I think I finally understood why Dutch people use “even” for things that are absolutely not even
For ages I translated even literally as “for a moment”, which worked until I started actually listening to how people use it.
Ik ga even naar de supermarkt. Kun je even helpen? Ik bel hem even. We gaan even kijken.
Then someone at work said he was going to “even” sort something out and disappeared into a meeting for almost an hour.
At that point I realised the duration is almost beside the point. Half the time even seems to make an action socially smaller rather than actually shorter. A request becomes less heavy, a plan sounds less dramatic, and something mildly inconvenient is presented as if we're all just casually dealing with it.
Now I notice it constantly, and I'm also noticing how strangely blunt some perfectly grammatical Dutch sentences can sound without these tiny words. My textbook taught me verbs and word order, but apparently nobody warned me that a considerable amount of Dutch politeness is hidden inside words that look completely unnecessary on paper.
I find this much more interesting than the usual “Dutch people are direct” explanation because spoken Dutch seems full of little devices for softening things without becoming formally polite.
Native speakers: do you actually hear a difference when someone leaves even out of a request? And what other tiny Dutch words carry way more social meaning than their dictionary definition suggests?