u/CupcakeVirtual3951

50 female married in 2015, my husband been acting a little suspicious lately, nothing drastic , ok first ,I came by our house during work hrs ,I work days he works nights, his truck was not ther, and it was 1pm ,not like him at all to not be I. Bed, I listen in the room door ,I hurt the ac /fan .so I figured he rode home with his son ,he lives with us and work same job, work keys was ther etc , but why leave his truck, I went by his work , truck was ther ,I thought, so went on back to work came home 2 hrs later ,truck was ther ,and I noticed something different, about truck so went back to his work ,sure enough that wasn't his truck, so came in , a car fax on table ,I said ok he went to , loom at that car ,but all day ,I was still unsure ,but that night he goes back in to work,, and comes home early wakes me as my alarm going off ,I said what are u doing here ,he said I left early, ok why not come to bed , weird, then I get to work ,and later I remember the tile in his truck I out ther , and it pinged him 7hrs ,earlier at a house, lol not his work, and in opposite direction of our house, idk, ther been few things ,in past ,not alot not often, I use his phone few times and he was over my shoulder, that's not normal, his behavior with me is as normal loving, cuddles , sex not as often as usual ive notice, but he says he just hates taking those t shots, yes we are that old ,and or is jut tired ,he doe work day and night 7 days , at home and his job, always home nothing that I can see ther , Hayes going anywhere, always answer call and texts, but but the house ,thing idk, did this while ago, left work early said he had been at waffle house, I was like for 4 hrs, idk, he has cheated before marriage, but has never gave me a reason to not trust him in 15 yrs , we are together when he is not at work, but that is the time I'm worried about all of a sudden, before I knew ,I knew i felt it ,the way he got cold with me ,nothing like that now , he loves being home and together ,but idk, plz am I crazy, how can I make sure ,or do I just keep quiet and watch ?

My son 29, is so difficult to talk to ,and i mother 52 have alot problems understanding and not a good listener when it comes to alot of his nonsense, rants ,words vomit lectures, we constantly argue, we always have ,its just to the point where I'm done ,I can't take i can't handle it ,and im tire of letting him get buy with not helping and disrespecting me ,

Here's a little back story, sorry if its long and misspelled, I have im very tired and angry and can't see well at the moment, so , my son is one those argue u down and prove he is right ppl, he is so much like his dad its unreal, we are not married divorced after 15 yrs, but my son's mout and argumentative ways has been a problem sense he was young, first off his dad never punished him for anything, nothing was ever his fault, at school at home ,nothing they just didn't like him, or picking on him,I had to kids prior ,and he would take from them to give to my son in question, life was a fight, he has never known accountability, so everything is other person fault, he has no respect for anyone except friends and ther parents, o ther the grandest, they don't treat him or talk to him like I do, they listen, etc, well they don't live with u days to day either, ok. He lived with me the whole time I made him live with his dad some ,when it get bad ,but then it get bad ther to he can't handle what he created (that mouth)so he come back to my house, I remarried my husband was so over the arguing, he says it was both of us , idk, i guess some was but I could not ask him to do anything or have any conversation with him ,he turn it in to argumentative so he wouldn't have to do anything, he never help out , do anything or fuss about what he dis do , now he i. His 20s, doing this ,, ok I bought an lot ,that we were gonna do something with i didn't know what yet, my son had been looking for a house to buy for a yr with no luck as to ,every one out bidding him from all over the place during covid, so I let him get a mobile home to put at my lot , to get him out of my house, I couldn't take it any more, now been idk 3 yrs ,he is ther he want help keep up the lot at all, works and then comes home to video games , want do anything want help anyone ,and don't want no o e asking him for anything, now said lot is nxt to family, and he don't like them bothering him asking him for nothing ,and they don't buy way, I tell him to get out help with yard ,want ,I said spray the weeds want , just nothing, now I was gonna do camper lots on this property, he had to put in septic, witch ive not charged him any rent because of this , for now , and dirt work etc, but I got a camper spot rented, and he started fussing ,because I said would he want to share garbage service and split it ,and that was a mess I don't want nothing to do with no one I ain't splitting nothing etc so hateful, always twisting my words ,and hangs on to anything and everything u say, to throw at u later ,he is so exhausting, and I don't know what to do ,now I make ev else help and they do it all but he gets to sit ther do nothing around property, and im just over helping, I said u hate family so much then ur getting, what u want I'm done , and I am ,what should I do make him move his home , idk I'm at a loss ,ive let this get to far , and ita not gonna change because, he keeps an argument so I mad and want ask him to do anything, and advice is welcome, if we are all so dad, I think he needs to find out what being alone is like ,...help