One expectation in the AM process that made me walk away
M here. I recently matched with someone on a matrimony app. We exchanged numbers and had our first call.
She spent most of the conversation talking about herself—how she's stubborn, doesn't like being told what to do, and values her privacy. I barely got a chance to get a word in.
The next day, we agreed on a time to talk again.
When the time came, neither of us called. After a while, she messaged saying she'd been waiting and that she expects the man to make the first move because that's how she judges whether he's genuinely interested.
That was enough for me.
If two adults mutually agree on a time, either one can make the call. What didn't sit right with me was the expectation that only one person had to prove interest.
Didn't argue. Didn't explain. I just realized we weren't compatible and moved on.
The AM process never fails to surprise me.
TL;DR: First call was one-sided. Second call, neither of us initiated. She later said she expects the man to make the first move to prove genuine interest. I realized we weren't compatible and moved on.