He’s (15M) a freshman and I’m (17F) a junior in high school. Is that weird? We aren’t official but definitely in some sort of talking stage and I’m worried that people will see me as a “pedo.” I’m also overly anxious about most things, and despite him making more moves than I, I’m worried people will find me as some sort of freak who preys on younger guys because I can’t get one my own age.
i have this friend, and recently its felt extremely one sided, like shes talks about herself a lot and all of her amazing achievements and while im happy for them it feels almost like shes trying to prove a point, like it almost feels like shes bragging but she doesnt mean to. i may just be a terrible person whos jealous, but nonetheless these feelings have made this friendship hard to work with. i feel that she only hangs with me for the attention i give her, i constantly compliment her, show her affection, etc. i worry she doesnt actually enjoy being with me, and also i feel that my problems get overlooked, or like they arent that big of a deal, and while i know its selfish to assume that they SHOULD matter to others, idk, it throws me off a bit, like she knows i struggle with negative thoughts and stuff but she will just briefly ask about them as if theyre normal. im probably overthinking, but its how ive been worrying recently. this friendship means the world to me but its started to not feel so genuine. its hard for me to enjoy my time when i find myself feeling criticized or less worthy when im with her, even though im sure that isnt her intention. i find myself constantly comparing myself to her now. idk im prolly overthinking and just a jealous friend. and theres also been times where she hangs with the wrong people, people who are mean, and ill tell her that, and she will tell me that theyre different now and brush it off, but every time shes done that she will find out that they arent different and ARE still mean and come back to me and it just feels so disingenuous, like im default when things go wrong. i feel disgusting and terrible for feeling this way but i just dont know what to do.
i have this friend, and recently its felt extremely one sided, like shes talks about herself a lot and all of her amazing achievements and while im happy for them it feels almost like shes trying to prove a point, like it almost feels like shes bragging but she doesnt mean to. i may just be a terrible person whos jealous, but nonetheless these feelings have made this friendship hard to work with. i feel that she only hangs with me for the attention i give her, i constantly compliment her, show her affection, etc. i worry she doesnt actually enjoy being with me, and also i feel that my problems get overlooked, or like they arent that big of a deal, and while i know its selfish to assume that they SHOULD matter to others, idk, it throws me off a bit, like she knows i struggle with negative thoughts and stuff but she will just briefly ask about them as if theyre normal. im probably overthinking, but its how ive been worrying recently. this friendship means the world to me but its started to not feel so genuine. its hard for me to enjoy my time when i find myself feeling criticized or less worthy when im with her, even though im sure that isnt her intention. i find myself constantly comparing myself to her now. idk im prolly overthinking and just a jealous friend. and theres also been times where she hangs with the wrong people, people who are mean, and ill tell her that, and she will tell me that theyre different now and brush it off, but every time shes done that she will find out that they arent different and ARE still mean and come back to me and it just feels so disingenuous, like im default when things go wrong. i feel disgusting and terrible for feeling this way but i just dont know what to do.
i have this friend, and recently its felt extremely one sided, like shes talks about herself a lot and all of her amazing achievements and while im happy for them it feels almost like shes trying to prove a point, like it almost feels like shes bragging but she doesnt mean to. i may just be a terrible person whos jealous, but nonetheless these feelings have made this friendship hard to work with. i feel that she only hangs with me for the attention i give her, i constantly compliment her, show her affection, etc. i worry she doesnt actually enjoy being with me, and also i feel that my problems get overlooked, or like they arent that big of a deal, and while i know its selfish to assume that they SHOULD matter to others, idk, it throws me off a bit, like she knows i struggle with negative thoughts and stuff but she will just briefly ask about them as if theyre normal. im probably overthinking, but its how ive been worrying recently. this friendship means the world to me but its started to not feel so genuine. its hard for me to enjoy my time when i find myself feeling criticized or less worthy when im with her, even though im sure that isnt her intention. i find myself constantly comparing myself to her now. idk im prolly overthinking and just a jealous friend. and theres also been times where she hangs with the wrong people, people who are mean, and ill tell her that, and she will tell me that theyre different now and brush it off, but every time shes done that she will find out that they arent different and ARE still mean and come back to me and it just feels so disingenuous, like im default when things go wrong. i feel disgusting and terrible for feeling this way but i just dont know what to do.