u/Dense-Bug8229

How do I stop hurting people when I hate myself?

I’ve noticed that whenever I’m stressed, sad, or irritated about something, I end up taking it out on my family without even meaning to. I don’t yell or start huge arguments, but I become passive aggressive, distant, and sometimes say hurtful things that I regret later.

The worst part is that I always promise myself I’m not going to do it again, but then I catch myself doing it in the moment anyway. Afterward, I feel extremely guilty and genuinely hate that I act this way because they don’t deserve it at all. I think part of it comes from feeling worthless or not good enough deep down, and when I’m overwhelmed, it ends up coming out in unhealthy ways.

I really want to change this habit and learn healthier ways to deal with my emotions instead of projecting them onto the people around me. Has anyone else struggled with this? What helped you stop?

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u/Dense-Bug8229 — 7 days ago

I went to BLCU and it was a great experience. The teachers were excellent, study materials were very good and I really felt my Chinese improve. I arrived at an HSK 3 level and left at HSK 4. I was able to significantly improve my Chinese skills in a relatively short period of time like 4 months. My speaking still not very great tho but it’s honestly my fault…

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u/Dense-Bug8229 — 19 days ago