u/Critical_Radio1027

Hello everyone, 

So I recently started therapy again and just met with my new therapist. I looked up my assigned therapist just to get a sense of who I was going to meet, but then when I came to my appointment it looked like I found someone else with the same name. It turns out she is very attractive and if it was just that I would be ok with that. Now what has got me... "confused" which is the only way I can word it is that I think she also found me attractive. Im no Brad Pit or Timothee Chalamet or anyone like that but some days when I put my self together I could look like brad pit having a bad day I guess lol. 

Any way during our first meeting she was flustered in a way that is familiar to me when I find girls are attracted to me or when im in a flirty point of a new relationship. Making eye contact with her just made things worse so for the first quarter of the session I purposely made an effort to avoid eye contact. I know that maybe I could have been misreading the whole thing and im open to that possibility. She also keep adjusting her sweater/cardigan and looking at her self to, what I presume make sure she was covered appropriately and was professional. Which made me a little uncomfortable because it made me think that she thought I was checking her out. I of course must have check her out because I said she is attractive, but that was only at the first couple seconds of first meeting. Also not stare it was more of a quick "oh wow this person is really attractive" check out..... which to my understanding is normal....... like humans check out other humans and that's normal..... is what im told.....

Anyways now, what ever it was, when it passed we actually had a good session. She seemed to put a lot of effort and engagement with me trying to understand and help. 

My head is just swirling and I don't know what to make of the situation. A couple of things in my head are 

1. On my end I feel like my attraction is more of a physical one because, transference has not had enough time to kick in. I could not have kicked in in the fist seconds of seeing here and finding her attractive. And I don't know what to do with this.

2. If she is attracted to me ..... what do I do here in this case..... because I do find her attractive ...... I know responsibly / realistically.... some think like carl Jung or one of those guys said some thing like "therapist and clients can never be friends " I intuitively agree with that. And there for if you can't be friends you can't be in a relationship either. 

3. it was just an odd day 

4. im crazy lol

 

I don't know, I've really enjoyed and had a lot of help from going to therapy before and im excited to go back and grow more. I just did not expect this and this really through me off.

I really appreciate any help or insight on any of this from therapist or patients. 

THANK YOU!

Hello everyone,

So I recently started therapy again and just met with my new therapist. I looked up my assigned therapist just to get a sense of who I was going to meet, but then when I came to my appointment it looked like I found someone else with the same name. It turns out she is very attractive and if it was just that I would be ok with that. Now what has got me... "confused" which is the only way I can word it is that I think she also found me attractive. Im no Brad Pit or Timothee Chalamet or anyone like that but some days when I put my self together I could look like brad pit having a bad day I guess lol.

Any way during our first meeting she was flustered in a way that is familiar to me when I find girls are attracted to me or when im in a flirty point of a new relationship. Making eye contact with her just made things worse so for the first quarter of the session I purposely made an effort to avoid eye contact. I know that maybe I could have been misreading the whole thing and im open to that possibility. She also keep adjusting her sweater/cardigan and looking at her self to, what I presume make sure she was covered appropriately and was professional. Which made me a little uncomfortable because it made me think that she thought I was checking her out. I of course must have check her out because I said she is attractive, but that was only at the first couple seconds of first meeting. Also not stare it was more of a quick "oh wow this person is really attractive" check out..... which to my understanding is normal....... like humans check out other humans and that's normal..... is what im told.....

Anyways now, what ever it was, when it passed we actually had a good session. She seemed to put a lot of effort and engagement with me trying to understand and help.

My head is just swirling and I don't know what to make of the situation. A couple of things in my head are

1. On my end I feel like my attraction is more of a physical one because, transference has not had enough time to kick in. I could not have kicked in in the fist seconds of seeing here and finding her attractive. And I don't know what to do with this.

2. If she is attracted to me ..... what do I do here in this case..... because I do find her attractive ...... I know responsibly / realistically.... some think like carl Jung or one of those guys said some thing like "therapist and clients can never be friends " I intuitively agree with that. And there for if you can't be friends you can't be in a relationship either.

3. it was just an odd day

4. im crazy lol

I don't know, I've really enjoyed and had a lot of help from going to therapy before and im excited to go back and grow more. I just did not expect this and this really through me off.

I really appreciate any help or insight on any of this from therapist or patients.

THANK YOU!