u/NoraThere

Hi, wonderful R's!

I'm Nora (she/they), currently single, have experience in ENM for the longest time (usually solo or arm of V's). Currently seeking a consistent long-term connection, maybe even a nesting or anchor partner, but note that I'm naturally more into low/no hierarchy. Bonus if you look at that and go, sure, let's just RA it and find what feels consensual and caring for all. I'm a big believer in mutualism and being a team player whether supporting each other or in conflict. I live in East Bay right now, but LOVE and would live anywhere in the PNW or the west coast in general. Hoping for local, open to long distance initially for the right spark!

I'm an outgoing and playful introvert who values quality time and being very present with my friends and family, loves making my people feel seen and understood, and believes in building strong and resilient community. I lead with empathy and care, value reciprocity, and seek the same in a partner.

I love staying active and being in nature and am blessed to be mostly able-bodied, but do have some invisible chronic fatigue things (think looooong naps and time to recuperate after a long run or volleyball or kayaking or exploring a new place). Love traveling and learning from and about different cultures and people. I play a bunch of instruments and sing, too, when I am not feeling too self-conscious. 🙈 Trying to get back into reading and cooking for fun, and I also love to draw! Very kinesthetically-oriented, polymath-y, kind of a tomboy, but also femme. 💅🏾

Demi/gray-aro-ace. I love romance and have a healthy libido, but let's definitely chat about what all this means because I wanna make sure whoever I partner with feels well and truly loved. I've loved allosexual/alloromantic folks, and it works just fine but takes really good communication and self-awareness from both of us. Love cuddles and snuggles and more (bonus if you're kinky!) once I warm up to someone! Playful flirting is welcome 😛 but also would love to move to say calls or video or meeting up in a reasonable timeframe. If you're interested, mention cake and DM me a little about yourself and maybe something you learned about yourself recently. Or ask me questions!

Hi all, I'm a single, late-blooming, young-at-heart queer woman living in East Bay near SF, California. My community is mostly here on the west coast. I'm looking for a life partner who's close by or willing to move towards each other!

I'd describe myself as a chapstick lesbian who's slightly alt (love my piercings), athletic tomboy vibes, dark hair, brown eyes, and a lover of all things soft and cozy. I envision nights in with my sweetie cuddling, giving each other massages, napping, reading, watching something, gaming, cooking, building with Lego. Ooh and thrifting together! 😃 And of course, being best friends and cheerleaders in each other's lives.

Aesthetically, I'm into femmes and butches and everyone in between! Expansive femininity and androgyny are both hot to me. So is having passions and hobbies. And empathy! BTW it's so okay if you have a bunch of wolves fighting in your brain like I do: neurospicy and healing from/managing old trauma. As long as you are working through stuff and are decently self-aware, it's all good, ma'am!

I love a good adventure and being in nature. And I'm musical. Some of my favorite times are when walking through the woods playing my flute to the trees, chatting with ravens, and watching squirrels chase each other. I chase adrenaline (carefully) and also have some chronic stuff (hence the ample napping 😴). I love the ocean and kayaking and sailing. In another life I must have sailed the seas wide and free... ahoy! Also roadtrips! I have a motorcycle license for... reasons. How Pisces-Sagittarius of me? I'm leftist and witchy and into community organizing. No bigots, please and thank you!

I'm kinky and more into that than just sex. Demi/gray-aroace, neutral/favorable about sex and romance. I've been in mono-amorous and ENM situations, nonhierarchical or not, and all have been fine with me. I am loyal and not a collector, my love is expansive, and my energy limited. I really just want to talk through it and see what makes sense. I do foster deep friendships, and caring for my chosen family is very important to me. I trust in communication and building emotional safety and working through hard stuff as a team!

If you've got this far, then DM me, brave redditor! Tell me about a favorite hobby or your vision for life together. Even if things don't line up for us, maybe we'll compare notes and wish each other well on our respective searches!

~ Nora ~

Hi all!

I have posted here before and have been doing some self reflection on what I really want! And what I am finding is: I am a sapphic-oriented enby/trans femme aro-ace person. What does that mean to me? Gender feels made up and defy the boxes, but also I love being "girly together" and that style of being lovey with each other! We can make up what means and the terms that feel affirming.

Neutral to favorable on romantic stuff. Neutral to averse on sexual stuff. Aegosexual - decent libido, switchy, kinky, but I don't experience it as part of attraction. More of fun activities together! Attracted more to kind and caring and generous hearts and spirits! ☺️

Anyone else feel similar? Would love it if you're on the west coast, thrilled if you're near the Bay area, but can make long distance work if we're planning to U-haul eventually. 😅

I am looking for a queer-platonic-ish, kinky/alterous life maybe-life partner?! I want us feel mutually at-home and supported as we walk/run/stumble through this strange life together. 😌 I live and work in the Bay Area right now and desire something in-person, but I'm not opposed to starting online with an intent to move (either of us, or maybe run away together, haha) eventually.

I'm 40, TF, 5'9", active, playful, imaginative, creative, sensitive, and nature/animal/plant-loving. Demigirl vibes - kind of a sporty tomboy at times 🏐 and also like to dress up and be cute sometimes. 💅🏾👗🥰 I play a few (and love learning new) musical instruments! 🪈 🎶 I was born in the States and come from a south Asian cultural background. I'm very leftist and community-oriented, and it's pretty important to me to align with you on that. Pretty open on desired age range, as long as you're self-aware and value reciprocation.

I'm pan, tend to be drawn more towards androgynous, femme, and sapphic energy, but it's not a rule - really just depends on our vibe. I sooo welcome gender-queer/fluid/diverse folx with diverse sexuality/romantic orientations, and tend to feel safer around those who have that kind of lived experience. As well as neurodivergence. 😅

I'm sexually averse to neutral (and also, this is where I enjoy kink - subby/switch/service top vibes), romantically neutral/slightly favorable, and ambi-amorous. Open to kids, especially the idea of parenting in supportive community (adoptive/bio). I'm happy to delve into any of that with you if we chat and hit it off. Happy to exchange photos/verify if you prove to be a decent human!

So drop me a message? 🥹🤗💕🙏🏽