r/polyamoryR4R

Is that weird? Do you wanna be my cow? I love cows! They have best friends you know!

About me: I am a poly gal from Alberta. I have one partner that i live with. We have two cats who are our children. I am nerdy and agoraphobic. But I love going out. Figure that out!? I have tons of hobbies. I don't watch TV. If your idea of a good conversation is to talk about what shows we watched, I'm not for you. Politically left leaning. Not religious but I believe in a higher power. I'm not fit, I'm working on it. On a journey to get my health in order for the future. I'm generally happy and bubbly. I'm also clingy and needy and I want to text you ALL DAY.

About you: Large. Nerdy. Bearded. Not necessary, but man I love a big beardy dude!! Lol Happy generally. Loves animals. Very patient and kind. Wants to hear all the gory boring mundane details of my life and help me make stupid decisions like what socks to wear and what to have for breakfast. Maybe daddy tendencies... just sayin...

About our relationship: What i want is someone to chat with all throughout the day on discord. Someone who will happily pop on voice while I'm gaming and listen to me prattle on about what essence I'm looking for or what crop I'm farming this season... and I will happily do the same. I want to hear how your day was and see what your eating for supper and know all your pets silly habits and I want to eventually have inside jokes and deep conversations and share secrets and form a nice bond where we eventually hope to meet up one day sooner than later and we get all butterflies when we think about eachother, and smile every time we hear our phone go off...

So if you like any of this... send me a Moo! Lol Hope to hear from you soon!!

I'm 34, short, curvy, partnered and exploring polyamory. I'm based in Johannesburg, but I'm open to online connections too because apparently finding emotionally available people in one geographic location is harder than it should be.

I'm not looking for a collection of people to flirt with at 11pm when they don't have anything to do. I'd actually like to get to know someone.

I'm open to multiple connections and I'm not coming here with a predetermined “this needs to become a relationship” agenda. I'd rather meet people, talk, build trust, see if there's chemistry and let things develop naturally.

Emotional connection matters to me. So does companionship, affection, being able to talk about absolutely nothing and everything, checking in because you actually want to, laughing together and eventually becoming people who genuinely enjoy having each other in their lives.

I'm a slow burn. I'm not rushing into anything, and if your opening message is basically a sexual proposition, we're probably not going to be a great match. 😅

I'm attracted to people who are kind, emotionally intelligent, curious, communicative and consistent. Bonus points if you're funny and can hold an actual conversation.

I'm very independent in everyday life, but here's the contradiction: I spend most of my life being capable and taking care of things, while secretly wanting someone to make me feel ridiculously adored and safe enough to switch all of that off sometimes.

I read far too many smut books, I'm fascinated by psychology and people, and I'm probably a little shy underneath all the confidence.

Johannesburg is ideal, but I'm willing to see where online connections go too. I'm much more interested in effort and genuine interest than a postcode.

If you're going to message me, tell me something about yourself. Give me something I can actually respond to. “Hey” is technically a word, but it's not exactly a conversation starter. 😉

Honesty, respect and sexual safety are absolute requirements.

29F, Indian techie in Austin. I’ve been seeing someone for about a year, but there’s been very little commitment from the other end and some cheating involved too. At this point, I honestly don’t know where it’s going.
But as I enter my 30s, I really don’t want this experience to make me cold or mechanical about love. I still want butterflies. I want to get excited about someone, have stupidly long conversations, get emotional, get angry, care about things. I don’t want to constantly think about whether I’m being “too available” or “too attached” or follow whatever relationship rulebook the internet has decided on.
I have a pretty good life otherwise — I’m in tech, independent, curious, love deep conversations, trying random things, traveling, art, etc. I think I just miss having an emotional connection and genuine companionship.
Not necessarily looking to jump straight into another relationship. I’d just like to meet someone I actually connect with, talk, hang out occasionally, and see where it goes. I’m okay with something private/non-traditional too.
If you’re somewhere in the same boat, feel free to DM me. :)

Looking for Intentional Connections

Hi! I’m a 31-year-old  plant lover, garden enthusiast, and professional collector of hobbies. 😂 I’m here hoping to make intentional connections with people who actually want to talk, get to know each other, and build something genuine—not just exchange a few “hey, how are you?” messages before disappearing into the void.

I love getting lost in fantasy audiobooks, Twilight and The Vampire Diaries, going to EDM festivals, collecting plushies, spending time in nature, and embracing my inner big kid when the environment is right. I also have a pretty dark sense of humor, so if your jokes occasionally make you question whether we should be allowed in public together… we’ll probably get along. 😂

I’m a mom, so life can be busy, but I still believe meaningful connections are worth making time for. I’m looking for people who enjoy real conversations, mutual effort, and getting to know each other beyond surface-level small talk.

I’m open to connections that have the potential to grow into friendship, romance, intimacy, or some combination of those things. I value honesty, communication, respect, and letting connections develop naturally without forcing them into a box.

If you’re into plants, spooky things, fantasy worlds, EDM, nature, ridiculous humor, or being an unapologetic adult, we might have something to talk about. 🪴🧛‍♀️🌙✨

And bonus points if your local and can give me something more interesting to respond to than “hey,” because my brain will absolutely stare at that message like it’s an impossible exam question. 😂

Hi!! I’m really hoping to make some new connections! I’d love to chat, get to know each other and if something romantic develops, great but if not friends are always nice!

Overall, what I’m looking for is somebody that I can truly be myself with; someone that enjoys silly banter but knows how and when to be serious.

Some things about me:

-I’m demisexual soo as much as I want to find another partner, don’t come at me expecting me to be all lovey right away 🤣 Friends first is a requirement before any further feelings will develop

-I live with my partner (32M) of four years, our two cats, and our toddler! They’re a huge part of my life and will be mentioned. I want to hear about the important people in your life too!!

-I’m AuDHD with a lot of anxiety. It’s incredibly obvious to some, not so much to others. Either way, it’s something that impacts me greatly and gives me some “fun” quirks you’ll uncover as we get to know each other (like you can’t tell from this post 💀🤣)

-I have about fifty different hobbies and interests and will continue to become mediocre at anything that has slightly piqued my interest.

-I enjoy playing video games, usually on PC. My current obsessions are WoW housing, Teardown and Clean Up the Puzzle Gallery. I’d love to find someone to play silly co-op or horror games with!!

-Anything spooky, macabre, or witchy has a place in my heart. All of my decor shopping is done around Halloween 🦇🖤

-Music is and always will be a major part of my life. I listen to just about every genre and am always looking for new music. I used to love going to concerts and moshing but haven’t in years. Please take me 🥺🤣

-I also believe that in order to not be ignorant assholes, we need to hear the stories and perspectives of other people and communities.

-Something in person is preferred but if we click we click 🤷 Absolutely no MAGA, AI or mainstream Christianity.

-Experienced doms that aren’t afraid of a little brattiness- you definitely get bonus points 😋 (This isn’t something I want to dive into right away but it’s always nice to know if we align that way)

Anddd if after alllll that you’re still here, send me a message- I’d love to hear from you 🖤🤣 Of course, I don’t expect someone to fit everything but I figured I’d give us lots to talk about 🤣 Please do the same!!

Solo poly pansexual F seeking new connections. Prefer local to N FL but open to friends everywhere. I enjoy board games, thrift stores, riding my motorcycle, roller skating, and swimming. 420 and I are not just friendly, we are in a LTR.

Slightly kinky, open minded, and fun. Lets roll up and smoke and discuss how to save the world.

Hi! I’m 28, single, and in the Illinois area. I’m open to meeting men or women and seeing where a genuine connection takes us.
I’ve been polyamorous before, and I’m pretty flexible about relationship structure for the right person. Ideally, I’d love to eventually be a primary partner to someone, but I’m not attached to a particular hierarchy if the relationship works well for both of us. I am still learning a lot of terminology so please be patient with me.
What matters most to me is honesty, communication, mutual respect, and actually making space for each other.
I’ll also be upfront that I’ve had some difficult experiences with long-distance relationships in the past, so I’m hesitant to pursue something that would primarily exist at a distance. I’m much more interested in building something where we can actually share time and space together. I’m open to seeing where things go, but local or realistically accessible is definitely a preference.
Personality-wise, I’m a curious, somewhat nerdy person who loves a good, honest conversation. I genuinely enjoy listening to people talk about the things they’re passionate about, and I’m very susceptible to getting dragged into random side tangents. There’s almost always music playing, I’m casually writing a book, and I love getting excited about fictional worlds and new shows.
I’m childfree and don’t want kids. I’m LGBTQ+ affirming. I’m looking for someone kind, communicative, emotionally aware, and capable of both deep conversations and completely ridiculous ones.
Some things I love:
Music being on basically all the time
Getting way too invested in random topics
Quietly spending time with someone without needing to constantly entertain each other
People who can teach me something I didn’t know
The occasional extremely niche obsession

I’m much more interested in building an actual connection than collecting messages. If we click, I’d love to see where it goes—whether that’s a friendship, dating, or eventually something deeper.
Tell me something you’re currently fascinated by. What’s a topic you could happily ramble about for way too long?

Or dig one up. I’m not too picky.

Live in Texas but don’t own a single cowboy hat and never seen the basement of the Alamo. Enjoy the geeky things in life like anime, comics, books, and everything else everyone mentions on their post.

I’m sarcastic and can have a dark humor. But I can also be annoyingly positive and will be your biggest cheerleader.

I like to think I'm smart, funny, and curious. You'll probably be the better judge of it.

My wife and I are slowly trying this after both of us realizing there's things we want and desire and that it's okay if we can help fill our joy bucket with someone else's help.

First and most importantly, I'm looking for someone who is curious to- if I'm the one carrying the entire conversation, I might just end up throwing you into the hole we're burying- KIDDING. I'd probably use lye.

I hear so many people say they're demisexuals on here or that personality matters, but I also know we exist in the real world and people are attracted to what they're attracted. If you're not into glasses, chubby.fat/dad bod/whatever word you want to use, that's okay, but you probably shouldn't message me.

If you are attracted to a guy with too many tattoos who can probably talk and type your ear off, you should definitely message me. I'll even supply the shovel.

If you reply, tell me whose body you would ask me to bury or dig up

Hi I'm Matt. I'm in an open marriage and currently seeking an online partner or if I'm lucky someone close by! I'm a huge nerd. Dnd, mtg, video games. All of the above! I work 3rd shift currently so I'm usually up late as well!

35 y/o NYC-based bi/pansexual white cis woman, started dating polyamorously about 10 years ago when I was single, and I identify with relationship anarchy more than polyamory. I am looking to date local 28-43ish y/o non-monogamous/RA folks who are available for eventual nesting partnership. I don't want to rush into an NP situation, but I also do want to be specific about what I want and use my time accordingly :) Also, if you happen to know any in-person speed-dating-style meetups for this very niche population lol, I would welcome the intel!

About me: overall I'm very....normal? I think my looks are pretty conventional, and my style is chapstick/sporty femme. I'm an artist, and I love theater, movies, books, music, gardening, road trips, card games, and sports. I have a nice amount of friends and community groups I'm very invested in. I don't smoke cigs or vape nicotine, but I am friendly with weed + occasional psychedelics, mdma, k. kink-friendly, but not interested a kink-centric partnership.

I don't want to get married (open to marriage in certain circumstances, like as a temporary/logistical commitment for a partner's immigration, healthcare, etc.), and I'm leaning childfree, have a long-term non-nesting partner, and am out as queer/poly, including with my family.

If this resonates, DM me with a little bit about yourself!

Looking for genuine connections🖤

I’m a plus-sized, witchy, sarcastic human with an unhealthy dice collection, a love of D&D, tarot, true crime, cats, and all things a little dark and weird.

I’m happily married to my nesting partner and ethically non-monogamous dating separately though we try to practice KTP but understand not everyone meshes well.

I’m demisexual, demiromantic, pansexual,sapiosexual, 420-friendly, accepting of all genders and identities, and politically left-leaning.

I’m looking for **real connection not casual, convenient, or halfhearted.**

I value emotional availability, consistency, communication, humor, boundaries, and people who actually mean what they say and will back it up with their actions.

Bonus points if you understand spoon theory, have experience with chronic illnes because I have disabilities(ask me about them, I am very up front about what I deal with), love video,board or ttrpg games , or can appreciate a good amount of sarcasm and dark humor.

I want to actually **get to know someone**.

Tell me about your dreams, what you’re passionate about, your favorite vacation spot, what you could talk about for hours, or some weird little fact about yourself. Give me something to work with beyond “hey” or “you seem interesting.” I will not respond to those messages at all.

I’m a little chaotic, a little witchy, occasionally too sarcastic for my own good, and my southern accent gets significantly stronger when I’m tired or annoyed.

If that sounds like your kind of person, come say hi. 🖤

Hello everyone! :) I’m a plus-sized gal from the Garden State looking to make some new connections.

Friendship is the most important foundation to any long-term connection, so regardless of where life might take me with someone, it all starts with being friends. Please have something in common with me if you decide to reach out. It’s hard to build a friendship when we don’t have anything to build on. :)

Some of my interests include horror, the devil’s lettuce, light gaming, reading, and written roleplay. I spend most of my free time gaming, binge-watching shows and movies, wandering around libraries and museums, or hunting through thrift stores.

I’m also a night owl, so I’d love to meet other people who are awake during the same odd hours.

I’ve been practicing ethical non-monogamy for around ten years, so I’m looking for people who value honesty, communication, and kindness. If you’re partnered, I ask that everyone involved is aware and consenting. If you’re single, that’s wonderful too.

Personality-wise, I’m naturally nurturing. I tend to be the person checking in on everyone, and making sure the people I care about feel supported. I’m affectionate, a little sarcastic, and definitely someone who enjoys both deep conversations and laughing over absolutely nothing.

Physically, I do have a soft spot for bigger, heavyset folks. It’s not a requirement, but it has always been my type.

Ideally, I’d love to meet people within driving distance in NJ, NY, or eastern PA so we can eventually grab coffee, visit a museum, browse a bookstore, watch horror movies, or just exist in the same space. Online friendships are welcome too, especially if you’re a fellow night owl.

When you message me, tell me a little about yourself! What are you passionate about? What’s your favorite horror movie/game? What game has stolen your life recently? I’d love to get to know the person behind the screen.

✨ I’m partnered (we've been poly 5.5 years), but we date separately. I’m not specifically looking for a third or trying to turn this into a couple-seeking situation. That said, if you’re specifically interested in dating a couple, I’m open to talking about it and seeing if there’s a genuine connection there.✨

30, 6’3”, I’m sarcastic, naturally dominant, affectionate once I’m comfortable, and I like taking the lead when the chemistry is right.

I’m looking for a woman who enjoys being pursued, playful banter, flirting, and a relationship with a little spark to it. I’m into BDSM, kink, and power dynamics, but I’m just as interested in the person behind them. Chemistry, trust, communication, and actually enjoying each other’s company matter to me.

Outside of dating, I’m into gaming, Magic: The Gathering, movies/TV, trying new food, getting out more, my wonderful pets, and working on becoming a better version of myself.

I’m not looking to rush into anything. I’d rather meet someone I genuinely click with and see where it develops.

If you’re looking for a slightly introverted but confident, sarcastic guy who will actually put effort into getting to know you, send me a message. Tell me what caught your attention and what you’re hoping to find.

Currently only seeking cis women.
No Republicans or conservatives.

I have a 45 hour/week corporate job that’s work from home and takes a ton of my brain cells.

I have two kids in high school and elementary school so they take a lot of time too.

I currently have a real lack of women friends in my life. I had a lot of good girlfriends when we worked in the office, but since Covid i’ve realized we were only close because we were together every day and now that we’re not we aren’t.

I moved to the Chicago area to be with my husband 15 years ago and most of my friends from growing up are still in Michigan many of which have moved on with their lives in the 15 years. I’ve been out here so I feel a profound sense of loneliness.

His group of friends have adopted me, but I feel a calling to make a few more girlfriends that are my own.

If we happen to be a good romantic/physical connection to, that’s cool, but I’m really out here looking for emotional companionship.

I like:

- Shows: I watch a ton of YouTube, I love Minecraft Youtubers a big hermitcraft girly. I love watching football and any show produced by Mike Schur (Office, Parks and Rec, Good Place, Brooklyn 99 etc).

- Books: I love dungeon crawler Carl and I used to love a song of ice and fire before the show ruined it and Martin stopped writing it, and I used to love Harry Potter before Rowling turned into a monster.

- Games: I play a lot of Stardew and Minecraft. I used to play DND when I was in college and I miss that so if you have an extroverted group of queer DND friends that I could be swept into that would be fantastic. Just know you’re gonna have to teach me everything again cause it’s been 20 years and three edition since then.

If you think we might have things in common, send me a DM!

Hi! I’m Mouse, an almost-34, super queer, poly, partnered, childfree human living in Dorset. 🐭✨

I’m looking to meet someone who’s up for building a genuine connection and seeing where things go, ideally someone who enjoys a slightly silly, cosy, low pressure life.

I’m very much a passenger princess, so road trips are absolutely on the list (I’ll handle the music, snacks and enthusiastic pointing out of cows 🐄). I’m also into charity shopping, slow walks in nature, true crime, mystery novels, karaoke, bowling, nice non alcoholic drinks, finding random little places to explore, and pointing at animals while saying “aw” like I’ve never seen one before.

i’m a big fan of 80s music, cosy evenings, good conversations, dark humour, and people who don’t take themselves too seriously. I love discovering new things, but I’m equally happy having a very exciting evening consisting of snacks, a film and absolutely nowhere to be.

I’m generally quite fond of taking the lead, so if you like someone who’s happy to make the plans, pick the destination and occasionally tell you what we’re doing… we might get along very well. 😉

I’m chronically ill, so I’m not necessarily looking for someone who wants to be constantly on the go. I’m much more into people who understand that sometimes plans need to be flexible and that a slow day can be just as good as an adventurous one.

Financially, I’m fortunately in a stable place, so I’m not looking for someone to rescue me or fund my existence. I am just looking for a nice human to share some
adventures, laughs and questionable karaoke with. 😉

I am partnered and poly, and I’m not looking to replace or interfere with my existing relationship. I’m also childfree and very happy to keep it that way.

If you’re kind, curious, a little weird, and respectful, we’ll probably get along. 🐕

Me: I'm an artist, agèd punk rocker, cat mom, teacher, and vintage slinger. Certified bug lifeguard at the pool. Smart cookie with a top tier laugh. Very warm, very silly, very fun to be around. Radical in the streets, submissive in the sheets. Generous with affection. Romantic. I’m a life-long learner, self-indulgent hedonist, and a maximalist aesthete who wants to know more and do more and see more. More is more. Have lived in 4 countries, and originally from Canada. Bi cis woman.

I love: Wikipedia rabbit holes, the comedy of Nathan Fielder/Tim Robinson/Kumail Nanjiani, critters of all sorts, campfire ghost stories, chocolate, an ice cold filthy martini, BDSM, and listening to podcasts while I play solitaire on my phone.

I hate: ChatGPT, billionaires, bigots, contemporary pop music, Bichon Frisé, drinking room temperature water

Physically: plus size, certified hottie, tattooed, long light brown hair with Betty bangs, hazel eyes, pierced nose and ears, and an artsy, colourful, feminine sense of style. I’m a fat liberationist and my partners must fully enjoy and adore my fat bod, so please only message me if that’s you. I'm a fat hourglass, short, big breasts, big ass, wide hips, full belly, soft all over.

I've been polyamorous for 4 years and I live with my nonbinary spouse of 13 years and two cats in Arlington, TX. I am looking for a long-term romantic relationship. I test regularly and if you see other people, I need the same. I am emotionally available, and I also need the same. I am looking for someone local.

My Type: men who are emotionally intelligent communicators with funny stories to tell me. Hearts of gold. Introverts. Genuinely seeking some actual romance and dating, and not just the physical. Must love animals, hate fascism, be kinky, and appreciate the arts. No need to be all that politically active, but you gotta love human rights for all. It might be an unpopular ask here in TX, but I want to connect with someone who has similar values. Short kings, skinny lanky boys, dad bods, beefy dudes, men with moustaches, and cat dads to the front. All races welcome. I only find beards attractive when they are well kept, and if yours isn't, it will be an automatic 'no' from me. A good sense of style, grooming, and hygiene goes a long way for me! Ages 30-50, and I usually don't make exceptions on age, but shoot your shot if you're in close range.

I send photos of myself immediately in my first message, so please be prepared to do the same (I want to know if there's mutual attraction from the jump). Please tell me a bit about yourself - your hobbies and interests, your looks, your age and location - in your opening message. Impress me by being lucid and polite, and by not saying anything creepy.

Hi, wonderful R's!

I'm Nora (she/they), currently single, have experience in ENM for the longest time (usually solo or arm of V's). Currently seeking a consistent long-term connection, maybe even a nesting or anchor partner, but note that I'm naturally more into low/no hierarchy. Bonus if you look at that and go, sure, let's just RA it and find what feels consensual and caring for all. I'm a big believer in mutualism and being a team player whether supporting each other or in conflict. I live in East Bay right now, but LOVE and would live anywhere in the PNW or the west coast in general. Hoping for local, open to long distance initially for the right spark!

I'm an outgoing and playful introvert who values quality time and being very present with my friends and family, loves making my people feel seen and understood, and believes in building strong and resilient community. I lead with empathy and care, value reciprocity, and seek the same in a partner.

I love staying active and being in nature and am blessed to be mostly able-bodied, but do have some invisible chronic fatigue things (think looooong naps and time to recuperate after a long run or volleyball or kayaking or exploring a new place). Love traveling and learning from and about different cultures and people. I play a bunch of instruments and sing, too, when I am not feeling too self-conscious. 🙈 Trying to get back into reading and cooking for fun, and I also love to draw! Very kinesthetically-oriented, polymath-y, kind of a tomboy, but also femme. 💅🏾

Demi/gray-aro-ace. I love romance and have a healthy libido, but let's definitely chat about what all this means because I wanna make sure whoever I partner with feels well and truly loved. I've loved allosexual/alloromantic folks, and it works just fine but takes really good communication and self-awareness from both of us. Love cuddles and snuggles and more (bonus if you're kinky!) once I warm up to someone! Playful flirting is welcome 😛 but also would love to move to say calls or video or meeting up in a reasonable timeframe. If you're interested, mention cake and DM me a little about yourself and maybe something you learned about yourself recently. Or ask me questions!

Hello! I'm currough (he/they). I'm a queer masc-of-center person living in central Colorado. I don't have a good handle on my own gender identity at the moment, but I'm interested in folks of all genders.

I have a hard time describing myself because I tend to not care much about labelling myself, and describing myself just in terms of the things I like to do always feels superficial. But regardless, here are some aspects of my identity that are important to me, in no particular order:

* I am a teacher and a scientist. I teach computer science; I used to do research in machine learning but am currently sticking to other kinds of research because I don't think AI is ethical.

* I tend to be a lot of people's emotional support person. This is a pattern that shows up in my friendships, family relationships, professional life, and romantic relationships. Folks describe me as calm, reassuring, and safe. I'm good at processing and articulating my own emotions, and I'm good at helping people work through their own emotions.

* I'm consistent and dependable in my personal life, maybe to a fault, but also have a high-workload, high-stress job.

* I have really high standards for myself, but I try not to be a dick to others about it. I'm working through my self-perfectionism in therapy.

* I'm a woodworker; I like to make wooden bowls, art objects, and (rarely) furniture. I like exchanging art with friends. I get a lot of use out of my laser cutter and my lathe.

* I like making things in general. Ask me about my drawing machine! I love to tinker and teach myself new skills. I have a lockpick set and embroidery kit that I bring to faculty meetings to give my hands something to do.

* I'm a martial artist; I've been doing aikido for 20 years and have a 2nd-degree black belt.

* I'm queer and (maybe?) nonbinary. Gender is something I've always had ambiguous feelings about. Currently I present fairly masc, and most people would look at me and see "cis dude". But that may change in the near future.

* I meet a lot of the diagnostic criteria for AuDHD. I'm pretty high-masking, especially since my job requires a lot of social interaction.

* I'm left of left. Social justice and progressive causes are extremely important to me. I don't think we'll get along if you're someone who describes yourself as "apolitical" or conservative. Black and trans lives matter, Free Palestine, and destroy your local data center.

* I like to cook, I like beer and whiskey and the occasional joint. But I don't really like the feeling of being intoxicated so I tend to enjoy these things in moderation. I'm vegetarian but usually willing to bend the rules for rare occasions (like if I'm traveling, for instance).

* I like a lot of typical nerdy stuff like video games, anime, d&d (mostly d&d podcasts), Dropout, board games.

* I really enjoy reading and try to make it a point to read often. My current tastes in literature are a lot of speculative fiction and weird lit, but I've been trying to branch out into more nonfiction. Currently I am reading Leech by Hiram Ennis, and The Palestine Laboratory by Anthony Lowenstein. My favorite book of the last couple years would probably be Tchaikovsky's Shroud.

* If this ends up being relevant, I'm switchy and vers (fulfilling the bi poly stereotype of being unable to make a single decision). I love rope play!

* Physically: I'm 6'3", 240lbs, "bear" archetype. I would describe my body type as muscular but thicc; I train at aikido 5ish days a week and lift weights outside of that but I also really like food. I have short brown hair, a beard that I keep trimmed, brown eyes, and several tattoos and piercings (and want to get more of both). I have a lot of body hair! I'm happy to send pictures of myself after we have talked for a bit and there's some trust there.

I have several partners, including a spouse whom I live with. No one has veto power over any of my relationships and it's important to me that everyone feels fulfilled and welcome in any relationship structure I'm a part of. I've been actively polyamorous for 10ish years and have a lot of experience navigating poly-feels.

What I'm looking for:

I am mostly looking for friends and good conversational partners at the moment, with the potential for more. I'm not necessarily looking with the idea to meet more partners but I'm open to it if the feelings are there and mutual. Flirting is fun but I tend to prefer that chats not be really sexual right out the gate; again, that's something that I need to build trust about first. But I'd love to find folks with whom I can send long or short messages throughout the day, or exchange dumb memes, and get to know each other. I'm looking for people who I can be silly with, and don't have to mask, and can be weird little nerdfreaks at each other. I'm looking for mutual emotional support and listening, once we've gotten to know each other. Always down to get coffee or a beer with folks who are local!

If you think we'd get along , please send a DM!

Hello!

I’m 36 female with a somewhat busy life but wanting to make new connections.

Im looking for active conversations. I’m autistic so the “hi” or “how are you?” Messages are hard to respond too. I apologize about that, I just don’t know what to say and freeze and get anxiety.

I absolutely love true crime, horror movies, science fiction, gaming (mostly cozy games to be honest but love a good rpg game) and various hobbies. I love documentaries on anything really. I love smoking weed, and gave up drinking and nicotine. I have been going to the gym and working out. Trying to get back into Pokémon go.

I’m currently overweight but with an active lifestyle I’ve been consistently losing weight. Really trying to focus on my health after years of major depression and finally getting help. I’m in a much better spot.

I’m married, with 4 stepchildren. That keeps me busy but they’re older. (I swear the adult children are more needy! Haha, but that’s fine I love them all.)

Anyways.. umm that’s me in a nutshell?

Listen, we’ve been lied to. I know, I know, it’s hard to believe but once you’re free of the shackles of worrying about big normal, it’s a game changer.

A little about me: Im 5’9, mixed (black/latina), pansexual and neurodivergent. I’m a full time student and work in education. I’m single and childfree but I have a dog and a bird. I’m a bit shy when meeting new people, and I have a ton of different hobbies (cooking, thrifting, gaming, crafts, baking, and more).

I’m a weirdo originally from Seattle but am currently in NJ who’s looking for someone (or someones) who wants to have fun, adventures, and everything that comes with that. I believe variety is the spice of life so I love meeting people from all walks of life. Im looking for a person or couple who would like to start out platonically and build from there if there’s interest.

But I’m serious, cringe is a scam invented by big normal (TM) to keep people from having interesting conversations, wearing weird outfits, flirting awkwardly, and generally enjoying themselves. I know cause I was personally affected but not anymore! I try to talk to new people, made a 7ft dandelion, and worked at a sleep away summer camp this summer just on a whim. I’d want to find people who want to have stargazing picnic, go to a pigeon festival, dance our heart out, or just do anything that sounds fun.

Let’s talk!