u/Defiant_Coast_1906

Edited: he drank 32 oz of whiskey and 16 oz of michelada (tomato juice beer)

My husband (41m) has issues with alcohol. He used to drink handles (1.75L) in 30 minutes. Since then, he's had issues with his level of drinking and it got to the point where I told him no alcohol. Its been a while since he drank, so tonight he asked me to have ONE drink. I said yes. He ended up drinking 1 entire pint, 1 tall can of michelada, 1/4 of a pint, then poured the rest of the bottle in a cup with the intention on drinking it. I got IRATE. I told him I give him an inch and he takes a mile every time. He has no limits. He doesnt know when to stop. He says I'm being an asshole and hes super proud of his progress, but I'm not. Idc how much he USED to drink compared to what he drank tonight. I care that he asked me for one drink to relax and drank 1 1/4 bottles and a tall boy. Like I said, he poured 3/4 of a bottle into one drink with every intention of drinking it, but I caught him and asked him if he really drank 2 entire bottles and he said no because he hadn't drank the drink he poured yet. It started an argument with how he had no self control and always takes things way past the limit

Now hes talking about how worthless and stupid he is. How he cant make good decisions. How the kids would be better off raised by someone else. How I'm so mean. Its manipulative as fuck and I'm not allowing it. Im saying everything is true. If hes gonna try to manipulate me because HES a jerk off, I'm not gonna entertain it by feeling bad or giving him the satisfaction. I feel like this is ENTIRELY his fault and 100% could have been avoided had he stuck to what he said he was going to do.

AITA

AITA for wanting to leave my fiance?

I, 29m, have never wanted kids. My fiance, 28f, never wanted kids. My brother went to prison and we are now taking care of his 4 boys. We've been doing it for almost 3 years with a minimum of 2 to go. I love my nephews, but they are just that. Nephews. My fiance on the other hand, has taken to them well. They call her mom (they dont have a maternal figure) and they call me their uncle. I cant replace their dad - he is my brother. So the dynamic is already off with the mom/uncle thing, but tonight my fiance got drunk and confessed that, if she had to choose between me or them, she would choose them. She loves them much more than me (her words). It hit me hard. Dont get me wrong, I love my nephews so much and I would do anything for them, but I dont love them more than I love my fiance. In my mind, this is a temporary situation. I didnt CHOOSE to be their parent. I am out of love and I wouldnt go back and make a different choice, but this does not seem to be the case for her. It really changed my perspective on our relationship. This is not, by any means, the relationship I chose and knowing that she loves them more than me solidifies that I dont want to marry her. I dont want to marry someone who has already chosen not to put me first...and over, what is pretty much a strangers kids (my brother and fiance never got along well the couple times they did meet). I told her that I dont plan on moving forward with this relationship. We will stay together until the kids go back with my brother only for the sake of the kids but after that I'm moving on. I cant unhear that and no matter how much explaining she can try to do, the damage has been done. She called me selfish for putting my feelings above the kids'...and that might be true, but we have been together for 8 years...only 3 of those have been with the kids. I was under the impression that we both felt the same way about having kids and now this information just completely flipped it. I just have no desire to continue and relationship where I come 5th. When my brother gets his kids back, I am leaving her and they can all go play house together and I will live my life.

AITA for leaving this relationship?