u/Dense-Radio-9332

I was diagnosed with post partum depression a few weeks ago and am on medication. Since I have told people about it, they all seem to want to put a positive spin on everything and it's driving me mad! Specifically, I had a fellow mum friend who was my go to during pregnancy and newborn stage for a little moan. Now, as soon as I say anything remotely negative (which, come on, motherhood is hard sometimes you need a little moan!) she says things like "look at the bright side", "try to enjoy yourself", etc. Now I feel like I have no one to talk to/isolated which is actually worse.

Second baby is 4 months old and consistently 95th centile.

He wakes 2-3 times overnight, which is fairly normal.

He's occasionally sick, mucusy nappies and comes up with hives, so we are now just being supported with potential CMPA or a different food allergy coming through my milk. We will start elimination soon and I haven't moaned about this at all. It's also best to breastfeed than specialist formula according to NHS guidelines.

No one in my family has breastfed since the 40s apart from my sister - I'm not joking, no one, no cousins, no aunties, not my mum, not my nan - so there's a real lack of understanding.

I recently was diagnosed with PPD, which was mainly due to sleep deprivation. Sleep has improved massively.

So, why do I keep being told I should formula feed? When I ask why they say:

\- so dad can help. He does help, he does nappies overnight at the weekends but in the week is an engineer and in charge of large projects so can't be overtired. Also, when baby wakes up I wake up, so doing bottles just makes it a longer wake up and a more upset baby.

\- because we're struggling. We're not, and my mental health isn't because of breastfeeding. No one has actually asked me this, but I really like breastfeeding.

\- so you can get baby on a schedule. What is the obsession with this?

\- babies sleep better in formula - is this true? My eldest was fed exclusive breast milk via bottle and he slept 10 hours from 4 months

Anyway, am I going mad but is this coming from ignorance (and care) or am I doing something wrong? The comments are really starting to get to me.

Any lines of defense, things I can say in response?