u/Different_Clue_2864

I’ve been seeing a lot of posts online saying most men never experience being “wanted” or chased, and it got me thinking.

I’m 25, and honestly, I’ve never really felt that from the opposite gender. Other than my mom, I’ve never had someone show clear interest first.

I’ve spent years trying to improve myself. I worked hard, got a good degree, built a stable job. I take care of how I dress, stay in shape, and go to the gym regularly. I wouldn’t say I’m a bad-looking guy either.

I also read a lot of discussions here and on other forums, try to learn from people’s experiences, and keep working on myself every day.

But despite all that, I’ve never really felt wanted.

Is this just normal for most guys, or does it change at some point?

I’ve been seeing a lot of posts online saying most men never experience being “wanted” or chased, and it got me thinking.

I’m 25, and honestly, I’ve never really felt that from the opposite gender. Other than my mom, I’ve never had someone show clear interest first.

I’ve spent years trying to improve myself. I worked hard, got a good degree, built a stable job. I take care of how I dress, stay in shape, and go to the gym regularly. I wouldn’t say I’m a bad-looking guy either.

I also read a lot of discussions here and on other forums, try to learn from people’s experiences, and keep working on myself every day.

But despite all that, I’ve never really felt wanted.

Is this just normal for most guys, or does it change at some point?

I (M25) think I hit a breaking point today.

I’ve always tried to do things right. Got a good degree, built a stable job, go to the gym almost every day. A big reason for that was my uncle. He never found the right person and ended up single, and growing up I told myself that wouldn’t be me.

But today messed with my head a bit.

At the gym I saw couples, and also a few guys around my age who just looked really low. I ended up talking to one guy, he’s 29, and he said he’s been trying for years but still doesn’t know if he’ll ever find someone.

That stuck with me.

It’s been about 6 years since my last relationship. In the past 3 months, I’ve asked two women out. One said no, the other gave me her number but never replied.

I’ve been working on myself for years, not just physically but overall. And still, I can’t shake this feeling that maybe I’m heading down the same path I was trying to avoid.

Has anyone else felt like this? Does it get better?

I (M25) think I hit a breaking point today.

I’ve always tried to do things right. Got a good degree, built a stable job, go to the gym almost every day. A big reason for that was my uncle. He never found the right person and ended up single, and growing up I told myself that wouldn’t be me.

But today messed with my head a bit.

At the gym I saw couples, and also a few guys around my age who just looked really low. I ended up talking to one guy, he’s 29, and he said he’s been trying for years but still doesn’t know if he’ll ever find someone.

That stuck with me.

It’s been about 6 years since my last relationship. In the past 3 months, I’ve asked two women out. One said no, the other gave me her number but never replied.

I’ve been working on myself for years, not just physically but overall. And still, I can’t shake this feeling that maybe I’m heading down the same path I was trying to avoid.

Has anyone else felt like this? Does it get better?