u/CulturalAlbatross891

I'm seeing quite a lot of posts about only developing sexual interest in people after getting to know them and getting close emotionally (demisexuality), which is basically the opposite of fraysexuality (when someone only experiences sexual attraction towards those that they are not deeply connected with, and loses that attraction as they get to know the person).

Mind you, this is not the sex drive naturally going lower the longer the relationship lasts, it's it dropping to zero and feeling repulsed by the same partner you were thoroughly attracted to just a few sexual encounters ago.

This quite literally sums up all my past relationships and I hate it, because at the same time I'm very romantic (and can be monogamous in that). My perfect relationship would be to only have sex for the first few weeks/months and then never again, but stay together forever or even get married. I just cannot understand the point of routinely having sex with the same person for a few years (or more), after this initial adrenaline and mystery are gone. It's only awkward and I'm 0% aroused by the person I already know well (even if I find them physically attractive). Does that make sense to anyone? How do you cope?

I have this relative that seems very high in narcissistic and histrionic traits. She'd constantly talk about how uniquely amazing she thinks she is and at the same time victimised by the whole world, because no one recognises her superiority enough (surprise, surprise).

I fell out of her good graces after I refused a few favours she asked me. I also couldn't resist to jokingly call her out a few times or laugh off some of her rants. However, it's probably not the most sensible way to act with such people as they can be quite vindictive. It also shook me when I once saw how disturbingly different she acts in public vs. private and I don't want to have anything to do with her. However, it's unavoidable for me to meet her a few times a year. How best to neutrally handle her without losing my ground, validating her and giving her supply?