u/DearestClementine

I’m not a barista I’ve just been wondering this for a while!

I go to the same cafe twice a week and order the exact same drink and exact same food. I appreciate that the baristas remember my order exactly, but I’ve also wondered if they ever make fun of or laugh at those of us who are eating and drinking the same thing all the time. Or thinking “wow, she orders that sugary drink twice a week?? Yuck”. Or is this my generalized anxiety disorder talking lol

Hi everyone,

My husband and I have been trying to conceive for 1 year. 5 months into trying I got pregnant but had a chemical pregnancy/early miscarriage. In the 7 months since, we have been unsuccessful in getting pregnant again. I’m now seeing a fertility clinic to figure out what’s going on.

So far all my labs and ultrasounds have come back normal. I have a robust follicle count, plenty of eggs, endometrium is a trilaminal pattern and not too thin or too thick. They confirmed I am ovulating. Etc. Etc.

We are still waiting for my husband’s semen analysis to come back. One thing the fertility doctor mentioned to me is silent endo, but she said the only way to find out whether I have it would be surgery, which is obviously not ideal. Here’s what I’d love help with: can someone help me understand if silent endo is *truly* silent? I’ll explain my cycles and symptoms or lack thereof below, but I am wondering if people really do have endo with zero symptoms at all or if doctors are just dismissing them.

About my cycles:
- Very regular, average of 28-30 days long
- 15 day luteal phase, ovulation is predictable
- Sometimes I experience very mild ovulation pain that I assume is mittelshmerz and normal, it doesn’t affect my day at all. No ovulation spotting.
- Periods are 2-3 days long and fairly light. I only need to wear a panty liner and change it maybe twice a day. However I do get lots of clots when I go to the bathroom. I don’t quite understand why I get clots without heavy bleeding.
- Periods are not painful. Maybe one day of mild cramps but I can still do what I want to do and even exercise. I do get hip and thigh pain on the first and second day of my period but again it’s more a discomfort than pain and goes away after a day or so.
- I tend to bloat more leading up to my period but not in a painful way
- I was on birth control for 15 years and if I recall correctly I was put on it at age 16 because my periods were coming too frequently. Nobody investigated why. I’ve been off birth control for 3 years.
- I have anxiety but have had it my whole life
- I don’t get headaches and have no pain other than the first two days of my period.
- I have Graves’ disease which is an autoimmune disorder that involves hyperthyroidism

Does anything here scream potential silent endo? Is it worth having surgery for? From my perspective I don’t have any symptoms but I realize I’m not very informed at all and would love to hear from some of you. Thanks for reading this far 🙏

My clinic has said it will only take 5-10 mins, easy peasy and I can drive myself there and back and won’t be in pain. I’m skeptical of this because I remember the first time I had an IUD put in I was told the same thing and it was the worst pain I’ve ever experienced 🙃

If you’ve been through this before, any advice? Did you bring your partner with you? I’m planning to do this at 10:30am and then immediately have a full day of (remote) meetings after. Is that an appropriate expectation? Can we have sex the same day if it’s approaching ovulation day?

Another more specific question: anyone here have chronic UTIs and had this done? I’m always wary of foreign objects like a catheter and worry it will introduce bacteria and somehow cause a UTI.

Thanks for any info and advice you can share 🙏

Hi everyone,

My husband and I have been trying to conceive for 1 year. 5 months into trying I got pregnant but had a chemical pregnancy/early miscarriage. In the 7 months since, we have been unsuccessful in getting pregnant again. I’m now seeing a fertility clinic to figure out what’s going on.

So far all my labs and ultrasounds have come back normal. I have a robust follicle count, plenty of eggs, endometrium is a trilaminal pattern and not too thin or too thick. They confirmed I am ovulating. Etc. Etc.

We are still waiting for my husband’s semen analysis to come back. One thing the fertility doctor mentioned to me is silent endo, but she said the only way to find out whether I have it would be surgery, which is obviously not ideal. Here’s what I’d love help with: can someone help me understand if silent endo is *truly* silent? I’ll explain my cycles and symptoms or lack thereof below, but I am wondering if people really do have endo with zero symptoms at all or if doctors are just dismissing them.

About my cycles:
- Very regular, average of 28-30 days long
- 15 day luteal phase, ovulation is predictable
- Sometimes I experience very mild ovulation pain that I assume is mittelshmerz and normal, it doesn’t affect my day at all. No ovulation spotting.
- Periods are 2-3 days long and fairly light. I only need to wear a panty liner and change it maybe twice a day. However I do get lots of clots (I think) when I go to the bathroom. I don’t quite understand why I get clots without heavy bleeding.
- Periods are not painful. Maybe one day of mild cramps but I can still do what I want to do and even exercise. I do get hip and thigh pain on the first and second day of my period but again it’s more a discomfort than pain and goes away after a day or so.
- I tend to bloat more leading up to my period but not in a painful way
- I was on birth control for 15 years and if I recall correctly I was put on it at age 16 because my periods were coming too frequently. Nobody investigated why. I’ve been off birth control for 3 years.
- I have anxiety but have had it my whole life
- I don’t get headaches and have no pain other than the first two days of my period.
- I have Graves’ disease which is an autoimmune disorder that involves hyperthyroidism

Does anything here scream potential endo? Is it worth having surgery for? From my perspective I don’t have any symptoms but I realize I’m not very informed at all and would love to hear from some of you. Thanks for reading this far 🙏

I’m not sure if this type of post is allowed so please delete if needed, and apologies if it goes against the rules (I did read them though).

My husband (40M) and I (34F) have been TTC for 11 months. This sub was so helpful for me when, 5 months into our journey, I had a chemical pregnancy/early miscarriage. I didn’t have an OB at the time (was between providers) and the ER docs weren’t sure whether to call it a CP or MC. I was only pregnant for 8 days. But I was devastated.

We just completed our 6th cycle since then with no luck. Literally every healthcare professional told me after my loss that I would likely get pregnant again soon. I was hanging onto that hope so tightly. Now I just feel so incredibly defeated and sad, it feels like it’s never going to happen. I know so many people have struggled for longer and I don’t mean to discount those journeys at all when we are only on cycle 11.

I started going to a fertility clinic and they will monitor my next cycle and do tests. I’m just looking for some stories of hope, wondering if others had a loss and then a long spell of not getting pregnant at all, and went on to have a baby whether with or without intervention. If anyone is willing to share some hopeful stories, I would so appreciate it 💜

Edit to add: I know there are TTC subs but you aren’t allowed to ask about positive pregnancies there. I know this post may be misplaced but it’s challenging to find an acceptable subreddit to ask this in. I hope it’s ok and don’t mean any offense 🙏

Just had my first dose of oral progesterone today from my fertility clinic and within an hour of taking it I was dizzy and so drowsy I couldn’t keep my eyes open. Thankfully I was WFH today and done with meetings and I stumbled to my bed and absolutely passed out for almost 3 hours straight. At one point my husband came in to nudge me and basically make sure I wasn’t in a coma and all I managed to do was half open an eye and nod and then immediately fell back asleep.

I’m supposed to take this thing twice a day for the next week. I have to drive to work tomorrow morning, be AWAKE to do my job lol, not to mention other activities and responsibilities I have after work. Does this get better? Even now after waking I feel groggy AF and I don’t even think I can go to my pottery class.

I’ll adjust the timing so that at least one of my doses is at bedtime but…what am I gonna do in the morning? Also I’m assuming this is normal but please let me know if it isn’t and I need to contact my doctor lol. Any advice for getting through this and not taking a week off work??

I’ve been wearing my ring for CrossFit classes but I put a silicone cover on it beforehand. I’m really not hitting it against anything during the workouts. However my ceramic ring has cracked, exactly where the sensor is (but on the outside). My readings have been strange lately which I think is related. I’ve wanted a gen 5 anyway and am planning to purchase one soon. My question is, does anyone here do CrossFit and if so, do you wear your ring during? I hate the thought of not capturing my workout, and it’s also important to me to see my heart rate progression after the fact.

I made a post a while back about my awful experiences at Labcorp because I was so fed up. You can see that post here.

Some comments suggested I go to an outpatient lab at my nearest hospital. Thank you all for this advice! I checked with my insurance that it would be covered and asked my doctor to adjust the lab order, and today was my first time using the hospital outpatient lab. WOW, what a difference!

I arrived at 7:20am for a 7:45am appointment and I was taken back almost immediately. At Labcorp I would wait well past my appointment time.

The woman doing my blood work was an angel on earth. She introduced herself and was actually speaking to me, complimented my earrings, checked that she had my name and doctor correct, and generally made me feel safe and welcome. I honestly could not believe it.

She had her own office and I noticed several things: a whiteboard that said “Hi, I’m Mary!” (not her real name) with a positive quote she wrote too, a candle warmer of some sort giving off a calming scent, a small screen playing a relaxing ambience video, and a sign that said “Quiet please, healing in progress”. Guys, when I tell you my entire body and nervous system relaxed!! These seemingly small details told me she really cares about her job and patients, which made me feel so safe. She asked if I have to do this often and I told her briefly about my Labcorp experiences. She was shocked and affirmed that what I’ve experienced there is not okay.

The blood draw was SO GENTLE. I am so used to it being painful and usually leaving with an injury that I was absolutely stunned when I hardly felt it. I couldn’t believe when it was over how easy it had been. I told her how much I appreciate her gentleness and that even 2 minutes with her was 1000 times better than all my times at Labcorp.

I know I sound dramatic but I can’t even tell you what a relief this is. My experiences at Labcorp were so hellish I was genuinely dreading that I’d have to keep going there every month indefinitely. I left a 5 star review for the hospital and mentioned “Mary” specifically. I will tell anyone who listens to me to use a hospital lab rather than a Labcorp.

I wanted to share a positive story since I’ve already shared a negative one. Thanks for reading 🙏

I’m not annoyed or venting, I’m genuinely curious. After my cleaning team leaves, I find spots of black residue that seems like charcoal. I’ve found it deep in a pale shaggy rug and when I tried to get it out, I only made it worse. Today I found streaks of it on my shower curtain (I will replace the curtain).

What confuses me is, if it’s so hard to get out of fabric and it’s jet black, how is it used for cleaning? And why is it ending up on my fabrics?

I haven’t brought it up to them yet and not sure that I will. Just very curious to understand why it’s there in the first place.

Adding for anyone who doesn’t know: There are 181 active wildfires in northern Ontario which is affecting over 20 states in the US. Chicago’s air quality was the worst in the WORLD yesterday. This has been a regular occurrence for the past 3 summers (at least). If you’re nowhere near these areas you may not know it’s going on, but it is serious.

The air quality index in my area is 241. An AQI of 54 is like smoking one cigarette. Our gym did not cancel classes which is absolutely wild to me given there is no AC and it’s just an open air gym. They have canceled trash pickup for our city because it’s not safe for the trash crew to be outside. I see videos on Instagram that our gym owner posted of people working out in this smoke. Please understand that PM2.5, which is the type of particulate matter in the air right now, penetrates deep into the lungs and bloodstream and poses significant risks like lung disease, heart disease, infection, cancer, and early death. I’m seeing people exerting themselves at CrossFit and ingesting even more of this stuff by exercising. Please don’t do this. Take a couple days off and prioritize your health, please.

I find myself filtering out conspiracy theory books and various forms of loony propaganda fairly often. As I curate my LFL I haven’t figured out what to do with these books. My local public library certainly isn’t the place for them. But do I throw them away? I could donate them to GreenDrop or something but it feels weird to “spread” them for lack of a better word. Curious to hear what others are doing.

I’m feeling incredibly frustrated and just need to hear of anyone who has had Graves’ disease and successfully conceived (or if you’re in a similar boat and want to commiserate).

My Endocrinologist has been the pits so far. I am on a list to see someone new in January. I have a primary care doctor, my endocrinologist, my OBGYN, and even a maternal fetal medicine doctor. I’ve been trying to conceive for 11 months (one miscarriage in month 5) and all of my doctors know this.

Only just now am I finding out, from my own EASY research, that Graves’ disease causes insulin resistance. And insulin resistance greatly affects fertility and sometimes does not even restore once Graves’ disease is managed. Insulin resistance can affect egg quality, hinder ovulation, and make the endometrial environment less receptive to implantation.

WHY HAS NOT A SINGLE DOCTOR TOLD ME THIS?!

I want to cry and scream all at once. Why have I wasted so much time “trying” without any doctor checking for this or even mentioning it to me? Guys, I’m furious.

I plan to reach out to a fertility clinic anyway and will ask them about it. But I just need some shred of hope that it is possible to conceive with this condition. I’m running low on optimism and just needed to get this out somewhere. Thanks for reading.

I’ve used both of these sites so much the last year while TTC. Their calculators are so helpful and reassuring (miscarriage odds reassurer and time to conception (Datayze), intercourse timing, pregnancy test timing, symptom data and so much more on countdowntopregnancy.com). It seems that both sites are now inaccessible for whatever reason. Has anyone else tried accessing them? Really hoping they come back!