u/Dear_Lychee_5233

That is my original post from 2 months ago. Yes I understand that allowing her husband to watch was cheating now. At the time I thought it was the price I had to pay to play.

After 18 years of marriage, I opened up to my husband about being bisexual. He was very understanding and supportive of me. We discussed me exploring this side of me. I had always suppressed. I had just one actual rule, just women, no men involved at all. I was ecstatic and started my journey about 6 months ago. Had a few hook-ups and found a woman my age who was also married and everything was going great until last Saturday her husband, who asks to watch once in a while, which I could care less about well he while I was busy with his wife joined in unexpectedly I freaked out yelling for him to stop and get the fuck away from me. He did, but this was a violation of my husband's only boundary. I have not told him yet, but I'm not even sure if I should. Does anyone have any advice ?

Update. I told him everything

Last night, he never came to bed. This morning, he said that we need to add a new rule to our agreement. That we don't bring any of our lovers to the home we share at all. So instead of my exploring this side of me, now we have a full open marriage on both sides, which I don't want but would be a hypocrite if I said no.