u/DietSea3690

My NK is 11mo. Once a week I take her to a museum in the city where they have a lot of activities for babies and toddlers. Arts and crafts, a play area, sensory bins, story time, music class, stuff like that. Each time we go I also take my NK to actually look at the art there. She sits in the stroller and we look at paintings and sculptures and stuff.

This week I ran into my MB’s friend at the museum, I didn’t recognize her but she recognized NK. I guess she mentioned to MB that she saw us walking around the art gallery because MB brought it up to me later. She wasn’t happy that we were just looking at art and said it wasn’t a good use of time because NK is too young to really appreciate any art. And basically she wants us to skip the art gallery and just stay in the play area for babies when we go to the museum and only do childrens’ activites. And she was like “I know you want to do things that are fun for adults during the day but please try to remember that you’re here for NK” which rubbed me the wrong way.

Yes, I do enjoy looking at art myself but I also think it’s beneficial for NK as well. And I can’t stop thinking about the conversation with MB. Is it wrong that I took NK to look at art instead of staying in the play area the whole time?

My girlfriend and I have been dating for around a year and I got a new apartment closer to her place so we’ve been spending a lot more time together. It’s been really nice and she will often come to my place because it’s larger and stay over 2-3 days.

Only problem is that she does not seem to have a good way to manage her period. Whenever she comes over during her period she’s guaranteed to bleed onto at least one piece of furniture. I’m a guy so obviously I have no idea how terrible dealing with a period every month is but I’ve never noticed this with any girl I’ve dated before, or my sisters.

Whenever it happens I try my best to be understanding and I’ll just throw everything in the wash. She’s always really apologetic and will say she needs to get better tampons or pads. But nothing ever changes, she still consistently leaves blood stains when she is here on her period.

I was not exactly sure what to do about it and I ended up saying that while she’s on her period it’s best if we stay at her apartment. I know that may sound bad and she definitely took it badly but I’m not sure what other solution there is here. She told a couple of her friends about it and made it sound misogynistic like I was banishing her because she’s unclean or something. But really I just don’t want my furniture to keep getting ruined. I like her a lot and would love to have her back over when she’s maybe found a better way to manage her period. AITAH?