u/RichieRichard12

Female, diagnosed aged 31. It was hard enough telling my parents, but now my mum's messaging me asking me if I'm sure I have ADHD, perhaps my psychiatrist got it wrong because it's apparently so easy to get diagnosed now. Am I sure I'm not just stressed?

Beyond furious, but also so fucking sad. They've done so much damage. I'm so fucking tired of neurodivergence being the latest punching bag for the media.

My little old ears wouldn't be able to take it.

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Honestly baffled why people actually want a tiny ankle biter that barks for 20 mins when it hears an ant fart.

Every day I hear my adjacent neighbour's mutts barking at literally nothing. Just constant barking. 6am, 12pm, 1am.. doesn't matter what time of day, they're barking. I've seen the neighbours taking them for walks and they get let out often. They also do make an effort to try and shush them and they appear well looked after, so I don't think they're being neglected. It just seems like typical small dog behaviour. My old neighbours in my last house had small dogs too and were always apologetic for the constant barking. I know they can't really help it, but god damn all I had to do was close a door (even gently) in my house and they'd be barking for a good 15 minutes.

I don't hate dogs, I used to have dogs myself (although they were larger breeds). I'd never wish anything bad to happen to any dog. But the constant yapping is so grating.

I'm genuinely wondering if people just think small dogs don't need training and socialising. I've seen people treat them more like accessories.

Sorry, just needed to vent whilst I can hear the constant barking again.

For me and my partner personally, we'd preferably like 5 years to be the maximum amount of time between engagement and actually getting married. Of course, many things can happen that can delay that or put it on the back burner for the time being.

I know people who got married within the same year and some who are engaged for 10+ years. My friend's parents are still engaged after 35 years with no future plans. Meanwhile my other friend has been engaged for a few years and then said they don't actually intend on ever getting married!

Honestly, no judgement or rules here. It was just a passing thought and I find it genuinely interesting to hear other people's experiences. Me and my partner aren't even engaged, but we've discussed it and we both agreed that if we became engaged, we'd like to get married as soon as possible and have a small, private wedding.

Me and my partner (both late 30s) were so on the fence about having kids, but we've now decided it's just not for us. There are a few reasons for this, one being we are both neurodivergent, another reason is that I seem to always hear the negative side of parenting, either anecdotally, or in the news. I'm sure there's positives and great times too, but it really does seem mostly negative. Predominantly complaints about poor maternity care, childcare and nursery fees in the UK, absolutely no work/life balance due to shit money during parental leave and stagnant wages, teachers leaving the profession. And also of course, the general 'being a parent' part.

Whenever I hear my friends talk about their kids it's always complaining. When I read comments on Reddit about kids, it's negative. I'm in a group chat with some friends and when one mentioned about having a baby, the only dad in the group flat out said "don't do it".

Of course it's never going to be all sunshine and rainbows, but is it really that bad? Do conditions in the UK make it a lot harder for parents? If you could go back and choose not to have kids, would you? Any parents here who actually enjoy it?

I'm really not trying to be cynical here, I'm just genuinely interested.

Sorry for being slightly off topic here. I'm a bit of a sensory goblin and really struggle with the feel of SPF, on my skin and mainly on my face. I've tried loads of recommended brands, but a lot still leave the horrible, filmy feel on my face. I've given up and usually go without just to avoid the feel of it, but I really want to start taking care of my skin. Does anyone with similar issues know of any good brands?

TIA!

If I have a delivery due in the morning and I'm not going anywhere, I'll accept a delivery whilst wearing my PJ's. If it's in the afternoon though I feel a bit embarrassed and I'll get dressed, even if I'm not going anywhere.

Seem to be really struggling to find lentils that don't say "may contain", or have some sort of warning of cross contamination.

Partner is coeliac and has said he's read conflicting information regarding the effectiveness of rinsing lentils to remove the gluten. What do you think?

If anyone has any recommendations or advice, it would be very welcome.

TIA!