I’m doing some research on fearful avoidant attachment and the parts that contribute to patterns. What would you say were the parts that have been present and needed support and what capacities did your parts benefit from integrating? Thank you
I am becoming secure and I still struggle in relationships, my last one I was living in another country and I was living in survival mode so I got into a relationship where they wouldnt respect a boundary and would feel rejected or threatened when I said I had work to do. They were also controlling and jealous and now I am living in a community home where I feel more grounded, connected and less isolated. I think i have become secure and I won't ever be in a relationship where my core needs aren't met and I will never rush again. I am enjoying this time with myself and having mu own space and routines. I think I am at a turning point in my life. I'm also at a point in my life where I am in my career chapter and I am still building a career and financial stability, which is taking some time. Did you obtain secure attachment but still struggle to choose secure and confident partners? I'd like to hear other people's journeys of coming home to themselves and having stronger boundaries and focusing on yourself and then creating secure relationships and choosing a healthier partner.
Has anybody come across research that show the variables that mediate the impact between attachment styles and secure relationships? What research have you found that explore other variables that contribute to someones experience of creating secure romantic relationships?