u/Dangerous-Sundae-704

When do I get to know about my residence hall?

I’m incoming freshman this fall, I submitted my On-Campus Housing Contract week before but haven’t got any notification about my room. When am I supposed to get info about them?

I don’t have any roommates requested.

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u/Dangerous-Sundae-704 — 4 days ago
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Should I tell my mom that I think my dad is cheating again?

I'm 18 years old high school senior about to graduate.

Last year I accidentally saw a message on my dad's phone from someone saved as 'My love'. I know and double checked my mom was saved under completely different name so I knew it wasn't her. At that time, I didn't know what to actually do so I just pretended I never saw it. But yesterday, a year later, I realized he's still talking to the same person. And I'm wondering if I should let my mom know.

If what I think is happening is actually true, this would be his third time.

The first time was when I was in 2nd or 3rd grade. We were on family trip, and I remember my mom scrolling down my dad's phone and taking picture of it when he stepped out for a moment. Later I realized they were messages between him and the person he was cheating with. When my dad came back, they started to argue, I still remember my mom throwing random things and gifts from my dad to him. I hided under the blanket and cried, I don't really know how things ended after that but they somehow worked things out.

The second time happened when I was in middle school, and it was pretty similar to current situation. It was just me and my dad in the car, and I was watching YouTube in his phone when a message from someone popped up. At first I thought it was from my mom since the messages were so affectionate but it wasn't. That woman was sending photos of what looked like her baby and talking to my dad like they were in relationship. I was honestly shocked, and I ended up saying that to my mom the next day. That night was terrible but again they somehow made up.

The thing that makes it so difficult for me is that my dad is not some deadbeat or irresponsible father. Honestly, besides this, he’s been a pretty good father. He has been sole provider for our family, works hard, sent me to private school, tries to give us whatever we want, and even though he currently lives far away because of work, he flies back often just to see us. I can definitely say he loves us.

I'm just scared what it could do to our family if I tell this to my mom, whether this will finally destroy their relationship. She has been deeply hurt by his action all this time, and she feels terribly sorry that such things happened in my childhood. But I feel guilty by hiding this from her.

I also have a sister who's 3 years younger than me, who doesn’t know about any of this since we kept it from her because she was too young to know it. I’m afraid of what kind of impact this could have on her while she’s growing up.

Sorry for making this so long. I just didn't really have anyone I can talk to about this, so I think it all came at once.

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u/Dangerous-Sundae-704 — 10 days ago

I'm incoming freshman majoring in EE.

I've been using Mac for school so far, but I got a email that engineering students are recommended to buy a Windows laptop so I'm looking around right now.

Do you recommend buying laptops from bookstore? I am planning to buy Dell Pro Max 16-Recommended 2026.

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u/Dangerous-Sundae-704 — 20 days ago

I'm genuinely curious.

From what I’ve seen in real life, a lot of marriages don’t look very happy. My parents don’t seem happy, and some other married adults I know don’t either. It often feels like they both just look tired and stuck.

It also seems like a huge burden financially. Between raising kids, supporting a household, and long-term responsibilities, it doesn’t really look like it makes life easier.

I know there are people who say marriage is worth it, but I haven’t personally seen many examples that actually look happy or balanced.

That said, I’m still young and don’t have much relationship experience- I’ve only had a couple of relationships- so I could be missing something or looking at it the wrong way.

So I’m wondering- for those of you who are married (or chose to get married), why did you do it?

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u/Dangerous-Sundae-704 — 22 days ago