u/Delegatefrom_Iceland

VENTING!!!! What the hell. I cannot believe this. I keep finding underwear with skid marks on them in the laundry. She’s 10!! Maybe a part of the reason that she has an embarrassed about this is because she never goes to friends houses or never have sleepovers… And I don’t think they changed clothes for PE at school— so there’s no reason for any other girls to see this or smell this.

Her mom isn’t teaching her and my husband tries his best but this truly is a feminine hygiene issue that her mother should be urgently addressing. I’m not going to address this - I already tried and didn’t work not my job!!!!

Call me an evil stepmother but I’m gonna have husband make her hand wash her own damn underwear. Gross. I do not want to deal with a kid’s poopy underwear that isn’t mine.

At first I was kinda hurt not gonna lie. We are a family. We are married and have a beautiful baby together. But then I thought about it and I’m less hurt. The baby clearly can’t go on rollercoasters and the place they wanna go is an 8 hour drive which is a lot for a 6 month old to tolerate. He promised her we’d all go last summer but we didn’t go because I got pregnant.

But something still stings… Idk. If someone in the family can’t go on a trip, then IMO, don’t go on the trip.

He says he wants to make sure his daughter still feels valued and loved by him. But it doesn’t take grand gestures to prove this and that’s what he thinks — trying to make up for all the time he has to work in spring and fall seasons.

Maybe I should just be grateful that I’ll have some time away from the step kid lol. What do yall think

Husband keeps starting arguments with me, telling me he needs 10 minutes when he gets home to do nothing and be mindless. He took a nice 20 min shower. I left the baby in the bassinet in our bedroom where he was laying after he showered.

I took care of baby all day long as I usually do and rarely ask for help. I left baby with him for 10 mins as I sat on the couch - not once have I EVER DONE THIS - just needed to take a BREAK and THATS what I did.

He got pissed that I left the baby with him because needs to relax and I never seem to hear him out. He works 12s current for a month and a half, 7 days a week. I know he’s so exhausted but he doesn’t seem to understand that I not only work full time, but care for our baby every minute I’m not working.

Not to mention… I have sex with him almost every time he asks. Yet I ask for emotional connection and rarely get it. :(

Argument got so bad, he said shit like “why don’t we just end this”. I don’t know what to do anymore. I’m so exhausted. I’m darn near a single mother in this marriage. We’re talking, he maybe has changed 3 diapers all of April. Idk what to do anymore

He works so hard but it’s ruining our marriage clearly. He thinks working himself to death is the heroic, wonderful provider husband move. But it’s not. There needs to be balance.

Tl;dr my husband works hard but doesn’t help much with the baby at all