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I’ve (31F) been seeing a guy (33m) for about a month. We’ve had a few ups and downs already, mostly around communication. Overall, we enjoy spending time together, we have good chemistry, and when we’re together he seems comfortable and affectionate in his own way.
The thing I’m struggling with is that he’s not very emotionally expressive. He has told me he’s never really been in a serious relationship before, and he doesn’t naturally talk about his feelings. He rarely initiates emotional conversations, doesn’t often say things that reassure me, and sometimes I have to ask for affection or physical touch rather than it happening spontaneously.
On the other hand, when I bring up something that’s bothering me, he doesn’t dismiss it. He listens, explains his perspective, and says he tries to put himself in my shoes. He also has some ongoing stress involving work, which he says has affected how much emotional energy he’s had recently.
I’m someone who’s naturally very expressive and values words of affirmation, so I’m wondering if we’re simply different in how we communicate. I don’t expect grand romantic gestures after only a month, but I do wonder whether his lack of expressiveness is because he’s inexperienced, emotionally reserved, or just not that into me.
Has anyone dated someone who had never really been in a relationship and wasn’t emotionally expressive? Did they become more open over time, or did they pretty much stay the same? How can you tell the difference between someone who’s simply reserved and someone who’s not invented

I have been meeting a guy for a whole month now. We have been on 9 dates. All these proposed by him. He textes me everyday and is very funny! We have developed chemistry and lots of confidence. (Bf and gf level confidence) however, last Saturday he slept over my house and when he woke up he was kind of moody. I realized he didn’t text me afterwards, so I told him the next day, that I really don’t like going to sleep without his good night. In which he replied, that I could have easily texted him as well. Anyways, next day, I felt an energy switch, and approached it. He said he was kind of having hard days, but that it wasn’t anything against me. I really didn’t like his way, so I asked him for some days for things to calm down. He texted me after 48 hs saying he didn’t know what to say, but that silence was getting akward.
He later stated that, he is not in his best version which i did not know how to read that. My impression is that he wants to have nothing to do with me but is just too scared to tell me.???

*We are not boyfriend or girlfriend. We are litteraly in the process of getting to know each other and kind of exclusive.
* at the beginning, he was very attentive and making me feel like I’m the only person he wants to be with . (There has also been a shift in that)

Question is, I’m I exaggerating and over controlling?? Should I just never talk to him again(
What’s weird to me is that everything changed on that last day we hanged out.

** I asked if he could meet up with me today and he said yes. (Idk what I’m going to tell him)