how do i move on from someone who is not right for me?
i (24f) feel stuck on this guy (30m) who i never dated, but could have dated. we had a somewhat odd friendship that developed while he was in his last relationship. i had feelings for him before we became friends and i learned he had a girlfriend. he would flirt with me often and make comments that a guy probably shouldn’t make while in a relationship. i stopped talking to him after a while as i realized how bad the situation was and i felt immense guilt for being so naive. him and his girlfriend broke up a few months after and he asked me out, to which i said no as i wouldn’t want a relationship where i’m constantly worried about him talking to other women. objectively, he isn’t right for me.
the thing is, i still think about him. i’ve never been in a relationship or been wanted by a guy, and he unfortunately has been the only person to make me feel somewhat desirable. i find myself thinking about how i gave up the opportunity to be in a relationship finally and be wanted. i know it wouldn’t be a lasting relationship and that i’d never be able to trust him, so why am i still obsessed with him? i really want to move on but i’m stuck. how do i just move on?