u/Different-Celery-743

I'll try and keep this short. 16 days ago I picked up my first foster from the county shelter. I also have a 1.5 year old pittie. I soon learned after bringing my foster home he has severe separation anxiety. He has and will destroy doors/crate to get to me. The shelter vet gave me trazodone, but it doesn't help.

This has been a nightmare, but I've held on for my foster dog.

1. I can't leave the house or even take more than a quick 5 minute shower due to his separation anxiety. I'm literally out of groceries (I have no outside support to help with the dogs).

2. 16 days and every second of every day my dog acts like my foster just showed up. I spend all my time getting my pup to leave my foster dog alone other than designated play times. My dog wants to play 24/7 and even if I put my foster behind a gate, my foster panics and tries to destroy. I give my dog alone time in my room, but I'm not going to keep my dog cooped up in my room all day.

3. The shelter has not only sucked at communication, they have danm near HINDERED the process of ME getting my foster adopted. I made him social media and people expressed interest. Then I find out the link isn't working to apply to adopt him. It took them 2 days to get back to me and tell me they only accept one application at a time, thats why the link wouldn't work. The person that applied decided they didn't want him 😞

Also, I asked them 3 days after he arrived at my house to find a new foster, they sent out one email and haven't heard anything about it since. When I ask, they say they are looking and I can return him to the shelter if I'd like. He gets very sick from stress in the shelter and won't eat.

The dogs are taken care of and happy, but I am beyond spent and drowning. I work from home and I am unable to get any work done but a few hours a day. It's affecting my income.

I feel horrible if I take him back to the shelter, I fear he will just die there.

I guess that's my vent. I don't know what to do otherwise at this point. I can't carry on like this.

This is my first time fostering. It's through my local county shelter. I've been working hard trying to get him adopted on social media. Today someone messaged me saying they were interested in adopting him, but the adoption page is gone. He is still listed as for adoption, but when you click the link to apply, he is not available to choose from. I tried getting ahold of the foster team to ask, but haven't heard back? I don't want him to miss out on a possible adoption. What does this mean? Did they approve someone and I just haven't been told yet?

I picked up my first foster from the shelter 5 days ago. He is an 8yo German shepherd. He's is such a good boy other than one huge issue, he has severe separation anxiety and a phobia of confined spaces. I lured him into his kennel on day one to run to the store. Within 10 minutes the bars were bent on the kennel from him trying to escape and I no longer felt safe to put him in the kennel. Next day, I put him in my spacious bathroom, made it all comfy for him while I took my resident dog out to play. 10 minutes later I went to check on him and he tore down the whole inside of my bathroom door. He nervously follows me everywhere and any time I try to go in another room (like showering) he panics and tries to break down the door. I talked to the vet at the shelter about this and they put him on trazodone for anxiety, but it hasn't helped with the separation anxiety.

I can't leave him home alone for fear he will destroy my house or hurt himself. I work from home, but I really need to go grocery shopping and such!

Other than this, he is a complete angel. The most gentle giant I've ever met.

I'm hoping a more seasoned foster parent has some advice for me.

This will be my second order from aliexpress and my second time ordering these items. I ordered a total of 20 items in two separate transactions. Everything was shipped under the same tracking number. Received the package today and 7 out of my 20 items are not in the package. I check the app, and it says all 20 items were delivered in the package I received.

I talked to support and they are going to get back to me.

Is there any hope a second package with my 7 missing items will be arriving in the next few days?