u/Curiosity_Seeker_8

I (40M) am in a LTR with a woman (44F) and facing conflicting feelings. She currently has a part-time job but is broke. She and her mother live together in a small home 40 minutes away from me where I rent a 1BR apartment. We want to get married or at least live together, but due to circumstances haven’t. Her ex, whose name is on the lease, has helped her with rent a couple times in the past year. I have two hourly jobs, one FT, one PT, so I get by okay but I don’t feel that secure in either job.

In the past six months she has asked me a few times now if I could help out with rent. I do love her a lot. Financial problems aren’t new to her and I lent her money once before. She eventually paid it back but this time around I’m not confident she’d be able to unless she gains FT employment. (I don’t want to make excuses for her, but there are legitimate reasons it’s been difficult for her to find work).

I feel like a jerk for not helping out, but if I lend money and another month goes by and she’s still in the same situation, I’ll feel like I threw hard-earned money away. She’s been getting some public assistance but has not taken full advantage of possible services, particularly (frustratingly) career counseling through the EDD. If it comes to her being evicted, I’d do my best to help her find shelter and I’d hope that would lead to programs that can help her find work. She is college-educated, and bright and kind. Her degree is in English.

I’ve heard different opinions and though ultimately I know it falls on me to figure it out for myself I just feel at a loss, like there’s not even a happy medium.

I'm not sure I'm in the right forum for this but looking for advice for my two websites. I have one with WordPress that concerns license plate collecting and information about license plates. I guess you'd call it a static website - once a page is created, it's updated with new photos but that's about it. I am currently on the Premium Plan (the lowest paid version). I get average 50-100 views per day, with a large percentage on one particular page.

The other is with Webador and is a travel website highlighting my experiences (focusing on roadside attractions etc.). It's basically a blog except currently I am rarely adding to it, and since I only travel a few select weeks out of a year fresh entries are uncommon. I'm on the free plan and it basically gets zero traffic.

To be fair I have a lot of other stuff going on and though I really want to devote more time to both sites particularly in terms of promotion I've had difficulty finding the time. My WordPress site has Google AdSense but that only earns a few bucks a month. The idea has been to make the travel site a non-free one so it has it's own domain; when I upgraded the WordPress one from free to Premium I had an uptick in views that has stuck, and I would think the same thing would happen with Webador. I just haven't because I've wanted to add more entries before starting that process.

I'd like to have one provider for both, or find a way to combine the sites into one. I'm experiencing frustrations with the WordPress functionality and find Webador easier to use. With the WordPress site the actual page looks significantly different than the editing version but with Webador it's pretty much the exact same. Also, the WP site has a limit on storage and my license plate site uses lots of images, while with Webador it's unlimited.

I'm not sure if one provider over the other would tend to get more traffic based on the provider's credentials. Any thoughts/experiences with this stuff could be very helpful. Thanks.

My friend has been unemployed for two years. She recently got a job as an usher/greeter at a major league ballpark, and her first game is today. Though happy for her, I am also concerned due to the type of work. Prior to this, post-college she only worked in the publishing industry. She has difficulty remaining on her feet for long periods, and this job requires that. She had an injury when she was younger that contributed to this.

I am hoping the necessity to be employed (she has no reliable income and is barely getting by) will be enough to keep her going. She is a huge fan of the team and I think the urgency of getting employed and her fandom allowed her to put aside the concerns.

There's an additional concern of certain fan interactions she may have to deal with (e.g., intoxicated people) and even though she's received training she's nervous about certain situations. But the physical aspects are definitely the most worrisome at the start. Her first day is today. I'm rooting for her of course. I'm wondering if others have been in this kind of situation, where you had to take any job you could get despite concerns about ability to handle all the aspects of it.