u/Dear_Bet_6205

Hi all!

I’ve spent the better part of my adult life learning about how to stay healthy and well, and obviously learnt how important quality sleep is…

So as a mum of a 1 year old, I’m now wondering if there’s any research into the effects of sleep deprivation of new parents, specifically whether there’s anything hormonal, biological etc that is protective against all the negative effects of poor sleep (praying for something, anything, to make me feel slightly less defeated each morning haha 🙏)

Hi all!

Would love some advice or perspectives

My almost 12 month old has decided to fight sleep pretty aggressively lately

She has a solid bedtime routine that we do for naps as well; feed, book, slowly dimming the lights, black out curtains, white noise, etc

She’s happy as can be while reading her story, happy while we have a cuddle and slowly close the blinds.

The second the room is completely dark she screams, tries to push her way out of my arms, pulls my hair, arches her back, carrying on like she’s been tortured, it’s heartbreaking and super frustrating all at the same time. Sometimes something eventually works, other times she just wants to latch back on to me and that’s the only way she’ll fall asleep.

It almost seems like she’s ready to get herself to sleep more independently, but placing her in her cot escalates the crying instantly so we’re not playing that game

She’s also chronically waking around 430 every morning and often not managing to go back down.

Her schedule is up around 630 (I moved this from 7-730 to see if that would help any of our issues.. it has not lol) naps are consistently 10ish (I’ll wake her if its getting to the 2hr mark), and 230-3ish (up by 415 at the latest) with bedtime wind down starting 630, aiming to be asleep by 730

Is this just a ride it out sort of transition, or is there something we could tweak to make this easier for us all?

Thanks!