Support for the partner on the other end of ROCD
Hey all..
I'm looking for support.
It's not completely diagnosed but it seems that my partner has rocd with me. He has ocd and ocd behavior in life. Excessive hand washing after "bad moments", contamination ocd with items that he wore on "bad moments" and daily seeks reassurance.
Over the last year after a traumatic experience, the sudden death of my mom, my partner appears to have something like rocd. He often says "I see you really good" or "I see u different today" things like that. And he has for a year been saying he has doubts about me, yet at the same.time loves me immensely and doesn't want to lose me. It's extremely extremely painful and confusing.
When I walk into the house he often says he's getting "anxiety around me". Or if we spend time together something very small can set him off like the way I've done my hair..
But when I say ok, let's break up he completely breaks down and says he can't lose me.
I am feeling so so confused and stuck on what to do. I really need support. I go to a therapist but she can only support me to an extent like "know it's not personal". But how the fuck is ut not personal when the person you love every few days is saying their getting anxious "by you". But then every other few days it's amazing and feels like our normal close relationship. I dont know what to do.
Please. Desperately seeking support.
Note: they are currently unemployed and still have not told a counselor or anyone they identify with ocd. They just started act but that's as far as it goes.