I became attractive in my 30s, what do I do with the women flirting with me? Im lost
Just for starters, im not necessarily looking for a long term relationship, or even a one night stand, i really dont know what i want because im practially new to the 'dating' world. I have always been babyfaced, scrawny, with lots of acne all throughout my teenage and young adult years. No matter how much I ate and exercised I couldnt gain weight/muscle. Ive always been the dictionary definition of "nice guy" to women, therefore hard to advance beyond friendships. But even with all this, ive always been extroverted. I had a few girlfriends throughout school, but didnt lose my virginity until 20, and it was embarrassing, because I was so nervous I could barely get hard. Probably like 2 years until the next time I had sex, and it went well, and that cycle continued.
Fast forward, in my mid-late 20s, I started growing facial hair, eating actually made me gain weight, and exercising is actually showing gains. Women started paying closer attention to me. Now that im 31, women (not all of course) either lock eyes with me or stare super lustfully at me wherever I go, and I am genuinely not trying to sound cocky, I hope it doesnt come off that way. Im here asking these things because I dont want to waste this last bit of my youth
Now to my problem(s), I dont know what to do with this new attention. Women who come onto me, I can talk with, flirt with, crack jokes, and exchange info, and sometimes take it to the next step if im feeling confident enough. This super super pretty lady (like supermodel level, which im VERY not used to) came onto me super hard one night while partying at a festival, i was mostly ignoring her at first because i thought she was way way out of my league, but i think that made her try even harder, funny enough. I could describe what that was like but that would be a lot to type and this is already long lol. We hung out for a while and were touchy/feely with each other and talking life with each other and I thought things were going great but once the night was over, all we did was exchange Instagrams and parted ways, i did confidently ask her if she wanted to continue hanging out, she said she was tired and we would meet up another time. And now im getting minimal responses from her. Was there something I could've done differently here? Im not sure where it went wrong.
Secondly, I dont know how to approach women that I like. Im not afraid to try, but it 90% of the time doesnt go how id like it to go. One thing im good at is talking, but im just not good at "closing" if that makes sense. Like I can flirt and make small talk, ask questions, be interested, etc. but after the exchange of information, it doesnt seem to go far.
Women: what are some things a guy can say/not say, or do/not do, that would make you genuinely interested in either a relationship or sex? Ive got the friendship part down hahah.
Men: what do you do that is successful for you? Any opening/closing lines?
Thank you for taking the time to read this. I hope I dont sound cocky or shallow.