u/Demonaxa

Hi - everyone! Just got out of a relationship with a woman who is a resident doc and we were dating for around 9 months. The relationship was very healthy outside of an older resident who would consistently hit on her despite knowing she was in a relationship and rebuffed many times. He would keep chasing her and was known to be a kind of special case ( does not have many friends, people know his weird habits such as trying to get people from work to convert to different religion etc). Our relationship was going really well and then all of a sudden a few issues which were different (including diet - vegan vs non veg). I tried to create a plan to come to a happy medium for both parties - but it seemed that she wasn't ready to make the changes and didn't even want to try to come to a compromise - so we ended up breaking up. It was a very difficult breakup for me personally because we had a strong relationship and this came out of nowhere (0-100 in the matter of 2/3 weeks). This was probably a month ago around mid April. Around 2 weeks ago, a few of her coworkers who I had met reached out to me and asked me about her. I informed them that we broke up and are no longer together. They proceeded to tell me that after we broke up less than even a few weeks later - she was with the weird coworker who kept trying to hit on her. Normally, I would be like this isn't any of my business and she can do whatever she wants. I did find out that the weird coworker has a patten of going after women who are out of relationships or divorced and abuse them. This includes physical and mental abuse - such as hitting, yelling, etc. It seems that she knows about this ( as she was warned by her coworkers). Her coworkers reached out because they were worried about her and my question would be - would it be appropriate for me to reach out to family/close friends (that her coworkers do not know of) to warn them that she is in danger or is this one of the situations where it sucks but its better to just leave them alone and have the possibility of her being mistreated badly?

Hi - everyone! Just got out of a relationship with a woman who is a resident doc and we were dating for around 9 months. The relationship was very healthy outside of an older resident who would consistently hit on her despite knowing she was in a relationship and rebuffed many times. He would keep chasing her and was known to be a kind of special case ( does not have many friends, people know his weird habits such as trying to get people from work to convert to different religion etc). Our relationship was going really well and then all of a sudden a few issues which were different (including diet - vegan vs non veg). I tried to create a plan to come to a happy medium for both parties - but it seemed that she wasn't ready to make the changes and didn't even want to try to come to a compromise - so we ended up breaking up. It was a very difficult breakup for me personally because we had a strong relationship and this came out of nowhere (0-100 in the matter of 2/3 weeks). This was probably a month ago around mid April. Around 2 weeks ago, a few of her coworkers who I had met reached out to me and asked me about her. I informed them that we broke up and are no longer together. They proceeded to tell me that after we broke up less than even a few weeks later - she was with the weird coworker who kept trying to hit on her. Normally, I would be like this isn't any of my business and she can do whatever she wants. I did find out that the weird coworker has a patten of going after women who are out of relationships or divorced and abuse them. This includes physical and mental abuse - such as hitting, yelling, etc. It seems that she knows about this ( as she was warned by her coworkers). Her coworkers reached out because they were worried about her and my question would be - would it be appropriate for me to reach out to family/close friends (that her coworkers do not know of) to warn them that she is in danger or is this one of the situations where it sucks but its better to just leave them alone and have the possibility of her being mistreated badly?