u/CryptographerBest909

I feel like the show has already written the perfect set up for it. Sure, it was all likely written to be comical, but her never being able to rest, never being good enough and being busy all the time are the perfect recipe for a burnout.

And I think it would work well to make a lot of the haters sympathise more with Bailey and give purpose to the way she's written besides "she is the coolest person ever with practically zero flaws and married to Nolan". It would make one of her biggest traits that's seen as a plus actually be shown as her weakness.

I would like to see Nolan and Bailey try to handle it, Bailey have to come to terms with it and learn how to let herself exist without needing to prove her worth every second. She can still be a badass, but it would allow her to also be a human.

Currently my rats are 4 months old (boys), we got them 2 months ago.

I spent as much time as I can with them. At least an hour a day, often more to 2/3 hours (or 4/5) in the playpen with them and I am a lot of the time in the same room as them. At night we give them food to scavenge but throughout the day I handfeed them to build a good bond (im home pretty much all the time and if im not we do scavenge feed them instead).

Recently one of the rats had escaped and so for 2 days we didnt take the others out of the cage (we wanted to leave the playpen open in hopes the missing rat would turn himself in for love of his family).

I thought we had made some good progress with the rats and they trusted/liked me, 2 of them would let me pick them up (granted I had food) . But the day after the missing rat was captured, we had to bring all the rats with us because of the heatwave.

And it was as if they had never known me. They were scared to grab food out of my hand, or to let me pick them up (even though I have been training them on it). They would run to the corner and try to stay away from me. And if we got them into the carrier, they spent every second escaping (even if I put babyfood in there, peas and toys). In the end it took like 1.5/2 hours to get them, and it got really close to us having to potentially leave them as we had already passed the time we could leave without risking getting sick and it was getting close to the hottest moment.

And I just felt so.. defeated. It felt like all hours I have put in playing with them, training them, giving them food.. was for nothing.

They dont want to be petted. They dont like being in the hoodie. They dont want to play with me (or dont understand). One of them is scared to even really let me touch him at all or have my hand close to him and everytime I think I make progress he suddenly reverts back. If I try to take them on my shoulder to walk around, they try to get off.

And I thought that was fine with the idea that we are building a bond now, we've only had them for so little time, they are just young still and energetic, but after seeing how quickly the progress reverted, how quickly it felt like I became a stranger to them after 2 days of no playpen time.. it just feels like all that effort is for nothing, that I'm not building any bond at all.

Maybe I have been doing it all wrong? Been putting too much focus on getting them used to handleability that it eroded the trust and now there's nothing? Maybe im just not cut out to be a rat parent. Idk I just feel so defeated, like all my effort has been valiant.

We got the rats after the owners had been gone for 5-7 days on a trip (as in the exact day they came back), and I also notice I keep wondering, if maybe that is why they are the way they are, since they werent handled in those days, and if we had just waited a couple more days, maybe they would have been alright?

Sorry to ask this here, but I want to go prepared to my GP with possible steps to take as he has been a bit dismissive, or just things I could do at home.

I have been getting sick every 2 weeks to every month the past year. It is most of the time sore throat, headache/sluggish and feverish and sometimes stuffy nose.

I have asthma and likely chronic sinusitis. I used to get sick quite often, but that was like 4/5x time a year, now its been like 15x times this year. According to my mom I did used to get sick a lot when I was young, till I was like 8.

I have done a blood test and that came out normal.

And.. I just dont know what to do anymore. I dont want to overexaggerate but I am starting to lose my mind a bit.

Any tips of what to check? Or things I could do? Thanks in advance!