u/Cultural-Aspect-9865

Let's say you have had strong feelings (some conflicted) for a coworker for some time but you want to move on from it and lose those feelings because ultimately you know it's not a healthy situation for either of you when you are both not willing to speak about it and staying guarded. You want to move on but how do you go about losing feelings for someone you have to see throughout the week in a healthy way? Would you limit interactions to a complete minimum and allow yourself time for the feelings to pass? There's communication barriers on both sides that have been built and will likely never even out so if we take having a conversation about it off the table....what would you do? Or how did you deal with a similar situation?

Apologies if this is the wrong sub to ask this

I'm still insanely attracted to you but you know this already right? Now before you have a panic attack right now just know that I'm perfectly capable of admiring you from afar without expecting some sort of reconciliation, I get that's not likely to happen now. There's a few things I wanted to get off my chest and tell you for so long along with a very big apology that you deserved. I tried but every time it felt like an encroachment on your peace, but I think I'm beginning to let it be now. Call it an epiphany I guess 🤷‍♂️

You are still and will always be a little shit, in the best possible way "but hey"I like that about you so keep it up! ♥️

Sorry I couldn't get my feelings out. You know I tried right? I wanted to but really it must have felt like it came out of the blue to you, I realised that and retreated. I never wanted to cause you any more confusion as I might have done already. I've always wanted to try with you but I wanted it to come at a time that felt right and at a time when both of us let our guard down at the same time. I'm not sure if that time will ever come, we both hurt each other and are cautious, well at least I am. I have no idea where your head is at really.

I know that if I can't speak to you about it by now then I have to let it go for both of our sakes.

I've made my mind up. Im closing that chapter of us in my own head. I don't want to but I have to now. I had some hope that through time and space things might go in a certain direction but it all now feels like it was never going to happen. I'm confused about you and I have to let it go for good this time. I think it's probably what we both need at this point. All I can do is apologise for the way I've been over time when still holding feelings and not being upfront about things when I should have been, when it actually mattered most and maybe things could have been easier. I became a person I no longer recognised but I came through and eventually found myself again and started living life. I feel like these doubts and uncertainty I have about you are only holding my progress back at this point. I think this same thing might go for you too with regards to how you feel about me if there's anything still there. I honestly believe that this will bring you more peace than living in the status quo would.

You are a great girl with a lot to offer to the person who is right for you, I can tell...so keep being you!

Take care ♥️

3 weeks ago I decided to put my time and energy into rebuilding something with a previous partner. I feel like absolute shit about it because honestly I wanted it to be you. You were gone almost completely I had finally managed to let you go in my mind, all the signs were there telling me not to step any further and I've learned to stay disciplined and focused on my own shit now but I've been lying to myself these past few weeks It's still you I want to take the chance with and it always has been. But that hope was lost long ago wasn't it or is there actually some left? If you tell me that you were interested id be there and make the time, effort and space for you to see what could happen and if it doesn't work out then hey I'm sure we respect each other enough to let it go gently?

Can you tell by the way I look into your eyes? Do you know how many times I've thought of kissing you right there and then? It would hardly be appropriate would it but there ya go!

Ok so let's just say I have a coworker who I've been interested in for some time. To cut a long story short...I've made multiple errors in judgement and how I've handled this situation in the past but I now believe that she does actually like me too. I'm learning to trust my gut rather than let anxious thoughts make the decision for me. However this wouldn't be the first time I've read things wrong but that's just the feeling I have right now.

Question

If someone made conscious efforts in the past to avoid you and not speak after initially liking you in that way, but after some time with that dynamic they changed suddenly and is now a bit more present, smiling and generally with a more positive demeanour around you...would you assume that they are trying to be more positive etc in general around you just to make the workplace easier on both of you or would you think that they might be trying to show that more open and friendly, chatty body language in attempt to see if you are still interested?

Do I trust my instinct here and risk another misstep or do I give it time and see what happens gradually through time? I don't want to miss any potential hints if that's what she is trying to do but still I can't afford to make a poor judgement choice. Not again and not with this person in particular.

I don't want to want you but still at the same time I do want to want you more than you'll probably ever realise. I know that we would destroy each other ultimately or at least that's the conclusion I've came to, I don't know anymore really. Nothing seems to gel like it should on a personal and emotional level between us and there's probably many reasons for that on both ends. We live very different lives don't we

Yet every time I look at you all of that goes out the window and I know exactly what I want and where I want you. You have this crazy hold on me without even trying and I've never had that sort of tension with anyone before. There are times when I'm positive you can read me better than I'm able to read myself in a moment like that. So tell me...am I right?