AITAH for refusing to listen to my housemates gf's apology because of what she did to my family?
I will try to sum this up as best I can.
I (25F) and my bf (25M) live with a friend and ex-coworker of mine, who I'll call Mark (38M). We live in a room in his house and have done for over a year and a half now. I will add that I am physically disabled so I am home most of the time.
Mark started seeing this other ex-coworker of mine, who I'll call Amy(24F), for over a year and their relationship is just a mess.
They go out and drink constantly, and will come back and scream at each other and break things in the house. Mark has had to call the police multiple times on her to kick her out.
This has happened more times that I can count, and he always says he's done with her. Me, bf, and two of our other friends all support him through this, but they always end up back together.
At one point during one of their horrific fights, I could hear Amy screaming and breaking things, and because she will always make the excuse of she was drunk and avoids accountability, I started to record on my phone. I was in my room, door locked, lights off. I didn't film them directly, but I captured everything that was said and smashed. And at one point, she tried to hit him. He immediately called the police and she was dragged off.
I later told him I had a recording of this, and he was so happy and he told me that he was happy we now ha proof. He promised not to tell anyone about this, as I didn't want to get dragged into this further than I already had been.
And then they got back together again.
Now for the main event. This happened 4 months ago, a day after my birthday. We were all out for a karaoke night at the pub, and I'd invited my sister, who I'll call Eve (19F).
I had told all my friends and my BF to never leave Eve alone as she is a very attractive young woman and I am very protective of my siblings. They all agreed.
The night was amazing and me and my BF stayed with Eve the entire time. Then the bar closed. We were grabbing our coats and bags to leave and Amy was very drunk. We asked if she was okay and started screaming at all of us. We couldn't even make out what she was saying except for all the swearing.
We tried to get her into a taxi with us but she refused and stormed off, still screaming.
We get home, and she was STOOD OUTSIDE THE HOUSE, waiting for us. The second we get out the taxi, she screams at us all again and leaves.
We head inside to watch some dumb videos and drink some more. Then Amy BANGS on the door and Mark opens it. She storms in and they scream at each other.
My BF tries to step in to calm her down, and Amys sister shows up and snaps at my BF.
The entire time, I'm keeping Eve distracted while they were all fighting behind us. Amy and her sister leave and Mark, as usual, said he was done with her for good.
Then, a week later, Mark gets some threatening messages from my family. It turns out that Amy had gone out drinking with my other sister, who I'll call Ivy (22F) and her fiancé who I'll call Thorne (27F). She had lied to them and told them that Mark had tried to spike Eve and put his hand down her pants.
Ivy and Thorne told my family and that's what caused all the messages.
NONE OF THIS WAS TRUE, as again, me and BF were with Eve the entire night. Amy didn't even tell anyone that we were there when this supposedly happened.
So I send a message to my family and show them pictures to show I was there and never left Eves side. Eve had been screamed at by my stepdad even when she said nothing happened.
My family believes me, except for Ivy and Thorne, but I've had issues with them before as Ivy was my abuser from when I was growing up which caused me to develop CPTSD and a bunch of other mental health struggles.
After this, Mark kept saying he was going to the police to get a restraining order on Amy. I told him if he needs that old video as support I'll send it. He thanked me and said he'd let me know.
Weeks pass, and he never went to the police and started stalking Amy again on social media, even tracking her location. He would go to the pub knowing she was there and blow up at her. He was spending over £800 (over $1000) a month on alcohol at the pubs, which worried all of us as he's an ex alcoholic.
Then, 2 months ago, we went out for drinks together with some other friends joining us. Amy was sat at the table behind us with some guys and Mark kept staring at them and listening to their conversations. He then stood up, screamed at them and started a fight. My BF got Mark in a lock while I stood between them with my crutches, despite being terrified.
One of my friends (I'll call Jay) is epileptic so he couldn't physically step in as a punch to the head could cause a seizure. Jay stood up to talk to Mark screamed at us to all fuck off and that we're not his friends because we weren't helping him.
Jay gets angry and storms out, and I join him as that comment pissed me off too. Jay punched the door on the way out, which we found out the next day had actually broken his hand.
Then, a week later, guess who walks into the house with her own key and clothes. Amy. Mark had gotten back with her.
My BF is civil with them and still goes out drinking with them occasionally. I, however, don't even look at Amy. I don't talk to her, do nothing for her. She is disgusting in my eyes for everything she's done.
Then, last week, surprising no one, they had another huge drunk fight. It was so bad that next door actually called the police because Mark had flipped the dining table and smashed up the house.
It was THEN I heard him scream at Amy about the video. He TOLD HER I HAD A VIDEO OF HER, and she went BALLISTIC, screaming how she's going to kill me.
She ran off before police came.
But a few days later, she's back living in the house again.
Mark has not spoken to me. He will pass on messages for me through my BF. He won't invite me out or do anything. I stopped cleaning up after their fights or mess and he got angry about it, but I'm done cleaning up after them.
Amy apparently spoke with my BF to ask if she could apologise to him and I, but my BF, knowing how I feel, politely said no.
Now, it turns out Mark had said to one of our friends that he thinks I'm horrible for refusing to listen to Amy's apology. I don't care what she has to say to me. She hurt my family, my BF, my friends and myself. For me, her actions have shown nothing of her changing or growing as a person. She is a liar and always will be.
I feel betrayed that Mark told Amy about the video, because now I'm terrified she's going to target me next. My BF told me it was my fault for recording, and I said I only did it for Mark as evidence since Amy always denies what she's said/done while drunk.
I want a reality check here because I feel like I'm going crazy.
So please tell me. AITAH for refusing to listen to my housemates gf's apology because of what she did to my family?
Edit: Just to clarify some things. My BF and I are saving up to move out and don't think we'll stay friends with Mark after this. Also, we pay £850 a month to Mark for the room. Amy pays nothing. The whole reason we moved in with Mark was because it was cheaper at the time and we could save more, but he increased our rent when Amy first moved in, so it's been harder to save.
Edit 2: I've seen some comments saying I'm enjoying the drama. That is the FURTHEST from the truth. I've been abused for years and have conditions because of the abuse. I HATE drama. I HATE all of this. I've TIRED to leave but we can't afford it right now. I have safe places to go but they are temporary as I would be living with family.
Also, Eve is doing okay, and so is Jay. Jay hung out with me and my BF last night and we talked about all of this stuff happening. We're all done being friends with Mark and Jay is trying to help my BF and I find a new place to live.