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Hey, thank you for checking out my post ^^

I want to approach posting on here a bit differently. I'm a 27F shy and introverted sub who prefers staying at home a lot. I get overwhelmed by crowds and cacophony very easily. Dates for me require some creative thinking, with easier go-tos being anything involving nature but more advanced levels being planetariums, telescope nights, museums. I'm an anxious creature and I know it can be a bit annoying to deal with at time but I appreciate people who are considerate. 

However, I'm very happy with online and long-distance relationships to start off with. I prefer understanding someone's thoughts, perspective, and their background intimately before I begin to pursue anything physical. Very demisexual in that sense, I suppose. With that being said, I'm generally very reserved for someone who is polyamorous and I choose who I date very carefully. I doubt I have the energy to balance more than 2 people in my life. 

Also, I have a big thing for dark romance, kink, and someone being a bit obsessive. I have been told I come off cold, which is partially due to some of my background, but I do soften up over time and get too attached for my own good with the right personality from someone I meet. 

As for hobbies, I love to play video games bake, cook, wood whittle, make crudely drawn digital art, pursue amateur photography, and I often start projects that may be over my head but I try my best anyway! Right now I'm attempting to start a jumping spider breeding and selling business. I've made a Next.js website and I'm learning business basics before the spiders are ready to be sold :) If you really wanna impress me, you can try playing a silly dinosaur game I play that I have way too many hours on

My previous career experience was in academic research and I was pursuing a PhD for 5 years until I left due to health concerns. In the last few months, I was diagnosed with thyroid cancer, but I've undergone treatment and I wouldn't be posting here if I wasn't almost absolutely sure I was in the okay.

I have a partner I've been with for 8 years and we are ENM, date separately. My ideal future living situation would be kitchen-table polyamory where I live with my partners and their partners. I look forward to big dinners and board game nights. Feel free to message me if this piques your interest, but be warned I will eventually want to move to Discord or texting♥︎

Hi, again, Im Vee. I'm 36 next month, and live in Indy. I'm going to try keeping this short this time. Eventually I'll find the formula to meet someone I mesh with.

Partnered for 13 years, and we date separate. Everything is about being ethical and respectful. When I'm with someone, it's me and that person, which is important to me.

I have stupid tattoos I did as a teenager, I love stuffed animals (stuffies), and adore Daddy types. Feel free to see my post history for a bit more on that (plus a body picture). Sometimes I use too many emojis and it is probably annoying.

I love reptiles, bugs and spiders, horror, and nerds. I have 1200 hours in Stardew Valley, and about the same between Dinkum, Raft, and a few simulators. I spend a lot of time watching streams and learning things through reading.

If you message please let me know where you're from, where you are, and how old you are. Give me some effort. Heavy preference for men in their 30s.

And it shouldn't need to be said, but absolutely no conservatives, cops, terfs, homophobes, etc etc. I'm lefter than left. I also live sober. You do you, but those with heavy addictions to substances won't work well for me.

Let me watch you play a game while we giggle about silly stuff.

Does anyone else have a problem with connecting with others in the local polyamorous community. Being the thoughtful generous person that I am I know people have their own lives and life to navigate but it just seems dead out there. It has been a pattern surfaced talk no substance. Once you ask questions then it’s silence or if you are quick to be vulnerable people dip out with no explanation of why they disappeared. I understand that it could be me but I’m just wondering if anyone else has had the same luck

Hey there! I'm looking to connect with and spoil a beautiful woman. In my spare time I love to go on dates, read, write to pen pals, paper craft, garden, do pyxl art, and go for walks. I'm friendly and outgoing, so shoot me a DM!

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Im mostly looking for an online friend to help balance out a busy work life. I love my career, but it doesn't leave much room for a social life, and it can get a little lonely between shifts. I’m looking for a real connection—someone to exchange jokes with, chat about our days, and generally just pass the time.

A bit about me:

Married, poly and pansexual. Romance is not my goal but I will flirt with you inappropriately

I’ve got a pretty silly sense of humor. I will "yes and" all your jokes and overuse gifs and emojis.

I’m very open-minded and easygoing. I'm not easily offended and I respect boundaries and pronouns. But you have to communicate them first. Light autism. Tendency to cope with trauma via horrible jokes. I listen and don't judge and appreciate the same energy.

Huge fan of sci-fi and fantasy books. I’m also a big gamer and a total horror movie junkie. If you want to debate lore or recommend a movie that’ll actually scare me, I’m your person.

 I love being active, though I’d much rather do sports than watch them. I’m in the gym most days weight training, running, or rollerskating. Basically, if it gets my heart rate up, I’m into it.

I’m "sort of" good at trivia, which usually means I know a lot of useless facts that are perfect for winning pub quizzes (or at least sounding smart).

What I’m looking for:

Just a consistent online chat buddy! I’m looking for someone who is down for lighthearted banter, sharing memes, or geeking out over anything.

If you think we’d click, shoot me a message with your favorite horror movie or the last book you couldn’t put down!

Hello! I'd love to meet someone I can connect with. I have a partner who Iive with, and I have time to potentially have another partner. Long distance is fine but local is great. Some days I can text pretty consistently, other days work takes over (but it's summer now, yay!). That said, I'm looking for someone who wants a long term connection and not just a few days of chatting.

I am a music teacher. I have kids and cats and hobbies. We'll have plenty to talk about! I also sometimes want someone to call up and talk to while I'm driving. It's always nice to connect that way.

In my free time sometimes I find a video game to play, go to the park, work out, go to the movies, or watch tv. I love learning different perspectives and hearing about your hobbies! Compatibility isn't just about thinking the same way. I'm a huge nerd, if that wasn't clear, so I'm down to talk about most things nerdy.

For career reasons, I might be moving soon. Right now I'm in central Texas and I'm trying to find work in this area first.

My DMs are open. 🙂 I'm open to starting out as friends and seeing how things go from there - though to be clear, I am looking for a relationship or close friendship with a physical element - not just a penpal. If that's not what you're interested in or ready for, I might not be the person for you. We would need to be physically compatible, so we can share pictures as well. Ask me anything you want and I'll do my best to sate your curiosity.

My gf is more of a talkative ones and is straight but doesn’t mind me having relationships outside and prefers to be a Voyer for starters any age or body type is welcome just be open and kind to us and we will definitely reciprocate, and once again please be open about your intentions

helloooo my names Trysten and i’m looking for a dom/sub dynamic

i am a little and a pet! tho, unfortunately i haven’t been in a real dynamic in quite some time so i might be a little rusty and would love guidance and support on exploring that side of me again!

about me: i have a nesting partner, i’m very short and definitely plus sized, im queer and alternative (dyed hair, tattoos and piercings). i love being creative and i have many creative outlets. i have a strong personality but im not necessarily a brat i don’t think? id like to leave kinks for when we get a bit comfortable with each other! but i will warn they are more on the extreme side.

about you: 20-35, funny/silly, florida is definitely preferred but not required, experienced dominant, interested in a 24/7 dynamic more or less. open to alternative relationship styles, can talk fairly often/likes voice memos, cares about the emotional side of things more then the nsfw stuff.

if you’re interested please send me an intro and a selfie(when accepted) i can’t wait to meet you!!

Yeah, I should also address that before wasting your time reading this post. I'm looking for someone that is into Lovecraft horror. Must enjoy cutesy things amongst the Lovecraftian horror.

And yeah, if you dislike Sleep Token and you think this band sucks then you're automatically disqualified 😂

And yeah, I should also address if you want to comment and tell me this post is too long, I'm not reading this post, that's okay because I don't read comments anyways 😂

Yeah, I should address that I'd only ✅ my notification chat req inbox instead and I've seen Redditors post a similar or longer post than mine because SOME Redditors don't want to appear this.

Granite personality.

However, if you're wondering where I'm from the states I'm only going to say I'm from central time and I'd also have separation anxiety as well.

However, I should address that there are some nights where my anxiety can keep me up at odd hours and this is why I said dating international wouldn't be a waste of your time because of this if you were interested in me as well.

Yeah, I should also address that I'm single, not partnered because my first poly partner broke up with me two weeks ago and I'm casting my 🪣 offerings for Dagon for any 🎣

And yeah, I should also address that I'm looking for intellectual, witty, banter, emotional availability connections as well.

Yeah, I should also address that 'm not looking for someone that has the traits.

No dry wall personality similar to wall plaster, mono text messages that have no depth or body to the messages, I'm a depressed person and also autistic that means I need someone that has life to them alongside with not being dry as 🦴

Many of my past partners, treated me as a ''collectors piece and a collectors item.''

However, I should address that I was/were never seen as a person and I'm highly uncomfortable in a kinky relationship or an oversexual relationship.

Yeah, I should also address that I enjoy airy, sfw and witty flirting.

And yeah, I should also address that I'm 💯 wanting to be a online girlfriend with my partners alongside with I'm not looking to meet in person for these reasons.

Yeah, that's because without getting into much detail I live on government funding programs if that bothers you if you're looking for someone with a "nice." financial status and I plan on moving in my own government funded hud apartment in early 2027.

And the reason why yeah, that I've to wait that long is because I'm on a waiting list. There are no other HUD apartments in my area that aren't ghetto and accepts pets.

However, I should also address tha I'd know my chat req is off because I plan to take a break from Reddit this week and I've left my social handles on my main bio.

Yeah, the only thing I would/were ask of you is if you could not send me a low chat req that's just because I don't answer to these things here.

Low effort chat req and I'd only respond to high chat req qualities for Redditors that will not make type out their hobbies and interest for them because that's not me as a person.

Yeah, that's also something you should be able to do yourself anyways 🤡

Here are my small interests and hobbies.

Yeah, I'd understand that my hobbies and interests don't feel similar, that I just don't enjoy having a lot of hobbies and the truth of it all is I'm a simple girl for these reasons.

Yeah, I just don't want to have an overstock of hobbies that will become too overwhelming because I'd enjoy things that are simple and routine based.

Here are my other interests and hobbies.

Yeah, recently this month I got into YT cosmic horror podcast, stumbled on Horror Babble and I'd wonder if there are hardcore cosmic horror podcast goers who can show me where I should go nex as well.

And yeah, I should also address if my new serial send friendship can show me who I should listen to next and what stories I should pick up?

Yeah, just let me know where to go because I found Horror Babble VERY recently as well.

And yeah I should also address, I'd wish that Redditors would've seen my Steadfast Dwarven Spider uplift itself from a shout from a Deathlord, that was/were the most funniest thing I've seen this whole month currently 💀

However, just camera angle alongside with the dragon shout just was/were 🤣

Yeah, the camera angle you could hilarious see the 8 legs just lifted off the tomb ruins and just went flying FAR back 🤣

However, those Steadfast Dwarven spiders are well-built. I couldn't believe the spider was/were still alive after how far the spider got uplifted and went flying far back from the Deathlord shout far back.

Greek literature, I need to catch up on this though, Lovecraft stories (fascinating, just not the person.) Japanese Yokai lore, new technologies that are out, Skyrim is what I play every single day, if I'm not on YT or listening to music, occasionally everyday or every other day or two I get on Mario Kart 8 and on occasion Splatoon 3.

Yeah, this is just what interests me single day of the week, nothing changes and this is why asking me what's up will get VERY boring every single day.

Big Macs (no lettuce, no pickles and light Big Mac sauce.) Mcdonald's hot chocolate is amazing in flavor and 10 grams of protein for a small is awesome/kool.

Sea salt caramel.

Sugary or caramel perfume because you know that Sleep Token song huh?

Perfume that smells you walked out a forest because you know you got to remember the House of Veridian in the woods of Arcadia.

If you're also alternative, love deathcore, rock music, djent, different types of core and metal music and then just send me a chat req 🌸

Sleep Token is fusion music, that's what genre that I give Sleep Token as well 🦩

The standard Paradiddle 👑 II 🩷

Music.

Erra, Wage War, I See Stars, Currents, I'd enjoy a variety of metal genres/that even includes old-skool black metal and doom metal as well.

And yeah, just the style of old-skool-black metal bands that I'd enjoy are the 90s era of old-skool-black metal as well.

Lorna Shore (Will Ramos era only.)

How often do I go outside?

However, I should address that I'm not a people person and I'd only go out once or twice a week because I don't enjoy going out.

Yeah, just for me though I would rather be a metaphorical term of a Lovecraft unsocial hide away rathan me going out every single day to be around as well.

Highly disinterest me, maybe my Past Self would and it's just not for me anymore. Gave all away my blessings you know, put down my roses and picked up as well ⚔️

And yeah Lovecraft, I'd enjoy his books and just not the person that he is. Dagon and Mountain of Madness are my favorite as well 💯

Hello hello 👋🏻👋🏻 Hope everyone is doing well today(: Haven't posted one of these in what feels like a long while (state of the world and all) but here goes nothing 🤷🏻‍♂️

32M here, partnered to My anchor, and I have one other partner I see frequently, always on the lookout for new friends, new connections, new experiences(: any gender expression, any sexual orientation, I am open to just about anything, I am generally pretty fluid myself, pansexual, switch, pretty sexual myself and pretty open, but that doesn't mean you have to be, it doesn't make or break relationships for me(:

A few things about me:

• I cannot drive, nor will I be able to at any time legally (I can delve into that if curious) but I do love to travel and have made it work in my 32 years of existence 😅

• Nerdy AuDHD, love my Games, video or board, History Buff, Sci-Fi/Fantasy lover.

• Travel enthusiast, love to travel, planning trips, I've been lucky enough to get to travel a bit in my life, and I don't plan on stopping any time soon 💜

• I love to cook(: always have, been cooking since I was practically a baby 😅

• As much as I love a nice day in, some cuddles, a movie, a favorite TV show. I do love going for hikes, or walks, and just generally being outside, be it the beach, a park, just laying in the grass 🤷🏻‍♂️

Feel free to reach out(: looking forward to hearing from you 💜 if there's more you'd like to know about me, before reaching out cuz shy, trust me I get that 😅 I do have pins on my page (but be warned NSFW ahead).

Hi there, I'm Natasha, I'm 32, with one current partner that I don't live with. I'm really lonely in my day to day life, with a lot of free time.

I am looking to join a polycule and/or find my found family. I have a physical disability but I'm mostly independent, I do walking sticks and am on the ndis; but can manage lots myself.

I really miss long lasting connections and to feel accepted for who I am. My hobbies include reading; foodie stuff, mobile games, comics, TV and movies and all kinds of events.

I'm interested in human psychology with my undergraduate being in psychology, especially criminal psychology and parapsychology. Other topics I'm interested in include cults, cats, mysteries, science fiction, and travel.

Some of my favourite tv shows include Bones, Criminal minds, supernatural, south park; and more. I like jazz and rock music.

I am only looking for local connections, ie same state and country. I've been told I'm quite conventionally attractive, but I don't see it. No one over 42 please. so I've known you've read everything tell me what your favourite kind of food is.

I hope I can find my people. Please do not send me a chat if you are not in Australia, I am looking for people close by

Edit : Okay, seriously I have had two chat requests in the last 2 minutes from the other side of the world. Please respect I'm looking for LOCAL people. I have no interest in virtual pen pals

Edit 2 : No I will not educate you on polyamory or the like. Looking for people who are already practising not "interested" in or even unsure what it is 🤦‍♀️low effort chats such as hey and nothing else will be ignored

I am a young looking and acting 52 year old living in the Phoenix area, Arizona, USA. I have over 20 years of poly experience in all kinds of situations. I am honest, ethical, have great communication skills, and a deep capacity for love and connection on both a physical and emotional level. I am looking for the same. I will make time and space for you in my life and heart, hopefully long-term, if you will do the same. *You must have room and time for an actual relationship.* I am not about casual hookups, or casual relationships in general. I am very demisexual and demiromantic. I am very playful and passionate but only once trust and a relationship has been been established.

I have one partner (trans masc) with whom I am on track to be a nesting partner with time. He is asexual, and fully supportive of my poly relationships. I am a straight cis female. I do parallel poly, but am open and would love to have partners meet and greet at least once with time. I enjoy camping, road trips, coffee dates, easy hikes, and deep conversation. I am in it for the whole relationship, but the physical connection is part of this.

Open to dating trans but we'd have to talk about specifics. LDR if we talk about what this looks like. Messages are open if the conversation can be respectful.

Dealbreakers-- being flaky/ non-committal, or using mind-altering substances including cannabis, poor hygiene, dishonesty.

Hey! I’m Moon, 35, a Middle/Brat, and currently living in the Pittsburgh area with my vanilla partner (we’re poly) and our 5 cats and dog. 😊

Right now, I’d really love to find more like-minded friends in the community — especially people who enjoy genuine connection and fun, low-pressure hangouts. I’d love someone who would want to go on walks, visit the zoo, explore local events, or just spend time together doing cozy/fun activities.

It would be especially nice to meet others in the DD/LG community, but honestly anyone is welcome to reach out!

A few important things:

I’m currently not looking for anything sexual. I prefer to actually get to know people first and build comfort, trust, and friendship naturally before anything else would ever happen.

Things I enjoy:

🖤 Animals

🖤 Walks & hiking

🖤 Horror movies

🖤 Reading

🖤 Music

🖤 Naps & cuddles

🖤 Cute/cozy vibes

🖤 And plenty more

If this sounds like your kind of energy, feel free to message me! And even if we don’t fully match, I’m always open to making new online friends too. 😊

I’m the kind of person who accidentally sounds like I’m conducting a board meeting when I first meet someone, but if you get me to put my guard down, I’m making dumb jokes in the grocery store aisle and sending you book recommendations that reminded me of a conversation we had three days ago.

I’m fiercely loyal, emotionally steady, sarcastic, and very into people who can roast me affectionately while also remembering how I take my coffee. I tend to click best with people who are quick-witted, emotionally intelligent, and just the right amount of menace. I am very active but mid-sized figure.

Ideal day: outside for most of it. Hiking, wandering a new city, live music, roadside food stops, spontaneous detours on a road trip. Then collapsing into bed exhausted, stealing your hoodie, and putting on a comfort show while we pretend we’ll only watch one episode.

I love playful banter, competence, curiosity, and people who are caring beneath the snark. If you look intimidating but secretly send thoughtful check-in texts, you’re probably my type.

Poly, intentional, affectionate (but not bold enough to make the first move), and looking for connection that feels easy, alive, and a little addictive.

Hello! 29, GQ, and poly. I have a lovely bf of three years. My photo is on my page. I am a performer, I am queer, I go to college and I am an artist (music/dancing/writing). Soy Afro-Latinx, born and raised in NJ but have had the privilege of traveling a lot. Lots of experience, confident, and looking for chill gaming, yapping, flirting.
No pressure to meet- please.
I really only chat to people 25 and older.
I also like nerdy people who like fashion, enjoy learning, have active social lives in the community, with experience.

Edit: No I do not date w my partner, I do not live with them, and they are not involved in my other dating relationships outside of our communication about them unless it is a serious relationship.

Hey all,

I’m a 45-year-old straight guy from Australia looking to meet someone for a genuine connection that could grow into a long-term partner situation. I’m polyamorous, emotionally open, and value honesty, communication, affection, and people who can truly be themselves.

A bit about me:

Neurodivergent/autistic

Into photography, especially night photography and abandoned places

Love ghost hunting, urban exploring, and weird roadside attractions

PC gaming, documentaries, true crime, horror, sci-fi, and random YouTube rabbit holes

Music tastes lean heavily away from Top 40

Big fan of deep conversations, dark humour, and people passionate about niche interests

I’m currently volunteering while figuring out the next stage of life, and I’ve reached the point where I’d really like to find someone to share things with — conversations, adventures, affection, weird experiences, and lazy nights watching documentaries together.

Physically, I’m more “comfortable nerd carrying camera gear” than polished influencer. I’d rather wander through an abandoned building at midnight than spend the night in a crowded club.

What I’m looking for:

A female partner or meaningful connection with someone kind, emotionally intelligent, curious, affectionate, and maybe a little weird in the best possible way. Distance isn’t a dealbreaker for me if the connection feels real.

If you decide to message me, tell me:

Your favourite obscure music artist

A paranormal experience you’ve had (or want to have)

Your comfort movie/show

Or the weirdest place you’ve ever explored

Bonus points if you like spontaneous late-night conversations, urban legends, photography, or getting excited about random niche topics together.

I’m looking for someone who’s open to building a genuine connection and seeing where things naturally go. I’d really prefer to build a friendship first and see if there’s chemistry before anything else. If things click, I’d be open to eventually meet in person.

I’m married, and we date separately with openness and mutual support. I don’t have children, so I may not fully relate to the parenting side of life if that’s something you need deeply understood.

A little about me: I enjoy reading, hiking, being outside, anime, cozy video games, kayaking (even though it’s been a while), trying new foods, learning random things, exploring new places, and finding the funny in life. I’m more of a homebody overall, though I do enjoy getting out sometimes, especially if it involves nature. Crowded or loud places usually aren’t my thing, and I’m definitely more into cozy nights than nightlife.

I can be a little reserved at first until I feel comfortable around someone. I appreciate people who are patient, emotionally aware, communicative, and genuinely interested in building connection instead of rushing into something.

Physical attraction does matter to me, even if it isn’t the foundation of connection, so I’d appreciate a picture with your message. I’m happy to send one back if I feel we may be a good match.

If any of this resonates with you, I’d love to hear from you.

I’ve tried apps and groups, but honestly, some of my most interesting connections have come from Reddit so here I am again.

I’m looking for someone I genuinely vibe with. Someone curious, easy to talk to, and who enjoys that natural back-and-forth where conversation just flows. I’m not into forced small talk. I want that spark, the kind where you actually look forward to the next message.

A little about me: I’m driven, a bit sarcastic, and I care a lot about what I do and the people in my life. I can juggle a lot, but I still make time for the right connection. I appreciate good communication, consistency, and someone who can match my energy. I tend to connect best with people who are active, intellectually curious, and confident in who they are.

If you’re interesting, thoughtful, and know how to keep a conversation alive, we’ll probably get along.

Please include your age, location, and a bit about yourself in your message. Low-effort openers usually don’t get a response. Bonus points if you know what your attachment style is!

Hi there! I’m Elle! I’m 42 and from South central PA. I’m 1/3 of a throuple so I’m a bit heavily partnered but I’d love to make new friends! I don’t work and I’m the housewife of the group. So I would love to have some other poly friends to chat with throughout the day! If it turns into more, that would be a good thing too.

I enjoy music, cooking, travel, and finding the perfect vintage dress!! I love thrifting and shopping for fun things. Dog lovers to the front of the line!

Tell me a bit about you!! I love meeting new people!

As stated above, I am searching for a man who is more on the submissive side (not completely submissive) to connect with. That doesn't mean just sexually either. I prefer a man who is willing to see me as worthy and treat me as such. I am sick of chasing men. I'm looking for someone who truly leans more on the submissive side, but can be a switch when it feels right. A man who enjoys yearning and pleasing. This isn't just about bedroom stuff either. I need someone who will love me for me, unconditionally. I prefer someone who is local since I have kids and would need to stay in the area. I am recently going through a divorce.

I want someone who can provide consistent communication and doesn't change their mind on a whim. Someone who can handle constructive criticism and handle my emotions. I don't want to be told what to do and especially don't want to be told how I should be dealing with my struggles.

Some of my hobbies and interests: walks/hikes, neuroscience and psychiatry, hanging out at coffee shops, singing, dance, houseplants, learning about birds and bird watching, movies and cuddling, sharing reels and memes 😊

My love languages (to receive) are acts of service (which can go along with physical touch as well) and quality time. (To give) are quality time and physical touch.

Maybe I'm asking for too much, but I know exactly what I want at this point in my life. DM me and we can discuss further details!