My boyfriend (38M) wants proof of my rape (21F) to make sure I am not lying
I (21F) have been with my boyfriend (38M) for three years.
Recently, I finally opened up to him about being raped when I was 9 years old by my step-adoptive father
At first, he was calm and listened without judgment, which I appreciated. But then he asked if I had told anyone else.
When I said my sister knows, he asked if he could talk to her to "confirm" that I was telling the truth and did I have any physical evidence such as lab reports, a rape kit, etc. I was completely shocked. I asked him point-blank if he thought I was lying. He said no, but explained that in this generation, it feels like "everyone" claims to have been raped or sexually assaulted, and it makes him skeptical.
He said he just wanted to make sure someone else knew about it and that it wasn't only him hearing the story.
I don't know how to feel. I understand that false accusations are serious and damaging, but I wasn't accusing anyone. I just confiding in my boyfriend about my trauma. Still, his reaction made me feel like he didn't fully believe me and he said if I knew I was telling the truth then I shouldn't have an issue with his request. Am I insane for wanting to break up? I might be sensitive on this but it hurt my feelings and I love him
I forgot to add the fact is that we do live together. I told him my parents kicked me out and he offered me to stay with him immediately. So, I appreciated him for that. I didn't have anywhere else to go so I thought it was the best option for me at that time. To add to this, he has NEVER said anything like this before. The only other time he has been upset at me when I was looking for jobs but, I understand that he wants to be a provider and I understand wanting traditional dynamics. Many men in my family were the providers and they were great people