Learning how to share information
My dx/rx spouse of ten years, struggles heavily with withholding information. I feel super overwhelmed and stressed when we talk because I constantly have to ask a hundred questions to understand what might be relevant to me.
Common scenario is something important has come up. They’ll say something such as, “I don’t feel well”. I’ll then get stuck in a ten minute conversation to find out how they don’t feel well, how it impacts the evening, etc. Only to find out it means they are changing our plans.
But almost every conversation we have is like this. My partner says they understand this concern and wants to do better, but they don’t know what information is relevant, like ever.
Are there systems or guides for ADHD folks to learn skills on how to communicate effectively, or is this just never going to be easier?