u/Daily_Cuddles

I have a two year old daughter and a ten week old son. She has been acting up a lot since he was born, which we expected. My husband has twelve weeks of paternity leave, so she has had a ton of one on one time with each of us. She always has at least one of our attention as well as time with both of us when the baby is sleeping. But she gets so jealous and angry at the baby and us. Lots of hitting and scratching both of us. Sometimes if we tell her no about something, sometimes instead of hitting us, she will run of to the baby instead and try to hit him. Tonight when we were getting her ready for bed, I was holding the baby and reading her a story and she just randomly bit his toe!

Whenever she does things like that, we put her down, tell her not to and stop doing the thing we were doing with her. We've tried handing her a stuffy and telling her to squeeze that when she starts to feel angry. She has a speech delay (no mental delays, just slower developing the ability to talk) and is in speech therapy, isn't able to express herself the way she wants to and obviously gets mad when we don't understand what she is trying to say. So getting her to tell us what she is feeling just isn't possible right now.

I'm finding myself feeling angry and resentful towards her when she is mean to the baby. I don't yell at her or anything and I am able to keep outwardly calm, but I don't like how I feel. I never felt this way towards her prior to his birth. I don't want to feel this way and I want to know what else I can do to help her work through this. My husband's paternity leave is coming to and end so I'm also worried about how things are going to go when it's just me during the day. Advice welcomed.