u/DazzlingPotato9067

Hi everyone

I’m neurodivergent adult (autism, adhd, BPD) I receive UC, LCWRA and PIP. I’m wanting to start my own little business from home, as I struggle to leave the house most of the time, selling art prints, keychains etc, that I can post just around the corner from where I live.

I was wondering where I can go to get some advice and guidance on working things out in regards to how my earnings would affect my benefits, how I’d do tax returns, everything I need to inform them of etc etc. I did contact citizens advice but they just sent me lots of websites and what I really need is someone to sit down with me and help me go through everything information wise so I can write things down, my memory is extremely poor

Thanks

Edit: I just want to make sure I’m doing everything by the book, I don’t want to get in trouble for doing something wrong accidentally or ending up being fined etc etc.

The way I am treated for simply existing as a neurodivergent person (Autistic, ADHD, BPD) makes me feel physically sick. Constantly being told to get on with it, that I’m being over dramatic, scrounger, waste of oxygen, it honestly makes me want to kill myself, that I’ll hopefully die in my sleep because I’m too much of a coward to do it myself. I can barely complete basic tasks on the daily without feeling exhausted physically, my brain is bouncing from one thought to another so fast it actually feels like my brain is empty. I get no enjoyment from anything, I feel like I’m forcing myself to do things, I’m constantly looking for things to give me that rush - and unfortunately those things for me are binge eating and spending money I do not have. I struggle to go out on my own, the entire time I feel like I can’t breathe properly, can’t look at anyone, have to prepare myself even for a simple thing like asking for a bus ticket, repeating over and over in my head what I’ve rehearsed. I fucking hate my face, I hate my body, I genuinely hate every single thing about myself, I’m 26 and I still have spots, I have alopecia - the type that can’t be reversed. I hate my stupid personality, the things I’m interested in feel so stupid and embarrassing. I’m such a dumb person and everyone knows it, I can’t do anything on my own I feel so pathetic and useless. Every day just feels like I’m trudging through mud, and for what? What is the point in this? I’m just slowly getting older, less functioning, I’ve achieved absolutely nothing. I’m so sensitive I’m not surprised everyone leaves, I really don’t blame them at all. I barely leave the house, some days I don’t at all, I feel so cooped up but the outside world is terrifying to me. Life just keeps on going forward and I can’t keep up, I can’t keep up with new occurrences, new life events, small changes. My brain just feels so overwhelmed constantly and I want it to go away. I used to feel sort of pretty, in my teens - I was thinner, used to get hit on more, was young. I used to look forward to putting my makeup on, getting dressed up, I would feel pretty even just for a little bit. But now I think what’s the point in it? It’s like putting lipstick on a pig. It’s just constantly - eat healthy!! Lose weight!! OH OOPS make sure you’re getting enough of this in your diet! 10,000 steps a day please!! This cake is contributing to your health and you’re going to have a heart attack!!!:D Your house is actually disgusting you’ve been living here for 2 years and still haven’t done the walls hahahahha!!! OH NO it takes you WEEKS to finish a book when everyone is reading 100 a year!! LAZY. Why are you playing video games you’re wasting your life. Times ticking away tick tock DO SOMETHING. Your mam is going to die, your sister is going to die before you because she’s unhealthy. Your mam isn’t there for you and it feels more like having a sister. The weeks went by so fast it’s now time to change your bedsheets AGAIN, hoover AGAIN, some other mundane task that makes me feel like I’m going insane… AGAIN Your boyfriend takes a pic of you, shows you and your whole day is ruined - Is that actually what I look like….? My chest feels like a dead weight. So so many things on the to do list and I feel like I’m drowning. The thought of my lifeless body being on the ground when I die scares the shit out of me and makes me uncomfortable, but I truly don’t want to think or feel anymore. I’ll never work a “normal” job, even after a day out with an activity I enjoy, for 2 days after I’m exhausted and stay in the house. I feel so ashamed that I’m like this, it’s a horrible way to live and it’s incredibly frustrating.

I only started reading last year. I’ll admit I did start with acotar (don’t come for me lmao) it’s what got me into reading. I’ve recently DNFd Daughter of no Worlds by Carissa Broadbent, and The Raven Scholar by Antonia Hodgson. I found these both to be incredibly boring, DNFd both about halfway through.

Books I have read to give some insight on what I do and do not enjoy…

- The Serpent and the Wings of Night, especially enjoying the third instalment of the series The Songbird and the Heart of Stone. The two standalones she has I enjoyed a lot.

- A Fate Inked in Blood & the second book A Curse Carved in Bone, I enjoyed.

- I absolutely adored the Throne of Glass series, probably my favourite read so far.

- Fourth Wing series I’m a bit torn, first book I loved, the second and third I felt like I had to force myself to read… I was invested in what was going to happen but it felt like such a drag.

- This Woven Kingdom I was unsure on at first but ended up loving, loved the second and the build up… the third I was a bit let down with, same with the 4th although I’m eager to find out what happens.

- The Crimson Moth I devoured in a single night, loved it. The second book was okay.

I’m aware some of the books I enjoy people think are terribly written😅 but I can’t help liking what I like. Any recommendations would be greatly appreciated. I’ve been looking into starting The Priory of the Orange Tree but I’m hesitant as I’ve DNFd two in a row, also not sure how I feel in the change in perspective