r/lesbianr4r

I’m 36 so nobody under 35, 💕 & I’m a femme ; Im looking

for someone who’s into it , if you are hmu . Blonde hair dark brown eyes . I wanna finally get myself out there ☀️🫶🏻💕🌈

I am reaching out because I am really hoping to find some connection within the lesbian community. Where I come from, being part of the community is not really accepted or welcomed, which has left me feeling quite isolated and excluded from everything. It is tough when you cannot truly be yourself in your everyday environment, and I have felt the lack of a supportive circle for a while now. Because of this, I would love to get to know some people here who understand that experience or simply want to share a genuine connection. I am looking for a safe space to chat, share experiences, and hopefully build some meaningful friendships with people who share similar hobbies and interests.

To give you an idea of who you are talking to, I am 27 years old and I am from Germany. My English is actually quite decent, even though my grammar might be a bit messy sometimes. Most people would probably categorize my appearance as alternative, emo, or goth. Matching that vibe, my taste in music is extremely diverse and I listen to almost every genre, but the absolute staples in my Spotify playlists are definitely rock, grunge, and metal. That being said, I love talking about music, so please feel free to share your own favorites with me.

For instance, I am really into conspiracy theories. It is not even that I firmly believe in them myself, but rather that I find it fascinating to see what kind of stories people come up with and how they connect the dots. Along those lines, I also enjoy discussions about cryptids like Bigfoot. Generally, I spend a lot of time on YouTube watching video essays, mostly about the supernatural, the aforementioned conspiracies, or just pop culture in general. It probably comes as no surprise then that I am a big fan of horror movies, though a movie needs to have a very specific vibe that appeals to me for me to sit down and watch it. Movies play a huge role in my life overall, as I passionately collect DVDs across all genres. I absolutely love that special retro vibe and, with very few exceptions, I actually only watch movies on these physical DVDs.

Aside from that, I like going for walks and hiking. I also enjoy playing video games, preferably story-driven games like The Last of Us or the Silent Hill 2 remake. If you happen to play horror games yourself, I would love to just tag along and watch you play via Discord since I am an absolute coward when it comes to horror and could never play those games myself. Regarding contact, I am absolutely open to Discord voice calls later on, once we have gotten to know each other a bit better through texting first.

Hiii! I’m 18f, and I’m not looking for anything super serious to start off. I would like to be able to chat and be a little flirty first then maybe it could become more. :)

About me- I’m average height, very curvy/plus size, I have wavy hair, dark hair and eyes. I like reading romance, listening to pop music, arts and crafts, baking and cooking, and all things beauty.

What I’m looking for- I usually like fems but I’m open to whatever. I’m not very picky about looks usually as long as you have a good personality. I would like someone kind, honest, trustworthy, empathetic, and funny.

Thanks for reading! I hope to get some messages! :)

I’m 25F and she’s 28F. We were together for 10 months.

A few weeks ago she broke up with me because she couldn’t handle the internal conflict anymore. We’re both from Muslim backgrounds, and she struggles a lot with religion, family pressure, and the fact that her family expects her to eventually marry a man. Recently her mom even started trying to set her up with her friend’s son.

The confusing part is that we still talk every day. We still love each other. But everything feels emotionally distant now. She wanted us to “drop the label” and reduce the warmth between us because things became too emotionally intense for her.

She doesn’t call me loving names anymore, doesn’t emotionally take care of me the same way anymore, and overall feels much more detached now. Meanwhile I became extremely anxious and attached after the breakup.

I overanalyze every interaction now. Every delayed reply, every dry response, every reaction, every tone change affects my nervous system. I wake up anxious with stomach pain and barely any appetite sometimes.

Hey! I’m 22, plus size, 5’9, with brown hair and bluish-green eyes. I’m a recent grad from nursing school.

I’m into traveling, overthinking everything, planning trips I probably shouldn’t financially, and decompressing on Roblox after long days. I’m not super competitive, I’m more about laughing, vibing, and enjoying the moment. I also love random deep talks, sending memes at 2 AM, and just having someone to talk to about life.

I’m also in a phase where I’m trying to take better care of myself by moving more, being more active, and just becoming the best version of me overall.

I’m looking to meet someone genuine and kind who’s down to build a real connection, whether that starts as friends or turns into something more. I’m especially drawn to someone hardworking, kind, and who pushes me to be the best version of myself.

I’d love someone I can call, and just enjoy each other’s company without pressure. If you’re easygoing, communicative, love to travel, a little chaotic in a good way, and actually put effort into getting to know someone, we’d probably get along really well.

Hey, I’m Sty (online name) 20, masc, bisexual, from somewhere in Asia, looking to connect with a woman around 19–28 for something genuine and long-term. I’m out of the closet and hope the same from my partner.

A little about me: I’m deaf, though I can speak and hear with support after years of speech therapy since childhood. Because of that, communication means a lot to me, but not in the “text me every five minutes” sense. I care more about effort, presence, honesty, intention, and genuinely wanting to understand each other.

I live somewhere between creativity and analysis. I work in multimedia, editing, storytelling, and creative projects, but I’m also deeply interested in law (preparing for law school), psychology, crime cases, history, and human behavior. I’m the kind of person who falls down research rabbit holes because one unanswered question refuses to leave my brain.

I love people with depth. Emotional intelligence. Curiosity, Playfulness, Honesty. The kind of person who can talk about life, fears, weird theories, ethics, ambition, trauma, random nonsense, or why people make terrible decisions, and actually mean what they say.

I care deeply, even if I don’t always show it immediately. I’m affectionate in my own way, loyal, ambitious, creative, and very intentional about relationships. I’m not here for situationships, mixed signals, emotional unavailability, or collecting temporary attention.

Long distance is completely okay with me if the connection is real, but ideally, not something that stays behind a screen forever. If it’s meaningful, I’d want something real eventually. Shared memories. Real life.

I’d probably connect best with someone kind, communicative, emotionally mature, intellectually curious, maybe slightly unhinged in the fun way, and genuinely interested in partnership. Bonus points if you love reading, writing, art, or thoughtful conversations.

Disability isn’t an issue for me at all. What matters is emotional maturity, consistency, and not being avoidant.

If this interest you, say hi :)

Hi! I’m 28 and my friends usually call me the “mom friend” of the group. I’m the dependable one who checks up on everyone, remembers little things, and is always down for random conversations or late night talks.

A few things about me:

I love local travels and discovering new places

I enjoy cooking (recently getting into baking, so I’d love someone to exchange recipes and baking experiments with haha)

I like talking about life in general, from deep conversations to completely random stuff

I’m 5’3 and on the curvy side, if that matters

Mostly just looking for genuine connection and good conversations. We can talk about food, travel, daily life, dreams, frustrations, or hobbies!

I can also be your tour guide if you visit my country. About the fee? We can negotiate haha jk😜

Single Cis woman. Early 40s. Grounded. A little dangerous in the best way.

Thoughtful. Self-aware. Young spirited. I'm evolving on purpose. I carry myself well, I take care of my mind and my energy, and I have that calm, steady presence.

I love slow-burn conversations that start playful and somehow end up dissecting attachment styles, childhood wounds, or why that one indie song hits a little too hard at 11pm with a glass of wine. I like when banter has tension in it. When teasing is clever. When there’s a subtle shift from light to magnetic and you both feel it.

I’m drawn to emotionally intelligent women who are self-aware and intentional. I seem to be attracted to very feminine women, even high femme who have style or kinda artsy, women who can flirt without being sloppy, who can go deep, women who understand that confidence is quiet and chemistry doesn’t need to be forced.

I value growth, psychology, spirituality without religion, long conversations about patterns, purpose, and what we’re still becoming.

I’m not here for surface-level “hey” energy. I want curiosity. Presence. A conversation that unfolds instead of rushes. I want that feeling where the messages get a little slower because you’re actually thinking about what to say next.

If you’re confident but kind, layered, witty, and not afraid of depth ..let’s talk.

Start with something better than “hi.”

I want to hear what’s been making you feel alive lately.

I have posted here before and had very lovely conversations..nothing that sticked though. I'm looking to have something more consistent where we get to know eachother and see what can develop.

I have met some wonderful friends and people on here in the past and I'd like to see if I can meet a few more now too. I'm looking to develop an actual long term friendship, as long as we both vibe and we both put in some effort it shouldn't be an issue at all! We can check up on each other, talk about our day on text or on calls, do activities together etc.

Some quick info about me

• 26, turning 27 later this year
• European (living there too)
• Not a native English speaker but I'm very very comfortable texting and speaking English
• Available a lot
• Pretty open about myself
• Spends a fair amount of time indoors
• Likes watching true crime on youtube
• Very open to watching any movies/shows
• Getting back into working out a lot (cycling, bodyweight exercises and soon lifting weights again probably)
• Likes to communicate: if something bothers me I want to immediately talk about it
• Going through therapy cause of past experiences (so I'm okay with you having mental health problems)
• Social PC gamer: used to game a lot on my own, now only with others pretty much
• Passionate about culture and travel
• Consider myself androgynous/chapstick
• Likes yapping: I can yap a lot on call when I'm really comfortable
• Loves animals: grew up with a lot of different ones

I'm very open to talking to someone from anywhere in the world. I'm here to be myself and I accept that I don't click with everyone, if we don't, we simply go our separate ways!

If you'd like to give it a shot, reach out to me with a bit about yourself so there's something for me to talk to you about. I can't do much with only a "hey". Thank you, enjoy your day!

Hi! 30F / east coast / femme looking for someone who also thinks drinking a glass of wine and playing a video game together while we get progressively worse and laugh and maybe start flirting a little sounds like a good time. Open to you being anywhere & I’ll admit I’m a bit shy at first to call on the phone / live talk but I’ll gladly send you voice memos and photos throughout my day to warm up. If you’re a sweet femme who thinks this is an ideal cozy night my dms are open. 💌

Hi everybody hope you’re all doing well. I’m looking to get to know some people, I don’t really have any solid intentions, I’m okay with friendship or anything else.

A bit about me, i’m from the south (US) i’m in college and I work. Physically, i’m 5’5”, black, and midsize/curvy, I’ve been on a weight loss journey for a couple months now. Also I am bisexual.

In my spare time I mostly doomscroll, do cardio or write fanfiction. I’m not super into fandom stuff but i do like watching gay people on my phone, right now I’m procrastinating finishing this franchaela fanfiction.

I’m mostly looking to talk to women around my age. Thank you, whoever you are, for reading this and feel free to dm if you wanna talk.

Hello! Like the title says, I’m looking for genuine and authentic long term friendships with fellow lesbians! Just want someone to chat with daily, share life and laughs, swap memes, and just be ourselves. Just a genuine, fun friendship with lots of fun banter where we’re there for each other. I’ve already spoken with some wonderful people and I’m hoping I can speak to even more!

A little about me - I enjoy watching professional wrestling, playing video games (only occasionally and the only game I like to play right now is animal crossing lol), I love to play board games and card games, I’ve been getting back into reading more, I write a little bit here and there, I love to cook and bake (nothing too fancy - just easy recipes and comfort foods/desserts), when the weather is nice I like to go on walks or go out the my local park, watching shows and movies and listening to music.

If you’re interested, please dm me! 😊

I'm here for those deep connections with other women 30+ who value consistency, mutual effort, good conversation, communication, honesty and authenticity.

I love making friends, but I have very few close friends. And truthfully, I don't think my heart can take falling in love with another friend.

If you're interested in a romantic, no rush connection, then let's see how things go. I can be intense when my heart runs free but I'm going to try to hold off and wait for reciprocation this time 😅

I will be upfront and say I am chronically disabled, and use a wheelchair but if that stops you, thats an iss-you, not an iss-me, respectfully ♿️💋

Signed, a too emotionally available lover girl 💌

hi! its nice to meet you c: ill cut to the chase! I've been wanting to meet some new people so this is my chance ^^ heres a little about me;

- I'm 24 yrs old & Pisces.

- I am AFAB. I am also non-binary. She/They. Masc/Futch. INFP. Curvy/Thicker. Switch. A bit Demisexual.

- African American! I am from southern Ohio and don't mind distance. I live in my own house that I am renovating :)

- I work as a security guard, plan on getting my motorcycle license, and have 4 tattoos and am getting more.

- I have a dog and a couple cats. :)

- I enjoy playing video games (Overwatch, Sims, Tomodachi, etc!!) alot! I enjoy plenty of horror (Junji ito, A24, Blumhouse, indie films, etc.)

- I'm a big fan of star gazing, picnics, travelling, and just overall going out and having a great time!

Who I'm looking for;

- Someone who plans for their future! Have plans for college or travelling the world? Awesome! I love seeing others inspired to achieve their goals, its exactly the type of inspo I need :)

- Someone with good hygiene. I'm not saying have a k beauty regiment every morning, just don't smell bad 😭

- Someone around my age! 21+ preferably.

- Gender doesnt matter to me. I would prefer a top/switch dom c:

- Someone who plays video games so we can have fun while apart c:

- Assertive/Semi straightforward. My favorite partners have been the ones that want to kiss me and do so! Bonus points if you are sappy and romantic.

- USA pls!! I'll probably never be able to afford to move out of country and I would never risk someones safety moving here.

- No kids/ex marriages. Sorry, baggage is always too much to deal with.

- Have a kind heart. I am always willing to help someone in need. If you are cold, we wont click.

Thats pretty much it! If you made it this far, thanks for reading! I hope you have a lovely day!

Was tired, and overdid it to stay awake, anyone wanna chat? Snacking and watching YouTube with my kitty. :3

Hii I’m T from the US. I’m a bit paranoid about info on Reddit so imma keep it unidentifiable. I’m looking for someone who I relate to I guess, and that’s pretty much it. I’m low maintenance massive fucking nerd, down to talk about whatever. The kind of person I’m looking for would also be the kind of person who isn’t too caught up in how they’re perceived. Not in a “they never have social anxiety” way, more like a “they’re not constantly making life decisions and lifestyle choices based off of what gets them or takes away social points.” Also I prefer direct people, passive aggressive hoops I have to navigate every time I misstep are so stressful and not my communication style at all, and that goes both ways.

Friendship or flirtation it doesn’t really matter to me, I just wanna get to know you, but I don’t have the highest expectations from Reddit so whatever the vibe is it’s chill. Someone who talks about their interests and let’s me talk about my interests is awesome, I love learning about people, but I can’t be doing all the work it gets exhausting, I think perhaps the thing that makes me connect with people right away is when I sense that they’re as invested in the conversation as I am. I would consider myself masc in the sense that when I come out to people no one is ever surprised lol. My online texting style looks kind of like this post, you know I’m invested when you get the long disorganized paragraphs.

I’m in my second semester of college, majoring in computer science, uuuh I kinda lost my train of thought at this point, so yeah looking for someone around my age, nerdy, direct, isn’t expecting me to carry the whole conversation by myself, isn’t gonna take things too seriously, oh yeah I’m left leaning and prefer left leaning people, but I don’t really like to get into current events. Last thing, I don’t really subscribe to MBTI, but I do think it’s kind of helpful for gauging, you know, whether someone is an introvert etc, so I’m INTP if that means anything to you. So yeah if you end up reaching out introduce yourself or build off of something I said in this post or something, I don’t really know how to respond to “hey”.

I’m most nervous about with this post is that I end up talking to a 40 year old man for months or something. I don’t really know how to prevent that except the disclaimer that if you are a 40 year old man and I find out, I don’t care how great our conversation was, I’m blocking you.

32-year-old AFAB femme looking for an AFAB masc. Whether you identify as a cis woman with a masc aesthetic, nonbinary, or trans masc is all fine by me. Please note that “masc” is purely an aesthetic preference for me. I deeply value emotional availability, vulnerability, softness, and accountability, and I do not see any of those qualities as incompatible with masculinity. I am trying to be very clear on this as I have previously had experiences with mascs that questioned wether or not I was looking a "macho-masc" and I am not looking for that. It’s important to me to be with someone who takes responsibility for themselves and who shares my feminist and liberal values. Self-awareness and effort in all aspects of life are incredibly attractive to me. Strap is too, so if that’s not your thing, we’re probably not a match.

I’m an academic working within the arts and gender studies. I love spending time moving my body through hiking, working out (I’d probably outlift you despite looking softer and smaller) and sailing. I enjoy art, literature, opera, and techno raves. Cooking for friends and family is one of my greatest joys, and my relationships are a huge priority in my life. I would love to meet someone who values their own relationships just as deeply. I don’t have children.

A few details about my appearance: I’m 5’5”, wear a European size 38 (medium, I believe), white, with blue eyes. I’m naturally blonde, though my (long) hair is currently dyed copper-red. No tattoos and no piercings. I would consider myself looking stereotypically femme wearing dresses and high heels and having a preference for pink lipstick too.

No couples, no bicurious women, and no femmes please. I prefer exchanging photos early on and then taking whatever steps feel right for verification afterward. If this resonates with you, send me a message. Tell me something about yourself, especially whatever passion that makes your heart beat faster. I’m looking forward to hearing from you.

Hello everyone, I thought I’d give this ago. Hi! I’m from somewhere in SEA. I’m always hoping to find my person, and so far, I’m sure you all know that dating apps and clubs haven’t done much help.. So I thought I’d give this ago!

- I just graduated around 4 months ago! I’m working as a headhunter, but I’m hoping to land a management trainee position.. but yeah the job market has been kicking my ass lately 😞💔

- I have a lot of hobbies! I like to stay active by hiking and running, and sometimes I gym too. Aside from that, I’m a big animal person. I also love to mess around with skincare, new outfits, and I have a bunch of plushies

-I love to game, but mainly single player games.
Some of my favorites are Pokemon, Mass Effect, Cyberpunk, Life is Strange, Fire emblem, Runefactory!

- I tend to be a lone wolf. I have great friends, but I do almost everything alone, I just enjoy my own company!

I’m hoping to find someone who I can grow with. And I’d really love it if we can swap photos. I’m 5’2, pretty feminine presenting, black hair and light tan skin. Sometimes I struggle to communicate routinely, but I’ll try my best and I will tell you if its one of those days. I’m okay with long distance, I’m hoping to make friends from all over the world 🌍

What I miss the most about dating is sending random selfies throughout the day tbh! I have black hair, light tan skin and brown eyes, I wear make up pretty often. If we seem to be a good match, please don’t hesitate to message me 😃. Please send an introduction too!

I’m not currently using dating apps, so why not give this platform a try? I’m 30 years old, lesbian, and femme. I’m plus-size and tattooed. I live on the East Coast, but that’s not a deal-breaker if you’re not. I’m also a mom to a boy cat and femme for femme.
I love trying new coffee shops, finding photo booths, reading, listening to music, getting tattoos, and playing Xbox.
I’m a big texter / voice memo person and love sending photos throughout my day.
Bit of a homebody sometimes curled up on my couch with a cozy blanket and playing a video game or watching a movie (even more so after getting my boy in January 🐈‍⬛) but I do love to go on road trips & try new places I see on my feed.
Open to all connections but obviously would love to find my person & somebody that feels like home.