Recently had a nosey and it seems you can get melatonin from Boots Online Doctor once you do the online consultation- I’m just wondering if anyone has used this to get melatonin and what your experience was? (I was diagnosed privately three years ago but I haven’t paid my subscription for two years and never got Shared Care 🥲)
Apologies for the late night post. There’s something that happened at work that’s been on my mind. On Friday, I helped fix a task that another employee made a minor mistake on. When I finished, the person who asked me to do it thanked me, and someone else suggested I double-check the work. I did, and it turned out the calculations were wrong.
I called the person and asked for the best way to do the task, but he couldn’t give me a clear answer, which was stressful because I’m not as experienced with finances as he is. I needed him to give me yes/no answers.
On the day I was stressed, my grandma passed out while visiting her brother in hospital. I’ve also been struggling to keep the house together and work my job. I cried at work because I felt like a failure and scared that I’m a letdown to my organisation. Every Monday we have a 1-1 and I am worried on how to bring it up. My manager is aware of my ADHD and how I need clear instructions, and I am scared that this is something that will be used against me.
I’m someone who does get annoyed when I am told to do a task while it is being done, or if I am told to do something and it ends up being incorrect. How should I approach this with my manager tomorrow? She wasn’t working on Friday so I want her to hear about it before the colleague mentions it. I did apologise to him for my outburst and explained what I was dealing with, and he was very understanding. But I am still worried that I will be disciplined.
Hello ADHDUK! I'm in a bit of a pickle at the moment and would love to find out some things that may have worked for you when moving houses with ADHD!
My current houseshare is awful and so I'm looking to move as soon as possible, but what's been holding me back is the amount of stuff I've accumulated over the years (and being in a house share, a lot of it is in boxes under my bed)
I want to get rid of a decent amount of things to make it easier to find a place (I don't know what room sizes I'll find - don't want to miss out on a good place bc I have too much tat) and honestly the thought of actually packing and putting things into a van is SUPER overwhelming right now
I've never stayed anywhere longer than a year so this has never really been an issue when moving, but now that I've settled (3yrs) it's a lot more tricky to organise myself
Any help on how to get started, or methods you've used to get organized? I've honestly done a good lot already and donated some clothes / books to charity, but I'm struggling with all these "random" boxes and lack of space to sort things
PLS NO APPS I HAVE 42 ABANDONED ONES ALREADY
Now there are a lot of reasons why I'm worried. However I also know I am an anxious person, with a habit for catastrophising, and this is a very big change. At the same time, I have a real issue with not listening when my body is trying to tell me something.
What techniques do you guys differentiate between 'real' feelings, and those coming from anxiety/ADHD?
I (21M) am at the end of titration after recently being diagnosed.
My life, productivity, mental health and happiness has been night and day since beginning treatment (methylphenidate hydrochloride IR 15mg).
I am in an apprenticeship in which I will abroad at sea for up to potentially 5-6 months at a time, without access to regional care.
I am wondering what is the maximmum length of prescription that can be given for stimulant medications at any one time on the NHS in the UK?
I can already guess somehwat that the answer is not going to be enough for my situation, but I am wondering if anyone else has had any similar experience?
I am fully prepared that I will have to make a career change because of this, and have no qualms with it because life has never been better since beginning treatment.
I just wanted to make it known that in my last titration appt with Problem Shared the nurse told me that they're now limiting titration appts to only 4 for each patient. Thankfully I'm almost at the end of the titration period but I feel like this is something people should know to make an informed decision over which provider to choose
Title says it — i’ve noticed I can process ‘normally’ now, but I’m just vegetative and not driven by anything. My psych says this is depression and wants to start me on antidepressants. Interested to hear if they’ve helped anyone else w a similar situation
Hellooo so i'm a M19 and on elvanse 50mg, started in 30mg worked my way up. I've been on the medication for about a month and a week now I'd say. Elvanse has been a total life changer for me. Genuinely, mentally I feel so much better. I can actually comprehend my thoughts and do things? I can clean, I can read books now? It's genuinely shocking. I didn't know life could be this easy.
Discussion of possibility of ASD:
However, there are some caveats. Socially, I often feel much more lost? I'm so so so much quieter. I have always been told I was a relatively quiet person, but when I open up I'm super loud/chatty. But now? I just feel like I never know what to say, I never speak on "impulse" and defo over-analyse what I'm going to say before I say it. I just feel like I don't understand social queues whatsoever now. I've always struggled with eye contact heavily, but do attempt to mask that. I don't know. It's just hard. I also feel less willing to "preform" in a way to please people now. If theres a social event, and I know I will have to act in a way I wouldn't naturally, I simply won't go now. I often feel socially overwhelmed so much more now. I think I've lost my ability to mask?? Now theres only a select group of people i know feel safe with? I've become so much more monotone too.
Sorry for yapping so long. But what I'm getting at is I believe I could have autism, which was masked majority of my life from my ADHD traits. And now I'm medicated, years of masking is all kind of falling away? Also, I've always used alcohol to socialise and now i genuinely don't feel the need anymore. Drinking, just doesn't interest me anymore. I will once and a while, if i hang out with friends but I don't feel like I need to drink (plus, these are the days I don't take meds-obviously my adhd traits are prevalent and I can socialise). My mother suspects she herself has autism, she opened up to me about it after my ADHD diagnosis. I suspect my father has ADHD.
I just feel like i need to pick between being social and being medicated. I don't really know what to do. Feeling at a loss.
I'm debating whether to choose CareADHD. Whatever provider I look at, someone has had a negative experience, or there are negative reviews on Trustpilot or Google. What I actually want to know is who carries out the assessment. My GP has agreed to refer me and agreed to shared care - but only on the condition that the assessment is carried out by a psychiatrist. She's not comfortable taking over the responsibility of shared care, if it's not carried out by a Psychiatrist. So, I am not sure if CareADHD can even do this or not.
Hi all - I’d love to get opinions on disclosing to a new job. I finally have my NHS assessment on Monday (after three years of waiting), and I’m expecting (hoping for) a diagnosis as a result.
After burnout and a PIP caused by ADHD in my previous role, I recently accepted a new job and start in September.
My question is, when do I tell the new job about an ADHD diagnosis?
For me, it’s not a case of not telling them - I don’t want a repeat of receiving a PIP because I’m being measured in a metric that clashes with my ADHD (in my old job it was email response time in a busy agency). I want to go in with transparency so that when I ask for certain accommodations/workflow preferences, I’m doing it from a more protected place. I’m also aware that I may start meds while I’m there and that these can have side effects.
However, I don’t know if I should tell them once I receive a diagnosis next week, giving them time to adjust accordingly, or once I start and there’s no chance for them to pull my employment offer (although would this not qualify as discrimination if they did that?). I don’t want to spring it on the team but I don’t want to lose the job.
Pertinent information - the job specifically deals with SEND, so I would expect them to have a better attitude than most workplaces (although I realise this may not be the case!).
I’ve got a 24 hour mountain race next weekend and currently on my 6th week of 50mg elvanse. I’ve been training on it and doing fine (other than 10bpm higher average than pre medication). I’ve been ultra running for years and have a few 100 mile + finishes so my hydration and calorie intake etc are pretty well dialled in… The only variable that’s worrying me on this race is whether to take my medication on the morning of the race as I usually would? I guess options are 1. skip medication altogether 2. Take at the same time I usually would and just keep a close eye on hydration and food intake 3. Take my dose in the evening of the first day to carry me through the night so I don’t have a huge crash when the dark sets in 4. Push my dose earlier so more of the race is covered eg dose at 5am and again at 3am..
Main concerns are having a big crash once it wears off at night and/or over loading my cardiovascular system with the effects of the elvanse plus physical exertion.
Any advice much appreciated
36 f on 50mg Medikinet XL and 10mg booster.
This is honestly the first time I’ve had this side effect with MK XL- started 50mg 4 days ago.
I’m eating and craving so much salty food and I can only put that down to sweating absolute buckets just randomly (and it’s not perimenopause).
Anyone else have this?
Tldr; told just anxiety. Treatment not working. Struggling with ADHDlike symptoms. Help.
I've known I've had anxiety for years. It's at a barely there level now. It's also only specifically anxiety about the ADHDlike symptoms but I was told the ADHDlike symptoms are apparently caused by anxiety? Anyways I've had therapy for years and it isn't helping. Therapist doesn't want to let me go on anxiety meds because of the fact I have a super low anxiety score anyways. IM struggling with the ADHDlike symptoms and I don't know what to do? Any tips?
I was diagnosed with combined ADHD a few weeks ago and I’m currently still on titration, taking Concerta XL 54mg.
I really struggle with weekends. I only really meet up with around three close friends, and even that is irregular because they work different hours or have other commitments. When I do meet them, I really enjoy it because it feels like I’m “charging my social battery.” During the week, I barely speak to anyone outside my family, and my job is not very social or vocal.
Some weekends, I do not meet any friends at all, and I find that quite difficult. I usually try to go out on weekends, but I do not really enjoy doing solo activities. Does anyone else with ADHD find this to be the case?
I often find myself looking forward to Monday because weekdays feel more structured and productive. On Friday evenings, I can feel quite sad unless I already have plans for the weekend.
It is also harder because I cannot really drive, I get tired quickly, and I have Crohn’s disease. This limits the places I can go, especially if they are far away or difficult to access by public transport.
I struggle to make friends as if I find people boring or not a "good match", then this puts me off, and I would rather spend time by myself than with people who I don't enjoy the company off, if that makes sense?
How do other people manage weekends when they do not have social plans? I am thinking of maybe volunteering, studying for something, or trying to find a part-time job for the weekend that involves socialising with people, for example working in retail, but this is something to consider down the line. And would you say this is an ADHD thing?
I've just hear that titration is a 12 week strict schedule to find what works for yiu then your snet on your way back to GP? Surely thats not right to fond out the best for you?
I was only asked weekly or so to chime in on how its going with me. Theres so many nuanses to aymptoms, effects, medications how can that be enough time to get the patient the best they can get before being shipped off?
Maybe “easy” isn’t the right word, and I know so much of it is also to do with the fact that, no matter how challenging or time consuming the task may be, I’m not gonna feel any reward or accomplishment from it either way lmao.
Like honestly, there is little difference in the amount of pleasure or reward I feel from idk… completing a 10k run compared to finally going for a wee when I’ve been holding it in tbh, it’s still just “meh” but that’s our lot as people with adhd I guess.
But I’ve been thinking for years as well, one of the other reasons I struggle to “just do” a task is in case it’s too easy, or I know it’s gonna be too easy.
My latest example - my room is a fuuuuucking tip right now, like abysmal and bad bad bad kinda messy.
When I was a kid, I’d hyperfocus on tidying, it was like “my thing” when I was about 4/5/6 lmao where if I started putting my toys away, I’d be there 5 hours later with everything lined up and organised, pencils in my pencil box fitted and delicately arranged in a rainbow spiral with each side with the manufacturers stamp facing up, and be on my stomach picking every loose fibre of the carpet up ahahaha.
I’ve been planning on moving my room around and tidying/cleaning it, but a huge obstacle in doing it is because I know that I’ll hyperfocus, and it’ll take me no time because I’ll be like an opposite taz (the Tasmanian devil obvs) and whip around my room in fast forward and what’ll eeem like a monumental task to some people will in fact, be insanely easy and quick.
Which also leads to my second point that I’m like, savouring it for something to do. I know that as soon as I’ve sorted my room, I’ll be back to staring at a wall being somehow even less stimulated than before and I’ll start to wallow.
Having unclosed loops at least gives me something to think about, and I dread to think what happens when I close that loop.
But it’s like that with so many other things as well, like at jobs I’ll sit around on my arse because I’d rather do the waiting, then do the actual work in like a hour and then fuck off home than do the task and then spend the rest of the time waiting if that makes sense?
“Omg I’d love to read this book/play this new game etc” okay but what happens when you start doing it, hyperfocus and binge it out in one go and then what? In two days (or w/e) you’ll be right back here again with nothing to fucking do :L
But then if I actually try and fill my time and complete multiple things, it’ll be that process with all of them and afterwards I’ll crash and burn out and then not only will I be fucked for days, I’ll be stuck in the prison of my under stimulated mind, which is worse.
Like, idk the “stress” of thinking “I have to do x, y and z” is somehow more palatable than the purgatory of “…….. okay what now?” That comes after :/
It’s Sunday today and I received my prescription yesterday afternoon for 18mg Affenid prolonged release. It says it lasts 10-12 hours, and to take it with breakfast.
I woke up at 9 since it’s the weekend (I’m usually up for 8 on weekdays) and I’m currently making breakfast, so will probably eat and take it by half 9.
Does anyone have experience with a time they took it that was too late, and interfered with their sleep, etc?
The instructions say it can cause insomnia, but also that it might make you drowsy, so kinda conflicting!
As a person with ADHD, this podcast makes me feel incredibly seen! 🥰
Within two seconds of Dan Tiernan starting his day - I was like, yup, he's one of us. Also loved Annette and Hal's - and, of course, Nish's yesterdays too.
What's so cool is how everyone's doing their own thing, handling things differently and seeing what works for them and their lovely brains.
Tbh it's the episodes with people being amazingly and impressively neurotypical that blow me away! As inadvertently throughout life been surrounded with people like me. So that's brilliantly refreshing and utterly interesting too. How the other half live... in relative peace. Does. Not. Compute. 🤣🤣
In it for life (ADHD and WDYDY)
I've been putting this off for over a year. Mental health carries a heavy stigma, and I was terrified of her reaction. I finally sent her a message explaining everything — my ADHD diagnosis, my medications, how it affects my focus and why I sometimes seem distant.
Her response:
She said at first she thought I was breaking up with her and her heart was pounding. But after reading it, she said she understood me so much more. She told me that no matter what, I'm perfect to her. She also said that even if our future children had ADHD, she wouldn't see that as a flaw. If anything, she said, we'd both understand it so well that we could support them better.
I've been carrying this alone for so long. I didn't expect that response.
For anyone scared to tell their partner about their ADHD
It might go better than you think.