Old abuser found me on another social media after I blocked her last year. At my wits end here
TW abusers crossing boundaries, mentions of stalking, homophobia
(This is a heavy post! You’ve been warned. 🫂)
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Hey it’s Cherub. Haven’t posted in awhile but here I am and not in a good mood.
So to keep it to the point— one particular abusive relative I blocked simply won’t leave me alone and its so triggering. Lets call her M.
I made it very clear last time I spoke to M that she needs to Leave Me Alone! This is the same relative who abused me for years and parentified me very much among other awful things that kinda Need Their Own Vent Posts tbh 😅. I had blocked M and again made it clear where I stood after she triggered me So Badly last Christmas.
Shortly after that, another relative passed (who I also hate lol rip) and she (M) tried using one of my sisters to guilt me into speaking to her about the funeral despite me being NC with my immediate bloodline since 2018. I made it Very Clear then too, saying “do NOT use my sister to cross a boundary after I made it clear I want to be left alone.”
Everything was ok after that. I knew I rocked the boat there but didn’t care (and still dont lol). For awhile I was free and unbothered. It was genuinely great! I felt proud of myself for sticking to my boundary and telling folk to piss off!
…..Until recently! M had somehow found my work instagram that I’m out as being Very Queer on (since I work with a queer org in my area!). This is the same relative who harmed me based off her own religious beliefs. So…I saw she followed me and just blocked her. This was last night.
I still feel very Activated And Triggered this morning + had an awful PTSD nightmare. Unsure what to do since I really thought going NC would work. I have been clear MULTIPLE times that I am NC but she won’t quit.
I hate having my boundaries crossed and hate M even more for refusing to leave me be. She had stalked me when I first made it clear I’m going NC and I just…am unsure of what else to do.
UPDATE: I’ve decided I’m moving forward with pursuing a restraining order so I deleted the other part of my post discussing my hesitation towards it.
My siblings have all basically said they support me + I’m sick of living in fear of this woman at my age + I remembered one other really messed up thing she did and yeah…this is the final straw.
M clearly thinks shit is sweet and I’ll just let her keep tabs on me via my work instagram I’m very unabashedly queer on despite her awful homophobia driven abuse towards me.
She’s wrong. And I’m tired of being walked over. Wish me luck yall. I refuse to let this shit slide any longer. 🫂🩷