u/Defiant_Patience_103

I need some help on my daughter’s middle name. For context this is our third daughter. Our first daughter has my grandmas name as a middle name, and our second daughter has my husbands sister as a middle name. Every girl in my family has a ‘legacy’ name as their middle name.
To the dilemma…
Babies first name will be Charlotte.

Option A - Use my mums name as a middle name (Ingrid), most sentimental option but my mum hates her name as she was heavily bullied in school for it.

Option B - Use my sisters name as a middle name (Tess), she is a teenager and I know would love the name used, but this could put out my brother who is a similar age and we haven’t used his name for my son.

Option C - Use my husbands aunts name (Catherine), she is an important person in his life and more like a mum to him than aunt.

So… Charlotte Ingrid, Charlotte Tess, Charlotte Catherine or choose something non-sentimental and go against family tradition?

I’m after recommendations for a next-to-me/cosleeping bassinet that would work with a VERY high bed. We have had the tutti bambini cozee and a chicco one for babies 1-3 but both are too low for our current bed. The top of the mattress is around 75cm.
Has anyone had a next to me that went particularly high? Or any other solution that worked for a high bed? I’ll be having another C-section so the less I can get off the bed and have to bend down the better!

My former 29 weeker (IUGR, low amniotic fluid, placental insufficiency, 1066g at 29+0) is absolutely thriving now at 15 months, passed every development check with flying colours and is tracking spot on for her actual age not just adjusted. We have been incredibly fortunate that she seems to have no lasting impact of her being premature.
My question is about wake windows. With my previous two kids wake windows always worked really well to help them sleep better but I’m not sure with our preemie whether to base her wake windows on her being 12 months, or being 15 months given developmentally she is doing everything a 15 month old should. Any advice from other NICU mums who have come out the other side?
Appreciate this may be off-topic for any of you in the thick of it right now, but also hope this acts as a glimmer of hope that you will have the normal parenting challenges coming down the line too as you graduate from NICU and beyond. Sending all the love!