u/Cute_Summer5651

I matched with a guy who lives about 3 hours away. We’ve been messaging every day, pretty much all day long, and the texting has definitely turned into sexting. But despite all of that, there’s been zero actual discussion about meeting up.

I’ve hinted at it a few times, even brought it up more directly, but somehow the conversation always drifts somewhere else. Last night I jokingly said, “Well, you choose to stay in fantasy land,” and he replied, “We don’t live in the same place where we can casually grab coffee and take it from there.”

I said sure, but we also don’t live on different continents. If mutual interest exists, surely adults can make plans at some point?

Then the conversation immediately turned into intense sexting again… and once again, no arrangements, no “I’m free next month,” nothing remotely concrete.

And honestly, I’m fine with the sexting for a while. I’m not looking for some grand relationship here — situationship at best. But I am after something real eventually.

So now I’m wondering: have people genuinely become this unmotivated and detached? Like, has the dopamine hit from online attention and fantasy replaced even the effort of pursuing sex in real life? Has “courting” become too much work now, even when the goal isn’t commitment but simply meeting and seeing what happens?

When to meet after tinder match?

I am a 46 yrs of Female, first time Tinder user. It's been 2 weeks only. I've matched and have chatted with an interesting guy, we text all day long. I have hinted I'd like to meet, but he has not come with an offer for a date. We do lice 3 hours away, but there is intense chemistry so not sure what's going on. I don't want to ask so I don't push, but I'd like a real life experience rather than non-stop texting which starts to turn into sexting. Fun yes, but I'd like to meet in person and test out our chemistry. Is this normal for Tinder dates? Do men these days prefer sexting to real deal?