoscopes)

-I am a spiritual person, which I realize means different things to different people.

-I’m single (no partners) and have never been married.

-I have no kids. Never found anyone to have kids with, then found out about fertility issues last fall.

-My body is not curvy, and I’m only average looking. And as you know, aging women show more aging and that will only get worse, not better. I don’t have money for all the expensive treatments women get these days. I’m not saying some of you may not find me attractive. Some will find me attractive “enough” and some won’t. Likewise, I’ve got to have sufficient physical attraction to you too for bedroom activity, so it understandably goes both ways. But I do consider myself to be average.

-I’m not nerdy, geeky, a gamer, or a true intellectual. I’m sorry to disappoint since I see so many seeking those aspects in their posts.

-I’m laid back/relaxed/chilled out in my demeanor and persona, but I do experience anxiety and worry.

-I never smoke anything and I occasionally drink.

-If you are drawn to a person who is frequent high energy, bubbly, talkative, has to constantly be active and productive, while I respect those qualities, that isn’t me.

-I am responsible though, and I do like to take on challenges that will facilitate growth for myself.

-I chose to do work for a living that is about significant purpose and designed to foster meaningful and important growth for struggling people, so I don’t make a lot of money.

-I love to travel, but that is usually limited for me due to the point above.

-I’m contemplative, analytical, interested in the “why’s and how’s”, mix of introvert and extrovert, intuitive, simple yet complicated, accommodating, interested in recognizing and supporting the feelings and well being of others. I need realistic hope and future options in life about things to look forward to in order to feel positive enough about life. I am careful and extra thoughtful about larger purchases. I expect myself to be perfect and understanding of all information at hand in whatever I take on - not a good thing all the time, am working on trying to accept that I don’t have to be perfect or perfectly thorough to get something accomplished to a reasonably sufficient degree.

-I have an overwhelmingly strong desire to have an important spiritual purpose for being on this planet, and I also really want to matter to at least a few people. Even though I know that the premise of poly is that no one person is any more important than any other people, I don’t want to be in a situation where I either don’t understand specifically what I’m bringing to the table, or in a situation where I’m only bringing limited and superficial things compared to other women in the dynamic. I don’t want to feel or be used. I know everyone is replaceable in their jobs. I’m hoping I can find a partner who doesn’t view me as being replaceable and interchangeable in the way that people are in jobs.

-I am a pretty straight forward person and have a strong need to know where I stand with people I care about.

-I don’t have a lot of well developed hobbies, so I apologize if you are looking for that. I do like adventure here and there when able.

-Activities I’ve tried that I enjoy- hiking, kayaking, flea markets and antiquing, card games, movies of course, traveling as previously stated, snorkeling, swimming, volunteering.

-Activities I’ve tried that I either didn’t like or could take or leave it- fishing, drawing, painting, sewing, writing poetry or fiction, gaming.

-Activities I haven’t tried but I want to try soon- how to do a variety of home improvement projects in my house, branching out into listening to more podcasts/youtubers. I only watch a few lately.

-It is important to me that you are reasonably intelligent, take care of yourself to a reasonable degree, not a promiscuous person, are empathetic, are not particularly superficial, are not selfish in the bedroom, make wise and fair decisions in life, are ethical, are emotionally stable and fairly emotionally consistent, are not a secretive person by nature (meaning you aren’t the type who lies to people or has a strong need to lie to have your cake and eat it too), are not lazy, and are not bad with your finances.

-If you primarily like horror movies, that won’t work for me.

-If you haven’t figured out how to overcome ED, that won’t work for me either.

-I will require honesty about STD’s and test results of we get to that point.

Hello everyone, I am a trans bunny girl from New York who is looking for a caring couple who are interested in potentially adding a third to their dynamic. I love praise and am super respectful of boundaries. Looking for guidance and love from a cute couple. Feel free to shoot me a dm and introduce yourself 💕

okay hear me out on this one. or don’t it’s whatever.

i work full time, and im often busy on the weekends, and i travel. it’s just how it is. i’m wondering if out there there’s any like online/discord polycule i can just hang out with occasionally. sorta just drop in when i have the time but are also okay if some days im just not really online?

ik it may sound odd but i like the idea of being a part of a small closed community that i can just pop in and out of freely and feel welcomed back without having to feel the pressure of being on all the time. heather im a full member of the cule or just a side character who’s also there idc. if your polycule is interested please PM me and perhaps we vibe.

open to most age groups, all genders. feel free to ask questions

edit: thought i’d add to this. i’d still be willing to show up for scheduled stuff. like game night or whatever. i’m good and reliable for scheduled stuff i just can’t guarantee im online much day to day

edit 2: please don’t message me for your fetish stuff. i can’t believe i have to say this, didn’t think i was giving off that vibe here. but im not here to fulfill your trans fetish. i’m not looking for a purely sexual relationship thanks.

Hey everyone! Hoping you're staying cool in all this heat.

As the title says, im a nerdy guy hoping to make a connection. I am married, though we date separately.

My nerdiness is generally present in my love for learning as much as I can about history and culture and how the symbiosis between the two. That and comic books. I've been collecting for about 20 years.

I also enjoy antiquing, taking drives to nowhere and discovering new places, playing video games, listening to audiobooks, and writing.

As for looks, I have brown hair, blue eyes with glasses, and a beard. I'm 5'11 and a bit on the larger side.

If I sound like someone you'd enjoy getting to know, hit me up!​

im bi and looking for a couple to share my life with! I'm single right now, I'm jewish, and I'm pretty curvy.

I love Disneyland, reading, and traveling - planning my next trip! id like to think I'm funny and cute and hope you are too.

I would love to settle down with a couple and have a family.

Sub looking for a daddy

into ethical kink and the bdsm lifestyle

message me If ur a couple looking for something similar and tell me a little about you

Hi! Im looking for long term connections. I am looking to find my community and relationships. I have a hard time finding other poly people in my small town.

About me:

I'm 33 and a teacher who loves helping others learn and grow. When I'm not working, you'll usually find me with a book in hand, cross-stitching, tending to my garden, or spending time with my dog or chickens.

I'm excited to meet like minded people who value authenticity and are open to seeing where a connection can naturally lead.

Power and affection don't have to exist on opposite ends of the spectrum.

I'm a naturally dominant woman who believes the strongest dynamics are built on communication, consistency, and mutual respect. While I enjoy taking the lead, I also value genuine conversations, emotional intelligence, and getting to know the person behind the screen.

I'm polyamorous by mindset and appreciate relationships that are honest, intentional, and free from unnecessary games. I have no interest in controlling someone's entire life, I value autonomy, healthy boundaries, and enthusiastic consent. What I enjoy is creating a space where trust grows naturally, roles become meaningful, and both people feel seen and appreciated.

I'm drawn to people who are emotionally mature, self-aware, and capable of communicating openly. Whether you're experienced or simply curious about a D/s dynamic, what matters most is sincerity, patience, and a willingness to build something authentic instead of rushing into labels.

If you're someone who believes that submission is about trust rather than weakness, and that dominance is about responsibility rather than ego, we'll probably have plenty to talk about.

Tell me about your experience with polyamory, what you're hoping to build, and what a healthy dynamic looks like to you. Thoughtful introductions will always catch my attention more than a simple "hi."

Let's create a connection that's built on honesty, respect, and chemistry, whatever shape that eventually takes.

Who am I looking for? The light of my life. My lover, my partner in kink, my muse, the reason my world goes around, my primary partner. I'm looking for the woman I feel and smell next to me every morning, even before I open my eyes and smile to myself. The woman in whose eyes I see love for me, and the conviction to be happy and bring me joy. Someone as comfortable being queen/princess(choose your title of choice) of my life as she is being my submissive. Someone who allows me to earn their submission, but someone strong enough to helm the ship when the captain is down, so to speak.

Who am I? I'm male, 36. Kinky and polyamorous.

What gets you bonus points? (If you match even one, I probably really really really like you)

Be a bookworm. Be someone I can read my favorite books with/to (I do voices) or read your favorite to me.

Be someone who is looking for their polyamorous primary partner. Someone who will develop a relationship with people who I love and (maybe) come to love them too.

Be kinky.

What's my stand on mental health?

This is important. I used to eagerly court the idea of death when I was 16. Since then, I've learnt to appreciate every day I'm alive. I've fought with depression and won. Probably not the last time, but I'll keep winning. Bottom-line: your mental health is important to me. It's hard to survive present circumstances without having a mental scar or two. Don't hide your scars. You'll have your chosen family to help you fight your demons. The fight is always easier with more people to have your back.

So, Do you have to be polyamorous?

Not necessarily. As long as you are okay with me being so. I just need you to know that I'm not one of those guys that claims to be poly but freaks out when you talk about seeing someone else. I'm not that guy. Yes I'm looking for someone who wants me to be their primary partner. I want my home to be built around us. I want to be the one you wake up next to. But yes, by all means, if another person loves you, brings you happiness and respects your relationship with me at the same time, be my guest! On the other hand, if you feel content being with just one partner, that's your decision. I respect it.

Too Kinky? Not possible. I'm filthy, perverted, depraved even. Bring on your deep dark secrets and we'll see if we can make each other's fantasies come to life.

Too vanilla? Nah. That's the beauty of poly. You don't need to fit the cookie cutter Santa Claus shape I dreamt up all by myself. You can be Santa's beard while someone else gets to be his hat. All together, Santa comes home and we have a lovely holiday. Everyone connects differently. I just want to be connected to you in enough ways that I ache for your presence next to me every minute of my life.

What kind of a person am I? What kind of things make me tick?

Saying I'm a bookworm would be an insult. Book dragon is more like it. I am an amateur Salsa dancer. I WILL want to dance with you when the mood strikes. You're welcome to tread on my toes as much as you want, just let me hold you in my arms and sway with you to sweet sweet music. I'm nitpicky about commitments, no matter how small. If I commit to doing something, I WILL see the commitment through. Casually ignoring small commitments bother me a lot. I don't do racism, bigotry...you get the idea. Nope, No can do. I'm not the person for you. I have a Masters in how to save the planet. Ask me about it.

Kinks? Talk to me and I'll share my dreams. There are better shared in intimate knowledge of each other.

If you haven't run off already, then you probably have the patience I'm looking for in a partner. Let's begin a conversation and see if we fit. I look forward to hearing from you. I'd appreciate the you returning in kind, the effort I put into composing this message.

P.S.: if we end up talking to each other on the 4th of July, Its my birthday! :D

Hello all, I’m V, a 28m looking for poly friends that I can genuinely connect with. I’m married, demisexual, introverted, and I love trying new things.
I enjoy playing video games across a wide variety of genres, going to concerts, diving into new shows, and film photography.
I’m not the best at talking about myself, but I hope to connect with some genuine people

Hi there,

I’m a Singaporean Chinese female in my 30s, single, never married, dated once. Life has been good in many ways, but I’ve come to appreciate that the best experiences are often the ones shared with someone who genuinely cares about you.

I’m hoping to meet someone who values meaningful conversations, mutual respect, and the simple joys of everyday life. Someone to share small wins with, laugh about random things, explore new places, enjoy good food, and create memories together.

I believe companionship isn’t about grand gestures all the time. It’s about having someone who adds value to your life, and knowing that you do the same for theirs. Being each other’s safe space, supporter, and favourite person to message at the end of the day.

Effective communication is non negotiable. I would prefer to avoid an avoidance attachment. Looking for relationship with DDlg arrangement.

hii my names trysten and im looking for a dom/sub relationship! are you a naturally nurturing person but you love to lead? do you love to be playful and think humor is the best medicine? this might be a great deal for you!

about me: i have a nesting partner. i’m very short and plus sized,i’m alternative (dyed hair, tattoos and piercings), queer and neurodivergent. i love being creative and i have many creative outlets. i am a little and a pet! i have a strong personality so maybe alittle bit of a brat? id like to leave kinks for when we get a more comfortable with each other! but i will warn they are more on the extreme side.

about you: 19-35, funny/silly, preferably not straight, florida would be cool but if not it needs to be very very likely for us to see each other periodically! experienced dominant or willing to learn, interested in a 24/7 dynamic more or less. open to alternative relationship styles, can talk fairly often, cares about the emotional/romantic side of things MORE than the nsfw stuff. 

if you’re interested please send me an intro and a selfie(when accepted) i can’t wait to meet you!! 

p.s. if you messaged me before and i missed it, try again!

Hi there! I’m a 45 married female, neurospicy, a bit gender fluid, and looking for a connection. My NP and I date separately. I have 2 teens, a handful of pets, and live with them in Colorado. I am open to local or long distance…bonus if there are direct flights between you and Denver. If long distance, be prepared that it will likely take more work and communication on the front end in order to establish rapport and trust, as well as directness about what we are both looking for and able to offer.

I’m an INFJ and am a mix of silly and intense. I value kindness and empathy. While I can and do find joy in the everyday experience of being alive, I’m also fully aware of what a cruel and unfair place this world can sometimes be. I’m politically pretty far left and believe that the ultimate indicator of a healthy society would be that the most vulnerable and marginalized people would be taken care of and valued. I love coffee, music, deep conversations, and nature.

I relate best to people who think often about life, meaning, and the human experience and who would enjoy talking about those things over a cup of coffee or on a long walk in the woods. You can be an idealist or a cynic. You can be trying to construct meaning, working to change the world a bit while you are here, or embracing the absurdity of it all. Whatever the case, what matters to me is that you choose it and aren’t just a cog in the wheel who is unaware that they are cog in the wheel. I also value people who can discuss various viewpoints and are open to changing their minds sometimes.

I’m very tall, have a thinner build, brown hair, and dark eyes. I’m pansexual and demisexual and value an intellectual and emotional connection over physical appearance, but I am often more quickly attracted to people who are tall and a bit lanky. I am kinky but don’t necessarily need that in a relationship, though you being a D type would be a bonus. I will send SFW pics once we’ve established that we are on the same page and have established a level of trust and connection. If you reach out, please include some information about yourself, what you are looking for specifically, and why we might have the potential to be a good match.

Hello im looking to meet some poly people to become friends with and whatever happens from there is whatever! I love animals and have a mini zoo basically with lots of furry little companions that keep life interesting 🐾✨
I love fashion and expressing myself through clothes and makeup 💕 I adore whimsical things and anything that feels magical or cozy 🌙🍄🦋 I spend way too much time thrifting and treasure hunting for unique finds 🛍️🌿
I also love nature and being outside when I can 🌲☀️ Creating art is a huge passion of mine and I enjoy anything creative or expressive 🎨💫
I would love to meet other poly people to chat with and build genuine connections with whether that ends up being friendship or something more down the road 😊

Hey 👋

Thought I'd give this a go.

I'm 32, Non Binary from the UK.

They/Them pronouns.

Looking for something long term. Sorry straight guys and gals I'm not looking for you! Also I would like to talk to people who are from 28 to 39 please. I like people who are also LGBTQ+.

I'm poly and I'm in a open domestic partnership.

Looking for cool nerdy types to chat to and eventually meet up with if the vibe is right.

Things I'm into but not exclusively:

☆Anime

☆Books

☆ Video games - I play on PC

☆ Art

☆ History

☆ Sci-fi

☆ Films

☆ Museums

☆ Arcades

☆ Writing

☆ Anything remotely nerdy.

Please ask to Dm and answer this question:

Who is on your Pokémon team?

Or

If you could transported into a video game, which one and why?

Or

Who was your first fictional crush?

Please keep things SFW

Thanks 🌈 😎