People who faced family pressure to end a relationship: what happened in the end?
I really need some outside perspective because I feel completely lost right now.
My boyfriend is 19 and I'm 22. We're both pursuing CA and still have around 2 years left before our final exams.
My boyfriend's parents recently found out about our relationship. Since then, things have become very serious. They scolded and physically beat him, told him to leave Mumbai and move back to his hometown, and want him to continue his articleship there instead.
His father and sister have also contacted me directly through calls and messages, asking me to cut all contact with him. They warned me that if I continued talking to him, they would contact my parents as well.
The thing is, I'm willing to deal with all of that if my boyfriend still wants to be with me. I am completely okay with a long-distance relationship if that's what it takes.
However, his parents take away his phone at night, check his messages, and have even deleted all of our photos and memories from his phone. Some of our mutual friends have advised us not to stay in touch for a while because they think it will make the situation worse.
It's been around 15 days, and I honestly haven't been coping well. I cry almost every day, keep thinking about him constantly, and feel helpless because I don't know whether giving him space is the right thing to do or whether I'm just slowly losing him.
One thing that makes this even harder is that we're both at a crucial stage of our careers. We still have about 2 years before becoming CAs, and neither of us is fully independent yet. Because of that, I understand why his family has concerns, but the way everything has happened has been overwhelming.
For people who have gone through strict family opposition, family pressure, or forced long-distance situations:
- Did things eventually get better?
- Should I respect the temporary no-contact advice, or is that a mistake?
- How do I deal with the anxiety of not knowing what's going to happen?
- If you've been in a situation where parents forced a relationship to end, what happened in the long run?
I would really appreciate honest advice and experiences from people who have been in similar situations.