Sister and boyfriend don’t get along - navigating family gatherings
I guess this is more so just a “am I in the wrong”.
My sister and boyfriend do not get along at all due to previous fallout between all of us a couple years ago. She refuses to have anything to do with my boyfriend. So much so that she didn’t even come to my baby shower. She’s even told me that she doesn’t plan on attending any of my son’s birthdays because that means she’d have to be around my boyfriend.
He feels the same way towards her, however, he’s been much more open to being around each other so that my family can all be together.
My dad wants everyone up at his cottage for the weekend so they can see my baby and when I said my boyfriend would like to come he basically told me no because my sister will be there and he doesn’t want it to be uncomfortable for her. He said any other time is fine just not this weekend. My boyfriend does not feel comfortable having our son go somewhere that he isn’t welcome, which i completely understand and respect.
My dad still keeps pushing that I bring my baby and just myself and can’t seem to understand why I won’t bring my son. I’ve explained to him that we are a package deal and it’s not relaxing for me if I’m going to have to be taking care of the baby the whole time by myself. My boyfriend is my support and he’s the only other person who knows how to soothe our son and keep him happy.
How would you react if you had to deal with this, or if you have, what happened?
TL/DR: my boyfriend doesn’t feel comfortable with me bringing our son somewhere that my boyfriend isn’t invited to.