u/DarkestQueen

Im 21 weeks pregnant and for the first trimester I was really really sick with this pregnancy; I had HG (hyperemissis) and I also had 3 miscarriages prior to this pregnancy.
What got me through it was thinking I’m having a baby girl; I’ve always seen myself as a girl mom for some reason.
Anyways we found out we’re having a boy via blood test at 13 weeks and honestly I was in so much denial that I booked a private gender scan at 18 weeks to make sure it a boy. And it is and I’m devastated it’s a boy. I’m also devastated because I can’t choose the name of my first born son because my husbands name is passed on within the family. I got him to change his mind and use his name as our sons second name but not his dad is in critical condition in the hospital with very little chance of getting out and I’m honestly devastated all over again because the passed on name is back to being the first name. I hate the name btw. Never liked it even though I love my husband very much I don’t want to name our son after him, his dad and his grandfather.
Am I overreacting? Am I being an asshole?

My MIL is a nightmare, she has always been a nightmare. Mean comments, side eyes, dismissing our engagement, ruined our wedding and just has been horrible.
I’m now expecting our first child and she’s treating me like an incubator, she thinks she’s naming our child (which she isn’t) but worst of all it’s the fact she Randomly touches my stomach. I have quite a lot of PTSD due to my ex hitting me; I do not like being touched unexpectedly. It scares me and I sort of freeze and my blood runs cold.
I want my husband to say something but if he does I know it’ll be a blow out and I don’t want that, his dad is sick atm and I don’t want to make things about me but at the same time I really am struggling with the unexpected touching and talking about me like I’m not a human.