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First off, I apologize if I don't express myself very well; I have LGBT friends, but I don't usually participate much in conversations within the community.

I am a cis man, and I have a friend I've known since college who is biologically female but identifies as Non-Binary, using male pronouns.

I've known this person for a few years and we even flirted a bit back then, but at the time, he told me he didn't want to because he felt that straight men usually didn't understand him. Our friendship continued normally after that.

Over time, I started to become more interested in him in that way. I don't feel we are a match for dating, mostly because of what we each want in the future, but I would like to have something with him—more casual, easy-going, and so on.

Lately, this has kept me thinking because I don't consider myself gay; I have no interest in cis men, but I have a lot of interest in this friend. Would I fit into any specific sexual orientation?

I would like to bring up the subject of us getting involved, but at the same time, I don't want it to seem to him that I want to be with him out of a fetish, nor that I'm only interested in him because he is NB, which I feel would be putting him in a box, as if that were his only characteristic—and it's not, he is cool, funny, and I like being with him. I'm also in doubt if saying I'm looking to explore my sexuality more and would like to do that with him would be a good approach.

I'm already kind of awkward with heteronormative relationships, and this is a completely new scenario for me. Could you please help me? I would like to do this in the most respectful and light way possible, without any kind of weight or pressure in the way I express myself to him.

First off, I apologize if I don't express myself very well; I have LGBT friends, but I don't usually participate much in conversations within the community.

I am a cis man, and I have a friend I've known since college who is biologically female but identifies as Non-Binary, using male pronouns.

I've known this person for a few years and we even flirted a bit back then, but at the time, he told me he didn't want to have anything because he felt that straight men usually didn't understand him. We continued our friendship normally after that.

Over time, I started to become more interested in him in that way. I don't feel we are a match for dating, mostly because of what we each want in the future, but I would like to have something with him—more casual, easy-going, and so on.

Lately, this has kept me thinking because I don't consider myself gay; I have no interest in cis men, but I have a lot of interest in this friend. Would I fit into any specific sexual orientation?

I would like to bring up the subject of us getting involved, but at the same time, I don't want it to seem to him that I want to be with him out of a fetish, nor that I'm only interested in him because he is NB, which I feel would be putting him in a box, as if that were his only characteristic—and it's not, he is cool, funny, and I like being with him. I'm also in doubt if saying I'm looking to explore my sexuality more and would like to do that with him would be a good approach.

I'm already kind of awkward with heteronormative relationships, and this is a completely new scenario for me. Could you please help me? I would like to do this in the most respectful and light way possible, without any kind of weight or pressure in the way I express myself to him.

Já de antemão peço desculpas caso eu não me expressar mto bem, tenho amizades lgbt mas não costumo participar mto de diálogos dentro da comunidade.

Sou um homem cis e tenho uma amizade que conheço desde a faculdade que é biologicamente mulher , mas ze identifica como Não Binario, usando pronomes masculinos.

Eu conheço essa pessoa faz alguns anos, já cheguei a ter uns flertes com ele, mas na época ele falou comigo dizendo que não queria pq sentia que homens héteros normalmente não entendiam ele.

Com o passar do tempo eu comecei a me interessar mais por ele nesse sentido, não sinto que combinamos pra namoro mais por coisas que cada um quer no futuro, mas eu gostaria de ter algo com ele, mais numa boa, casual e tals.

Ultimamente isso tem me deixado meio pensativo pq eu não me considero gay, eu não tenho interesse por homens cis, mas tenho mto interesse nesse amigo. Eu entraria dentro de alguma característica em específico de sexualidade?

Eu gostaria de puxar essa questão de nos relacionarmos, mas ao mesmo tempo, eu não quero que fique parecendo pra ele que eu quero me envolver com ele por fetiche, nem que eu me interesso nele só por ele ser NB, oq eu sinto que seria colocar ele numa caixinha, como se fosse a única caracteristica dele, e não é, ele é legal, divertido e gosto de estar com ele. Também fico na dúvida se dizer que estou querendo explorar mais minha sexualidade e que gostaria de fazer isso com ele seria uma boa abordagem.

Eu já sou meio desengonçado com relacionamentos heteronormativos, aqui é um cenário completamente novo pra mim, poderiam por favor me ajudar? Gostaria de fazer isso da forma mais respeitosa e leve possível, sem nenhum tipo de peso ou pressão na forma de me expressar com ele.