Should I tell my mom I’m 6w a week before my wedding or wait until after?
I’m 6w today and get married in a week. I haven’t told anyone but my Fiance because I’m SO scared of jinxing it. As is he.
With that being said, I’m nervous about the wedding. Morning sickness has been kicking my ass and I am just getting so much anxiety about the morning of the wedding and me just being too sick and miserable to enjoy getting ready with my friends and family.
I feel like having my mom and sister in my corner to kind of help cover for me will ease my anxiety so much. But I’m the eldest on both sides and this baby would be the start of a new generation. I know it’s a big deal to her and a lot of people in the family. (I’ve also always been on the fence with kids and told them to have no expectations from me) (and ofc after getting pregnant I want this more than anything to work out and for it to be healthy and happy. )
We come from a loud mouth Italian family and I’m nervous sharing this news would only be a burden on them. They’ll be so excited and sad that they can’t tell anyone I imagine. I love my mother and trust her but I could see it slipping on accident.
We are also HEAVY smokers, weed and nicotine vapes. I’ve quit the marijuana the day after I found out and it was so much easier than I thought. The nicotine has not been. I’ve gotten rid of my vapes and cut back nearly entirely besides less than 5 hits a day (I count every single one every time. I know it’s awful but I’m trying my hardest and if anyone here is an ex vaper they know how big of a difference and how hard it is to go from 100+ hits a day to 5. I feel awful but I’m begging for some grace during the process I’ve smoked for 13 years and found out about the baby week ago. I promise no one can make me feel worse than I already do)
So I also feel telling my family will help keep me accountable. But I’m also nervous because all my friends and family smoke as well and have talked for years about all the joints they’ll be bringing for me. (When ive been around it i just fake hit it and no one has even noticed. I don’t even inhale a little I just hold it for a bit then put it close to my face and pass it.)
But I can see my mom or sister running up to me like “what the fuck are u doing?!?” And blowing my cover.
If it isn’t obvious i know im just riddled with anxiety at the moment and am probably overthinking every little thing. But I just wanna do what’s best while not letting anyone know at least until out 8 or 12 week appointment.