u/Dangerbeanwest

My post op breasts are obviously two very different sizes. They were extremely symmetrical before surgery. He removed more tissue from one breast for some unknown reason. Well the reason I can think of is that he was lazy and winging it. He did not measure me really. Before surgery he just used a piece of string and sketched something that was barely there the next day. It doesn’t matter to go through the whole minutiae of what happened before and the day of my surgery. Suffice it to say I felt my surgeon did a very competent job, but that he completely phoned it in and if he had actually pretended he cared or taken like any amount of time actually preparing, my breasts would not be two different sizes right now.

Overall I am happy I had the surgery. But a huge part of me is greatly upset and I just try to pretend that it’s not there. That one breast isn’t bigger and hanging lower. But it is and it is. It’s almost a full cup size different. I am not comfortable going without a bra. In a bra I can pretend they are symmetrical.

I’m sorry. I’m having a really bad couple of days and I was just getting ready for bed and I didn’t have a bra or top on and I just bwcame so incredibly aware of how lopsided I feel now. So I had to come where people understand I am having a good cry. I also broke up with my bf of 14 years so that isn’t helping, but it’s my uneven breasts that have sent me into a downward spiral. Please help. I’m so alone and angry and sad 😢

First watch through—as the series aired—I thought nothing of it. Now that I am old, going through perimenopause/menopause and suffering losing a lot of my hair, I feel like Jill was suffering female alopecia and it may have been worse under the intense lighting in the fourth wall candid discussion dressing room interviews, so she would wear the hats. I can definitely recognize the attempts to make hair look thicker on how she styled it outside of the candid interviews too.

So—stop ragging on her hats already!

Finding/learning about the talis-mans….Abby and her wake up call were the price, no?

Also is it hilarious to everyone else the way Jim says talis-man?

It seems like everyone who comes to Fromville is at some crossroads/transition point.
Jim/Tabitha—looming divorce
Bus driver—paid off school debt, getting ready for next life chapter
Jade—sold company, freshly filthy rich
First pastor—coping with faith and failing to help that little boy, deciding not to unalive himself
Body—freshly retired
Muriel—decided to go get sober
Kenny fam—realization they had to make plan for Mr. Kenny’s dad

There are plenty whose stories we don’t know. Are there any who don’t fit this theme? Is it relevant? Or just naturally how you might write it bc if you wind up in Fromville you probably think about the world from a perspective of what you were going to do with life before your shit got hijacked?

Sarah—?
Fatima—?
Bartender—?
Miranda—?
Donna—?
Kristy—was getting married

I’ve listened to enough BTTB to have heard about this being apparently one of the best ever little teeny tiny kids solos ever to have existed. Is there a recording of it anywhere to watch? I’d love to see it!

Long rant— sorry in advance!!

This is my third time watching dancemoms (bc I have watched every new show I’ve wanted to and listened to all my favorite audio dramas many times over already….i am able to watch/listen at work in case you’re wondering where all my time to watch tv comes from!!).

ANYWAY….this rewatch is really hard to watch. Watching Abby terrorize these children is horrible. I always knew she was nasty and yelled but this time watching through I am picking up on so much more of the really insidious nasty things she is doing. Like telling Maddie she’s carrying the team and watching her literally destroying Maddie’s friendships with Paige and Chloe was rough to watch. Like if she loved Maddie half as much as she claimed to she would not have made her constantly torture her best friends. The episode where the fight between Abby and Kelly happens is hard to watch. Maddie trying to have a brave face and saying “I guess I’m not their friend anymore.””..”and you can hear the tears….beyond that but the whole fucking build up terrorizing Brooke in there about wanting to dance or not dance with Kalani right there. I’m a 45 year old professional woman and I have been through some shit…but if I was put through anything close to what those children were going through in that moment? It’s like serious psychopathic manipulation…the kind of shit you imagine crazy military husbands do to their families behind closed doors for the families that look like the American ideal—NOT what you’d expect to see on a Lifetime reality show about dance competitions and kids. It is truly vile how the level of psychological warfare and torture was just happening on this show with little kids and it’s supposed to be cute? Like show me any other reality show where they torture people like thos!? Even survivor is less cruel and terrible to each other. This reminds me of those streamers who get paid money to torture others/themselves live on stream and ppl end up dying. That none of these girls were suicidal or did substantial harm to themselves is amazing and lucky. Just watching Abby put these children against each other and then watching her actively try to destroy some of these kids. And the GASLIGHTING?!?!? In what world are Paige and Chloe arrogant and cocky??!but she sits there and screams that at them right before they are supposed to compete a duet??? But these narratives she makes up about these kids to excuse her behavior. She deserves to be crippled. I never thought I’d say something like that, but I cannot imagine the fucking layers upon layers of trauma those girls carry around with them from growing up being tortured by her in front of the world and everyone just sat by and pretended it was normal and wholesome—because dance is art and it’s beautiful and therefore a show about little girls dancing must be wholesome. But yeah—it was on lifetime and no one stopped to ask if this environment (dance competition even without the whole tv show) is a healthy system for kids to be in???

How insanely shameful. And it all does a huge disservice to arts. Yes, we should want to nurture creativity and talent in young people, but when the pressure to succeed comes out like this? Then anyone who loved their kids would actively try to dissuade them from following their passions, and those arts would lose lots of potentially amazing artists.

I’m so angry. I’m sorry—it’s just hard to watch. It’s hard to think I watched this years ago and all I cared about was whether Chloe was going to beat Maddie. Those poor children.

Sorry for the rant but for some reason I’m watching this with some different perspective than I did my first time through…

My friend always called Abby the wilder beast. I think that’s a bit cruel to wilder beasts, but it works. Screw the fat wilder beast!! Snd stew the moms for not getting their kids out. No excuse.

Her treatment of Mackenzie when she and Asia are improving is horrific. And she treated this girl like that in front of camera crews and when she knew the whole world would see it. How mean and abusive was she to those girls behind closed doors??

She’s as mean as a rattle snake.

Why does Abby go AWOL at the end of season 3? Is it just not wanting to be around Kelly? I assume the moms kind of just went and did w/e they wanted bc they were contracted to with Lifetime (for example giving Brooke a solo after Abby forbade it?)? I’d really love the lore behind what was going on at this time….

Second time watching this series…,but like….has anyone else noticed there some HILARIOUS moments where they throw in that sad but uplifting music at a time when you would expect a moment of closeness or insight or comforting and instead it is like Maddie crying and Abby saying something totally toxic like “learn from Chloe and Christi being evil people to not cry!!” And there is that soft piano track…it feels like an episode of South Park or something…with an “I learned something today”

It is soooo hard to watch Melissa. I’m watching the episodes after the moms agreed not to have the kids go out to LA, but Melissa brought Maddie out. Watching Melissa’s smug face and her lying and her side eye….i don’t know how the other mom’s have never punched her! She is so dishonest and just nasty and smug. But maybe it’s just the editing—idk.