Did I overthink this or trust my gut?
We (both early 30s) met on an app and had a really good first date, lots of laughter, easy conversation, and strong chemistry. The next few dates were consistently good too, including mutual intimacy and effort from both ends.
After the 7th date, he told me he “wasn’t sure about the spark.” That caught me off guard because from my perspective, things felt like they were naturally building, slow but steady.
After that he texted wanting another date, but something shifted for me. I started feeling like if I continued seeing him, it would feel like I was trying to win approval instead of just being myself. It started to feel a bit performative, which didn’t sit right with. So I didn’t pursue meeting again.
Now I’m wondering was that a fair gut reaction, overthinking perhaps or should I have kept going and seen if things evolved anyway?
Curious how others would have handled this, especially if you’ve been on either side of it.