u/DEATHSTR8KE

I’m in my mid-20s and recently went out with a woman about 20 years older than me. It was my first time dating someone with that big of an age gap, and I honestly enjoyed it way more than I expected.

We had great chemistry, the sex was great, and she seemed genuinely into me. During the date she mentioned more than once that she wanted to see me again. Afterward she kept texting me very flirtatiously, told me she couldn’t stop thinking about me, and was talking about seeing each other again.

We made plans for a few days later and she even confirmed them the day of. Everything seemed completely normal. Then a few hours later she suddenly stopped responding. No cancellation, explanation, argument, or obvious change in energy beforehand. Just gone.

That’s the part I don’t understand. If she had become distant right after we slept together, I’d assume she just wanted a one-time thing. But she continued pursuing me afterward and literally confirmed our plans before disappearing.

So cougars, what would make you do a sudden 180 like that with a younger guy? Second thoughts about the age difference? Just wanted the experience? Someone else? Or probably something completely unrelated to the age gap?

Either way, I apparently discovered something about myself because I enjoyed the whole older-woman dynamic way too much 😂 I think she got me addicted. I’ll definitely be looking for cougars again.

I was permanently banned almost a year ago after a heated exchange with another user. It wasn’t repeated harassment or anything like that, it was one argument where we both exchanged insults. Looking back, I should’ve just unmatched or reported them instead of responding.

Over the course of the year, I submitted three separate appeals. Each one was a brand new appeal, not a reply to an existing ticket. Every single time I received the same response: appeal denied and “no further appeals will be considered.”

After almost a year, I decided to try one last time. I wrote a respectful email explaining that I understood I could have handled the situation better, but that I felt a permanent ban for a single exchange was an extremely harsh outcome. I also mentioned that it’s genuinely difficult to meet people these days and that Hinge had been the only dating app where I’d made meaningful connections.

To my surprise, they responded in about an hour.
The email said:
“We have reviewed your appeal request and have re-authorized your access to Hinge. You’re all set to continue using the app!”

I honestly couldn’t believe it after being told multiple times that no further appeals would even be considered.

I’m not posting this to say everyone will get unbanned. I’m posting it because I know how discouraging it is to read “permanent means permanent” over and over again.

If you genuinely believe your case deserves another look:
Be respectful.
Don’t send angry messages.
Own your part if you made a mistake.
Don’t assume a denial, even one that says “no further appeals will be considered”, necessarily means there’s zero chance.

Hopefully this gives someone else a bit of hope. I know I would’ve appreciated reading a post like this when I thought my account was gone for good.