u/CuteEstablishment852

My dad left my mom for a few years. And I yelled at him when I was twenty one and because he's an attorney, he told the police that came for the dispute.Because we were yelling back and forth to arrest me.And they did for no reason. hes an attorney and tends to manipulate the law to favor him. I threw a plastic water bottle, and he wouldn't dismiss it until I went to therapy, which I didn't need because my feelings, I think were valid to be angry at him for all the craziness for the years, he kept doing stuff to my mom

Fast forward to being happy.I moved away.I've been in two relationships which my parents every time I come home, manage to ruin. My last happy one.My dad left me at the ice cream stop on the fourth of july after I had finished military orders.And I had to walk home my new man, and I broke up shortly after because I was so upset. Then, I met a new guy and I took him to a family event, and my parents told me that I had to leave and he couldn't come to the wedding.And that ended shortly after even though my dad tried to text him and be fake and say it was very nice to meet him.He seems very nice sorry.Their circumstances weren't different this guy also doesn't want anything to do with me

I finally was able to get myself in a good headspace and get a good job.And I haven't really talked to them since I went home for christmas again.To try to make things work.And they said that I ruin every holiday and they didn't go to the holiday christmas party because they blamed me for ruining it by being there. However, even though I have them blocked, I saw a missed call for my dad because I told him that this guy that I brought to the wedding. I caught cheating because a woman called him and my dad had yelled at me and dismissed me to be normal so I hadn't talked to him for a month. And a 1 and I was really moving on. I have a great job and I am moving on and I see a missed call from my dad. In my Spam, from May 5th. Along with a fancy irish wedding invite for my brothers wedding and i'm my sister in law's party in july.I'm not going to . Long story short, I feel very free and likable, but when I see notifications for my dad, I turn into some demon and guys don't want to be around me.I get really closed off.Does anyone have any advice for managing boundaries? Should I i feel guilty about not returning his call?And just continuing to move on

Explained I want to be NP and im 25% thru program with a 3.5 GPA and could use the financial support for clinicals. I also work part time cna but i have one week of month im in bed otherwise reliable. questioned me saying how can u make it thru program if one week in bed, why do you need us if GI Bill ?(800 a month, doesnt cover education since masters). send transcrips and career assessment and 5 jobs and we can talk. and said theyd email me that. overall i got the impression he didnt want to sign off on me, as he said he had other candidates too and he had a boss himself. tried to explain i cant work during clinicals approaching soon.Was really cold flat and like skeptical like what if i suddenly chose a diferent path (i tend to). should i request a new counselor

Guy didnt seem to be a fan. asked me about my handicap and i said im in bed a week in a half, so why can i function in NP school? Well I have a 25% of program completion with A GPA. And he said idk theres a few of you that all want funding and I have a boss and people quit things easily, hed send me a career assessment and to send him 5 jobs in the market. Also I already have the GI Bill (800$ a month stipend) so

I’m trying to figure out if I still have options with my PMDD claim. The VA rated my PMDD under 38 CFR 4.116 (gynecological conditions) at 10%, even though I have severe uterus pain, cycle‑related symptoms, and no improvement with continuous hormonal birth control. Under that diagnostic code, the max rating is 30%, so I feel capped no matter how bad my symptoms get.

The VA also sent me to a psychiatrist. She diagnosed me with single episode depression? and anxious distress (I showed up without sleep and was dealing with a personal conflict at the time that I did not speak of in the exam) but then said it was just distress wasn’t caused by my PMDD or migraines, (WTF???) so the mental health claim was denied. The problem is that most of my impairment is psychiatric — mood swings, depression, anxiety, loss of relationships, loss of enjoyment, and weeks where I can’t function.

I filed a increase for the original claim saying that it is not improving with treatment thus warranting a higher rating than 10%

Should I file a new Claim and added a statement asking the VA to consider rating PMDD under both 4.116 (physical symptoms) and 4.130 (mental health), since the symptoms are separate and affect different body systems.

My question is:
Does the denial of depression mean I can’t get PMDD rated under mental health anymore? Or can the VA still change the diagnostic code and rate the psychiatric symptoms as part of PMDD?

Anyone dealt with PMDD being rated under mental health instead of gynecological?