u/Cute-Masterpiece-648

I hope things are better, the more I try the more resistance I face from my wife. Me and my wife had some ups and downs. Last summer I was going through a lot of stress, I had debts to pay, I wasn't getting any intimacy from my wife and I was only a month away from paying off my debt, by this time my wife's mom would have completed 2 months of living with us although we agreed to move together to have some sort of "independency", enjoy our time together and stuff, there was always an excuse for her mom to come but once my mom comes it gets all weird, my mom never over stayes. I respectfully told my wife what was going on my head and she started being disrespectful immediately, in the past she used to justify being disrespectful by hormonal changes, pregnancy, postpartum and I somehow believed it until I read the book of no more mr nice guy, and I realized there is no excuse for disrespectful behavior. I had a tense week of trying to work my way around her behavior and it was tough trying to have a decent conversation with her mom always there. One day I just didn't come back home. I filed for divorce and I said I can't live with this anymore, for 5 days she asked for forgiveness and said she will do whatever it takes, her mom called and said she would leave. By that time I was staying at my mom's place, my father's and my mother's family sides saw me in this situation and they gave me the I told you so, you're on your own now, and were somehow enjoying what i went through. I went to the local imam at our masjid, I told him what to do, he said, you've got a child, and as far as I know this can be easily solved, he suggested I get back again with her which I did eventually after some thinking, now she naggs probably every day, refuses to visit mom and doesn't allow our one year old daughter to see my mom, saying my mom was the reason for the last summer divorce incident. Each time we open this topic, she fights back using all kinds of stuff, silent treatment, cold treatment, and if I get angry she says you are making our lives harder if you take a decision to end this marriage I won't stop you

I hope for things to get better, the more I try the more resistance I face from my wife. Me and my wife had some ups and downs. Last summer I was going through a lot of stress, I had debts to pay, I wasn't getting any intimacy from my wife and I was only a month away from paying off my debt, by this time my wife's mom would have completed 2 months of living with us although we agreed to move together to have some sort of "independency", enjoy our time together and stuff, there was always an excuse for her mom to come but once my mom comes it gets all weird, my mom never over stayes. I respectfully told my wife what was going on my head and she started being disrespectful immediately, in the past she used to justify being disrespectful by hormonal changes, pregnancy, postpartum and I somehow believed it until I read the book of no more mr nice guy, and I realized there is no excuse for disrespectful behavior. I had a tense week of trying to work my way around her behavior and it was tough trying to have a decent conversation with her mom always there. One day I just didn't come back home. I filed for divorce and I said I can't live with this anymore, for 5 days she asked for forgiveness and said she will do whatever it takes, her mom called and said she would leave. By that time I was staying at my mom's place, my father's and my mother's family sides saw me in this situation and they gave me the I told you so, you're on your own now, and were somehow enjoying what i went through. I went to the local imam at our masjid, I told him what to do, he said, you've got a child, and as far as I know this can be easily solved, he suggested I get back again with her which I did eventually after some thinking, now she naggs probably every day, refuses to visit mom and doesn't allow our one year old daughter to see my mom, saying my mom was the reason for the last summer divorce incident. Each time we open this topic, she fights back using all kids of stuff, silent treatment, cold treatment, and if I get angry she says you are making our lives harder if you take a decision to end this marriage I won't stop you.

I hope things are better, the more I try the more resistance I face from my wife. Me and my wife had some ups and downs. Last summer I was going through a lot of stress, I had debts to pay, I wasn't getting any intimacy from my wife and I was only a month away from paying off my debt, by this time my wife's mom would have completed 2 months of living with us although we agreed to move together to have some sort of "independency", enjoy our time together and stuff, there was always an excuse for her mom to come but once my mom comes it gets all weird, my mom never over stayes. I respectfully told my wife what was going on my head and she started being disrespectful immediately, in the past she used to justify being disrespectful by hormonal changes, pregnancy, postpartum and I somehow believed it until I read the book of no more mr nice guy, and I realized there is no excuse for disrespectful behavior. I had a tense week of trying to work my way around her behavior and it was tough trying to have a decent conversation with her mom always there. One day I just didn't come back home. I filed for divorce and I said I can't live with this anymore, for 5 days she asked for forgiveness and said she will do whatever it takes, her mom called and said she would leave. By that time I was staying at my mom's place, my father's and my mother's family sides saw me in this situation and they gave me the I told you so, you're on your own now, and were somehow enjoying what i went through. I went to the local imam at our masjid, I told him what to do, he said, you've got a child, and as far as I know this can be easily solved, he suggested I get back again with her which I did eventually after some thinking, now she naggs probably every day, refuses to visit mom and doesn't allow our one year old daughter to see my mom, saying my mom was the reason for the last summer divorce incident. Each time we open this topic, she fights back using all kids of stuff, silent treatment, cold treatment, and if I get angry she says you are making our lives harder if you take a decision to end this marriage I won't stop you.