u/Debo1020

I’ve been contacted by a reverse recruitment firm that offers to write my resume, apply for jobs on my behalf, coach me through interviews/assignments, and negotiate a final offer. In exchange, they require an up-front fee (few thousand dollars) and a percentage of the earned salary (6-percent of final negotiated salary).

The devil in the details of the service: this particular firm boasts a 91-percent success rate, they guarantee at least 20 first-round interviews within a 90-day period, and they say most clients get jobs around $90,000 per year.

I’ve heard of these kind of firms, but this is my first time interacting with one. I’m skeptical, and I find the fee a bit intimidating. Has anyone else worked with this kind of firm? If so, what was your experience, both positive and negative?

I (43 M) feel like my life is falling apart. My career is stalling, I feel like my wife doesn't love me, and I'm in constant anxiety about the future. Maybe this is a vent, but I am genuinely grieving what I thought my life would be.

I tried a career pivot away from local government work; the politics were just getting too weird. I took a remote job thinking I would enjoy it, but I feel completely isolated and crushed by the lack of meaningful engsgement. I wake up with dread at 3am most nights in anticipation of a day spent alone, or worse, having meetings with other remote colleagues who demand more production without any support. It's soul-crushing, and I am desperately looking for another job with the hope of regaining a social component that I didn't know I needed.

My marriage is not what I envisioned. My wife can only see my faults, and I feel like there is nothjng I can do to make her happy... And honestly, it's been like that our whole marriage. She has always had a short fuse, and if anything upsets her, it's a divorce-worthy offense. There is no forgiveness, no tolerance, no grace... if I try to share how I feel, she says my view is invalid compared to her feelings. I don't see a solution to my marriage strife; it's hard for a person to change (both of us), and at this point, I believe she would be happier without me as an object of scorn.

So I don't know what this post is... A rambling? A venting? A shout into the dark? I'm just sharing what I'm feeling because my heart is breaking, my mind is troubled, and I fee like I am stuck in a trap of my own creation. Right now, though, I am just sad and lonely and dejected.

I mourn for the life and the love I thought I would have.